I share my wedding date with.......

[rainbowtreat]

I stopped off tonight to visit my ex-mother-in-law, we still talk because of the kids and her and I always got and still do get along great. She is and always will be like a second mom to me. Any how.... her and I were talking and I found out that my ex's sister is getting married on June 10th as well and my ex is giving her away. Now I dont want to sound conceted or anything but I know my ex and what he went through trying to get over me when we split. He knows I am getting remarried and he is living with his GF. But I know there is still soemthing there. I haven't told him yet when Nicholas and I are getting married. He knows we are just doesnt know when. Well he may soon cause his mom knows now. She asked if he knew. I have a feeling he may not enjoy his sisters wedding and giving her away as much as he might have if he knows I am getting married that same day. I hope this isint sounding like I am being conceted cause I am not. I just know how he is and every one in my family and his will tell you he will never be totally over me. I was his first love and we were together for 12 years and married almost 5 yrs. We have alot of history and it hurt him more then it did me when we split. It was all my doing and he wanted no part of it. He was not even there for the divorce. I hope his mom doesnt tell him for the fact that I want him to enjoy the day and not be thinking about me. In a way I know he will be. OK I know how I sound but I know where I stand and where I am coming from as well. So you can just ignore this post as I am just typing away as I think. I love my FH with more then words can ever say. He is the one I am supposed to be with. I just dont hate my ex and I hate that he hurt like he did for so long. I hate hurting people. But I have to think for myself at times and that was what I did. OK I am done rambling now. Sorry guys.

[WebLady]

It is nice that you can still talk to his mom and that you wish well for him ... it shows that you are a good person. But you can't worry about him, he will be fine I am sure.

I haven't seen or spoken to my ex in several years and I don't want to, but we don't have anything that ties us together anymore. No, I don't hate him and I do wish him well, but I don't care to ever see him again. I know he went from crying over me to cursing my name and telling lies about me :bbrolleyes: Whatever made him sleep better at night I said. I do secretly wish he could see DH and I together and see that we are happy and my life is better without him. (he used to say I'd be nothing without him) I don't want to see him or talk to him, I just want to know that he knows. There are a couple of old 'friends' I feel this way about as well. Is that bad? OK, sorry for rambling on there, back to you ...

Yeah, I would try to put your ex out of your mind. You can have a social relationship with him for the kids but he isn't even your friend anymore, right? So wish him well but don't loose sleep over what he is doing or what he may be going through. Enjoy your happiness with your honey and try not to dwell on the past. (I know I need to do that too ;))

[LaceyinPgh]

You can't let him ruin your day. That isn't fair to you. If he would rather pine away after you than enjoy his sisters wedding, sadly that is his choice. The only thing you can do is focus on yourself and how happy you are to finally get to marry Nicholas.

[Kacie_bride]

I think either his mother or the kids will end up telling him anyway. Well, with the kids, it depends on how old they are. It might just be better if you are that worried about him to tell him. It might be better to hear it from you. It sounds like you still respect him. But this is just my opinion and what I would do. You should do what feels right for you.