I Can't Win

[Shawna Bride]

It seems as if any decision I make upsets one side of the family.
In Jewish tradition the family sits at the head table, in Christian tradition, the Bridal party sits at the head table.
If I had it my way I'd have my family up there, because to me, I care more about my family than my friends. To my MiL she feels as if the Bridal party have put so much effort and money into being part of the wedding that they should be honored by sitting at the head table.
I don't know what to do. I keep flip flopping my decision, and my FH feels like I"m not including him in the decisions, but all I'm trying to do is make everyone happy.
It just can't be easy can it?

[StaceyMc]

Can you have two head tables? Maybe one with you and your new husband sitting with your families. And then have you wedding party sitting at another "head table". Maybe something like this: / \ but pulled up a little more. That way, everyone is at the head table and everyone can be happy.

[CindySue]

Can you have two head tables? Maybe one with you and your new husband sitting with your families. And then have you wedding party sitting at another "head table". Maybe something like this: / \ but pulled up a little more. That way, everyone is at the head table and everyone can be happy.

Stacey...I cant give you a rep point because i have to spread the love, but I was about to suggest the EXACT SAME THING!!! Just put 2 tables together.....VOILA!!! Room for everybody!

[Shawna Bride]

The only thing with having tables like a V, would be that we have an area in which the head table would be on that is elevated (like a stage but not as high), and 2 long tables wouldn't fit....
On the riser, a table of 12 would fit.
What about one head table on the riser, and one table in front of it on the ground?

I don't know, but I just want EVERYONE to be happy!

[Jenn060306]

What about one head table on the riser, and one table in front of it on the ground?

I don't know, but I just want EVERYONE to be happy!

I have seen that before and i think that would be a really nice compremise for the situation. You and you're bridal party could sit at the table on the floor and have you're family on the table behind you to honor them.
Good luck! I hope it all works out for you!

[The Wedding Diva]

I have seen that done too, and think I even have a picture of it. I will come and add it for you if I can find it.

If worse comes to worse, have a sweetheart table.

[The Wedding Diva]

http://usera.imagecave.com/Honey/Wedding/52.jpg


Here is an idea...

Or instead have just one table on the rise and the other on the floor.

I hope this helps with the visual.

[WebLady]

I like the idea 'The Wedding Diva' showed the pic of ... put the parents on the back tables and the wedding party on the lower tables. I have seen weddings were they just have the bride and groom at a special table (a 'sweet heart' table) and I have seen some have the long head tables.

The wedding I am helping with this month is having the wedding party at the head table with the bride and groom then having the 4 tables closest to the head table and dance floor reserved for family.

Remember that this whole this is suppose to be a party and a celebration of your new marriage ... does it really matter all that much who sits where? But I know weddings can get like that sometimes. I hope it works out for you.

[andysgirl07]

I think that's a really good idea, and that picture is so pretty. Maybe seating the family and bridal party like that would help pacify everyone. But of course there's no way you're going to make everyone happy. This is your and your FH's day - do what makes you two happy, and everyone else should fall in line.

[WhiskeyGirl]

I would put one table up on the riser with you and your groom with either your BP or your parents and then have a table infront not on a riser with the people you don't have sitting with you...that way there are no arguments and you can honor them all!! best of luck!!

PS Shawna how are you feeling??

[LaceyinPgh]

Do what I am doing, just get rid of the head table. No head table, no arguments about who gets to sit there right? Sean and I are sitting at a table for two. Each set of parents get a table of 10 to "host" and our bridal party is just scattered about the room at the regular guest tables. OUr coordinator actually recommended it to us because being at such a small table will limit the amount of people that can come up to "talk" while we are trying to eat.

By the way this is your wedding, not your your family's or his family's. Do what YOU want to do. Just don't tell people if you feel they are going to impress their opinion. If they still feel the need to offer it, ask them when it became THEIR big day.