Should I fire my MOH and BM??

[sarahr]

I just dont get it. I am having the same problemas Lacey. I am only having my sis as my MOH and my cousin as BM. Also having a flower girl. My sis and cuz are so caught up in their own lives they have no time to help. I feel the wedding plans have been nothing but stressful and disappointing. Also to top it off mu cuz thinks she will be getting engaged very soon and might have her wedding this summer also!! I just cant understand it. My mother is not in my life but my FMIL has been very supportive. I want to go away but my FMIL would be upset so we wont do that to her. My FH wants to have no attendants, just FG and RB. I think I am going to tell my sis and cuz we just decided not to have anyone. Would that be mean. I mentioned it to my sister and she almost seemed releaved!!

[WebLady]

... My FH wants to have no attendants, just FG and RB. I think I am going to tell my sis and cuz we just decided not to have anyone. Would that be mean. I mentioned it to my sister and she almost seemed releaved!!

I don't think it would be mean at all. If you feel they are not going to be helpful, loving and supportive then well, I think you answered your own question.

Sadly, we see this kind of thing alot ... good luck hun.

[CindySue]

Sorry you are having problems with your attendants. I also had problems with mine, but Brian and I nixed all attendents except for our children. That actually helped with my stress some.

[sarahr]

Thanks for the advice...I think we will have to nix the attendants...I am diasappointed but I feel this is all more of a pain for them anyways. This way my FH will be happy to. He wanted it to be just him and I anyways....I should haved listened...who knew it would be so much stress....I'm so glad others understand where I am coming from..you are the only support I have had...besides my FH and FMIL...His support makes me realize even more how much I mean to him!!:)

[Kacie_bride]

If they are not doing what they are supposed to do and it doesn't feel right anymore, then get rid of them. It's not worth them ruining your day.

[officiant-fica]

We had only two attendants. MOH and best man. Pretty simple. You can legally have anyone who witnessed the wedding sign as your witnesses. They do not have to be standing next to you. If you don't want attendants, don't have them. It's probably better to deal with it now than to regret it later

[Mary maguire]

I defo think you should fire them. Especially as you wont be replacing them it will be ok. I bet they would do the same if you were unsupportive, but you sound like the type that would be supportive to other people..

[sarahr]

Yeah and now one of them who is standing up might be getting married a month or two after me. She just got engaged. I know she will probably ask me to stand up, which I dont mind, I would be supportive, But how am I going to help her plan her wedding when I am planning my own? It will be crazy!!

[Mary maguire]

http://forums.onewed.com/images/icons/icon1.gif Bridesmaid issues
I have 4 bridesmaids, one of them is getting married this year also(1 mnth fter me). I have been planning my wedding for the last 2 years. She only decided to marry last month and it was after I asked her to be bridesmaid. She is now dictating what I can have at my wedding because she wants it. For Example I cant have the colour bridesmaid dress I want the girls to wear at my wedding as she said its too close to the colour of her own wedding dress and doesnt want her man to see her in that colour. I have already bought the dresses, she said I was selfish as I bought them after she picked her wedding dress..her dress in Mocha and my bridesmaids are biscuit colour...What should I do I feel like just telling her not to bother being my bridesmaid:bbcry: ..