My Appointment Today

[officiant-fica]

Today was my four week post-op check up. I'm ok to return to work with few restrictions on the 13th. Although I need to get back to work., I dread the thought. A manager trainee was assigned my position while I was gone and my department has suffered!So back to the appointment. The doc has offered us a "secong opinion" of sorts. Something about injecting dye into my uterus (sorry if this is TMI) anyway, he says it is very painful and we we will have to wait six months before we can have the proceedure done. My problem is that I'm not sure I want to go through a painful proceedure to find out "if" we can have more kids. Part of me just wants to leave well enough alone. It's strange, but I never really wanted kids. After my daughter I was OK with one but thought maybe one more some time in the future. After my DH I had two miscarriages, which kinda increased my desire to have another child. Now I'm stuck with a decision that I don't want to make. I scared it could go either way. Anyway, I just needed to get it out. Thanks for "listening"
On a lighter note, I finally went to change my name at the social security office today. I've had everything else changed, but I was putting it off. So I brought every important documant with my name on it I could find. One was my divorce papers. LOL My divorce was final on 3/3/0, I thought it was ironic.

[andysgirl07]

Hey Audrey, it sounds like the procedure he's talking about is called an HSG (hysterosalpingogram). This basically checks to make sure your fallopian tubes are open. From what I've heard about the procedure, most women experience cramping as the dye is injected (sometimes heavy cramping, especially if you have a lot of cramping during your period). And some studies showed that some of the women got pregnant after the HSG because the dye "forced" the tubes open, if something was blocking them to begin with. (My aunt had this done in case you were wondering). Okay, enough medical **** - I am so sorry you're going through this. I can't even begin to imagine what it's like. I hope you can come to a decision that makes you both happy. We're all here for you!

[WebLady]

Well, I know I couldn't go through a painful (and likely costly) procedure for just a maybe. I can understand the desire to have a child of your own but, at what cost? (cost as in emotional, physical and financial strain) If I were in your situation, I would look into adoption if you and your husband wanted to have a child. There are plenty of kids out there that need a loving home.

But, that is just my opinion ... I wish you the best in whatever it is you decide to do :D


Glad to hear you got the name change stuff taken care of ... I know when I got married to my DH I was SO glad to get rid of my ex's last name ;)

[officiant-fica]

Well, I know I couldn't go through a painful (and likely costly) procedure for just a maybe. I can understand the desire to have a child of your own but, at what cost? (cost as in emotional, physical and financial strain) If I were in your situation, I would look into adoption if you and your husband wanted to have a child. There are plenty of kids out there that need a loving home.

But, that is just my opinion ... I wish you the best in whatever it is you decide to do :D


Glad to hear you got the name change stuff taken care of ... I know when I got married to my DH I was SO glad to get rid of my ex's last name ;)

More than anything I hate to "emotionally invest' any more into this. I think that I will just put it to the back of my mind for awhile and reacess the situation later. Too much to think about!
In michiagn (I'm sure about other states) When you divorce you can change any part or all of your name after divorce. I changed mine back to my birth name, so Ihaven't had to use my ex's name is six years!
And thanks to both of you! I just needed to get it out to calm my self.

[WhiskeyGirl]

I've also heard about this procedure and most likely will be going through it myself very soon!! (My DH and I also suffer from infertility!) My cousin inlaw had this procedure done, she said it was a little uncomfortable and she had a little cramping, but it wasn't terriable and they reallly want to find out if they can have children!! (most people recommend taking a OTC painkiller like ibuprofen before the procedure and then its not so bad!!) I'm sorry that you have to go through this, I understand how you might feel to a degree! I guess you just have to stop and think about where you want this to go! Do you want to go through life wondering if you had the test done, maybe you could have gotten Pregnant again or do you want to go through life with "what ifs"?? Is this doctor a Reproductive Endocronologist? Just your regular GP or other wise?? If they are just your Regular GP, I might recommend that you see someone who specialises in reproductive technology!! And even if your tubes are blocked, you may still have the chance to do Invetro Fertilization!! I wish you and your husband all the best!! If you would like PM and I can give you a forum website for you to check out and chat with ladies who are experiencing the same things as you!! Take care!!

[WebLady]

More than anything I hate to "emotionally invest' any more into this. I think that I will just put it to the back of my mind for awhile and reacess the situation later. Too much to think about!
Maybe that is best for now

... In michiagn (I'm sure about other states) When you divorce you can change any part or all of your name after divorce. I changed mine back to my birth name, so Ihaven't had to use my ex's name is six years!
Yeah, here you can change your name after divorce but, it has to be stated in the divorce degree what your intentions are. I don't know that at the time and I had alot of debt and thought it was too much hassle to deal with at first, but I knew I wanted to change my name just not right away. Well, my :censored: lawyer didn't tell me it would cause problems later ... I was told I would had to have petitioned the court to amend the original agreement or file an official name change, either option would have cost me money, and/or had to have me deal with my ex again and I didn't want to do that. So I just let it go and I had to live with my ex's name until DH and I got married.

And thanks to both of you! I just needed to get it out to calm my self. Your Very Welcome! We are here for you to vent ;) Best wishes :hug:

[Jenn060306]

I'm sorry to hear that you are having a difficult time. It is very tough. My mom waited until she was 30 to have a family. She had me and my brother with a miscariage between.
I wish you and your husband the best. The proceedure may be difficult but may be worth it if you are going to get more information on what's happening.