FMiL Relationship

[Jenn060306]

Do you ever feel like you talk to you FMiL or MiL more then your other half does?!
My FH has a good relationship with his mom, but they don't talk very often. She hardly ever calls here, and he hardly ever calls her. I know they exchange the occasional e-mail but it seems a bit odd to me at times.
lately i've found i've been asking him to call his mom because i have questions about things for the wedding, and he hasn't been doing it. (I think he forgets) I am a little apprehensive to call since i know he hasn't called in so long. So i've taken to e-mailing her about some of the questions i have.
I'm not really sure what to do. Should i call her anyways? Let them sort it out?
Am i worrying to much about nothing?! I do tend to worry to much at times. I just don't want to hurt her feelings because i am talking to her more about the wedding then her son is.

[CindySue]

When Brian's mom calls the house, I usually end up talking to her way more than he does. And if Im able to give her all the information she may be needing, she may not talk to him at all. I love this woman dearly and value the relationship I have with her. She has welcomed me with open arms.

[LaceyinPgh]

I talk to my fmil on a must to basis. And usually then I try to get it done through email. I don't know how often she calls Sean since a lot of the time ahe calls his office. I know if I see his parents' home or cell numbers on the caller ID I tell him it is for him and won't pick it up. Theo nly time I actually do pick up and it is one of them is when I am in the game room and the called ID doesn't work on the phone there. But, they very rarely call the house.

[CindySue]

Jenn......Brian actually likes it that I talk to his mom. They have a good relationship, he just doesnt call her that much. I dont hesitate to call her when I want to ask something.

[countrygirl]

My FMiL calls, and I talk to her more than Josh does too. That' just because the two of us love to talk on the phone. My ex's mom and I didn't talk unless he had to....love to hate thing...

[CindySue]

My FMiL calls, and I talk to her more than Josh does too. That' just because the two of us love to talk on the phone. My ex's mom and I didn't talk unless he had to....love to hate thing...

I was that way with my XMiL too. I hated that woman and she hated me. Only she did like me better than her son most of the time. I can tolerate her now and we get along. I guess its because I dont HAVE to be around her unless I want to be and I think she knows that.

[countrygirl]

My XMiL and also get along better now, we stay in contact because of my son, her only grandchild. Neither of us are in contact w my son's father, and we just won't go there. We have learned that we don't like eachother, but we can still get along.

[WhiskeyGirl]

I don't talk with my MIL on the phone....maybe its the her not being able to really speak english thing...lol. Yes, thats probably it!!! I love my MIL, and just find it easier to talk to her when we are in person, that way I can use my hands and do actions to get my point across!! I usually won't answer the phone if I see that its them calling either, but thats because its akward and I hate that akwardness!! lol

[countrygirl]

What language does she speak? Or did you already tell us that??

[WhiskeyGirl]

What language does she speak? Or did you already tell us that??

They came from Germany six or seven years ago. I would like to learn but it is like the hardest language I have ever heard!! lol...I know a lot of words, I just don't know how to use them!! lol...most times I can catch the jidst of what is being said!! My (Evil) SIL learned how to speak German, but I think its just so she can be nosey!! My DH says that I can pronounce the things I know better then when the SIL speaks German!! His mom loves it when I do speak German, its mostly with coaching from the DH but I actually really enjoy it!! I'm thinking about finding a course to take but since we moved I've had other prioritys!! lol

[Jenn060306]

Ok.... so i won't worry so much about it.

My FMiL loooooooves to talk! We have a joke between Mark and i that you have to get ready to talk on the phone with her because it's usually about an hour that you're on the phone. The conversations are always great!

[WhiskeyGirl]

Anyone who can speak with their MIL's on the phone are so very lucky!! I would love to be able to speak with my MIL on the phone, espicially now that we live 6 1/2 hours away!!

[countrygirl]

I have it pretty good w my FMiL. I have talked to her alot, though I haven't met her yet, but when Josh put me on the phone to tell her that he proposed (which she secretly knew about), she said that she was very happy, and told me that she loved me. I finally get to meet her in person later this month.

[CindySue]

Brians mother loves to talk too and I love to talk to her. I was in love with her from the first time I met her. She was in on my Birthday/Engagement surprise too.

[countrygirl]

Josh told his mom about a week before, and she couldn't be happier. It really makes me feel good because my x's mother hated me. She said that I was the worst thing to happen to her son, and even chest bumped me to try to get me to hit her so she could have me arrested.

[Jenn060306]

I met Mark's mom on our first date. She drove me home. LOL. Ah.... Highschool.
I never really found out if they were happy or not that we were engaged but she and Mark's step dad have made it very clear that if he breaks my heart they will break him. So i'm pretty sure they like me. Plus i was invited to go dress shopping with my FMiL when she was looking for her wedding dress and have had dinner at their house without Mark. :D

[rainbowtreat]

I had a great relationship with my ex mil. We did every thign together. And becasue of the kids we still tend to talk alot. I can't drop th ekids off or pick them up from her without talking for atleast 20 mins or so. Now for my FMIL, well we never ealy talked. If she called when Nichoals was at work all she would say was to tell him to give her call when he got home. I did meet her. Once, for about a total of 4 or 5 hours. but we never realy talked. There were others around and she hadn't seen her son in 5 months so she focused on him alot. But she did hug me when we fist met. But since Nicholas told her we were getting married and I asked her in e-mail about pictures of him as he was growing up for somethign I wanted to do for him as a secret. She has called and we have talked a couple of times. I told Nicholas all it took for his mom to talk to me was to tell her we were getting married. I don;t think the relationship will ever be much more then a hello on the phone from time to time. ( unless we have a baby ) but it's ok with me. I have Nicholas and I hav emy mom. We are very close.

[Jenn060306]

I think i will be closer with Mark's parents after we get married. Not that i'm not already, but i think it will change. Mark is really close with his sisters. His order sister and her husband are pretty much our best friends. I think when we move back, closer to home we will do much more with them.