Wedding V. School

[MrsDM]

Ok, so up until a few days ago, I was going to finish up my Associates Degree slowly and finish it the semester after we get married, so Fall 2009 and then go somewhere warm in Jan/Feb/March 2010. Well…I found out this week that 6 credits from previous coursework at a different college transferred and after summer (I’m taking 6 credits), I will have 22 credits left.

I’m confused because my original thought of taking it slow was to enjoy the wedding planning process, but I’m at a year a four months until the wedding, I don’t know what has to be done and when and when the stress really starts piling on. I know where are other brides in school here, and I just want to see how you are handling both?

[LadyDante]

I'm going to have my wedding same weekend as I graduate. Thankfully I have over a year to plan, and my FH is being a big help. I found a checklist of everything that I need to do online, and tailored it to fit what I need. Now I'm slowly working through it. I am also checking on as many things ahead of time so I can slowly get whatever DIY projects I need to make thougout the year and not go completely crazy. Plus, I'm making the wedding pretty simple. And the places where we will have ceremony and reception, the staff there is fantastic.

[WBandMe]

I am a few hours away from home finishing up my bachelor's, and it is difficult. We're having a long engagement so we're getting a lot of planning done without the stress of major time constraints, but it's hard to handle both. My fiance has had to do some things by himself (like tour and book the chapel) which I'm not happy about, because I feel like I'm not very involved in the planning process. Also, I find that I'd much much much rather look up wedding stuff than do homework--to the point where I'm really NOT getting things done that I need to. I still have one semester left and I think it will be even more difficult then because it will be so much closer to the wedding and I'll have to coordinate dress-shopping and stuff for when I'm home. It's not easy but many of the brides here have jobs, children, school, whatnot, and it works out. You just have to budget your time.

[Kirby]

It's not easy, that's for sure! I'm having my wedding in August so that I have May-July to work on the details. Right now I mostly do wedding stuff on the weekends unless I am too tired, then I do nothing! I also find myself doing wedding planning in spurts. When I have a lot of stuff going on at school I take a short break from the wedding and try to concentrate on getting my school work done. When there's not as must going on for school I cram to get some wedding stuff done.

I don't think that I would ever recommend someone to plan a wedding while in school, especially if they also have a job. (I have two) It is just way too stressful and it's hard to focus on school when you are excited about a wedding!

[RosieAngel]

It's not easy, but it can be done! I'm starting the final two terms of my community college education (before transfer) right when the wedding is going on! But I'm determined to keep going. I'm selecting a special schedule for my wedding term with slightly fewer classes, teachers I know and like who I have already built up a good reputation with, and, when possible, classes that only meet once a week to minimize absences. I think the most important thing is communicating with your professors, explaining that you're planning your wedding so you're going to be especially stressed and you might have to miss a few classes. I don't know about you, but most of my teachers already married (and some are more than happy to share their advice), so they know what we brides-to-be are going through.

[LadyDante]

Hell, I feel odd now. I almost feel like the wedding is not such a big deal to plan. At least the way it seems to be turning out for me. I have an idea for the venue and will book it as soon as I know my grad date. I got a band lined up. Catering comes with the venue. Figured out that I'm getting a cake at Costco, with just a small cake being from a baker. Decor will be ordered from a website I found. The dress, I will find in the next couple of months. Veil I'll order after I find a dress. Shoes will be a bit of pain in the ***, but doable. Scott's getting his clothing together. Rings I'll pick up in about a year during my lunch break. Marriage license we'll get a month before. And throughout the year my mother and I can spend a few days going through stores finding little things we need, like goblets, cameras, favors.
I mean, am I completely crazy, am I forgetting big things? Or has I actually finally gone semi-sane

[WBandMe]

I mean, am I completely crazy, am I forgetting big things? Or has I actually finally gone semi-sane

You're not completely crazy--if things are going smoothly for you, you are a lucky duck! Just make sure to remember the little things too... like will your venue allow you to bring in a cake from Costco? At least one of the ones we're looking at requires that any cake is brought in by a certified bakery, same with florist. So like I said, I wouldn't worry about missing the big things, but keep an eye out for little ones!

[MrsDM]

Right now I mostly do wedding stuff on the weekends unless I am too tired, then I do nothing! I also find myself doing wedding planning in spurts. When I have a lot of stuff going on at school I take a short break from the wedding and try to concentrate on getting my school work done. When there's not as must going on for school I cram to get some wedding stuff done.

This is what I have beeb doing so far. It's been working, but I'm just afraid that as I get closer to the wedding, its going to get harder and harder. I'm really organized and like to plan in advance, so it may work out that I will be fine, but I don't know, a part of me just wants to enjoy it but I know that not everyday there will be stuff to get done.