Bridesmaids

[HisMuse]

I'm so frustrated that they aren't help my MOH at all. I mean I feel bad that they have to put in time and money for my sake but they should have known better before they agreed to it.

I was thinking about my BM who is not returning my MOH's calls and not offering to help financially. About a year ago I did almost ALL of her baby shower. I put in a lot of money towards food and decorations and I also got her a nice gift.

My other BM is pregnant, just bought a house and is a little further away (but not all that far away). I still think she should help, just because she's pregnant doesn't mean she can't try to contribute in some way.

I told my MOH today that she can kick some butt if she wants, she has my permission. I just hate to think they are going to be pissy when all of this comes down.

Has anyone else had to deal with this?

[Blusher]

I don't really know how to deal w/ this.
Are you're BM's friends or a do they only know eachother through you. I think if they were friends (outside of you) then your MOH should just say "Hey! Listen up! Y'all need to help!!' but if they don't really know eachother that might be weird.

Hope you get this all worked out

[HisMuse]

Well they know of each other but they don't interract. They are mostly friends through me and I think 2 of them (MOH and the one I threw the baby shower for) don't like each other.

[dawsmi]

I know exactly how you feel!! None of my wedding party helped at all with any of the wedding plans or anything financially and complained about the dress' and the color........... the list goes on!! You should be happy that your MOH is at least helping because mine wouldn't and she is my sister!! I don't know what to tell you as to what to do because I couldn't even get mine in order! But I want to wish you luck and don't let it stress you out! It will get done regardless so just take things as they come and enjoy every moment because it is one day and it doesn't last long! The day will fly by!! Good luck and congrats!!!

[HisMuse]

Dawn - That's awful, I'm sorry. I guess I never imagined people would be this selfish and rude. I kind of knew this BM would not be the most helpful of the bunch but when push came to shove I thought she'd step up, particularly since I did for her.

[dawsmi]

Dawn - That's awful, I'm sorry. I guess I never imagined people would be this selfish and rude. I kind of knew this BM would not be the most helpful of the bunch but when push came to shove I thought she'd step up, particularly since I did for her.

Ya you would think so but they can be pretty selfish sometimes!! Just stick with your guns and don't push her too much because it is one day and you don't want to loose a friendship over it! If it weren't my sister then I would have cut her altogether but since she was my sister I had to grin and bare her abuse!! Her boyfriend actually threatened to beat me up over the dress thing!! How stupid is that!!!

[HisMuse]

That's insane. I actually would considering dropping her from the wedding if she hadn't already purchased the dress.

[dawsmi]

That's insane. I actually would considering dropping her from the wedding if she hadn't already purchased the dress.

Ya exactly what my problem was!! But it is all over and done with now and I am married and I am happy that I don't have to deal with this again!! Th day in the end turned out perfectly and that is all that matters in the end!!!

[HisMuse]

So true, I just feel bad for my MOH.

[dawsmi]

Ya me too!! She is putting in all this effort and not getting anything back from the BM's! A retured or answered phone call would be a start!!!

[HisMuse]

MOH is really pissed off that one of the BMs never askes her questions directly but goes through me. I promised her I would start directing all questions to MOH instead of getting them the answers myself.

[Danielle9608]

Maybe you could get everyone together for a lunch. Say the lunch is so you can go over "details". During lunch just nonchalantly say I appreciate everyones help so far but its crunch time and we need to all work together, like a little pep talk :) This also might give them an opportunity to chat and get to know each other more and feel comfortable with one another. I hope this all works out for you. :flower:

[HisMuse]

We had a lunch back when we all went to try on dresses, nobody has any free time. But maybe at the bridal shower she can get more help for the bachelorette party.