reception

[sharon]

my mom is great, all except one thing....she wants to have our wedding reception in a different location than the church. my fiance and i would like to have it at the church. since she is paying for the whole thing, i hate to complain too much. should we just keep quiet and enjoy or make a fuss and have it where we want it. either place, im sure she will make it nice for us.

[CindySue]

Is there a particular reason why she doesnt want it at the church? Maybe she wants to be able to serve alcohol and I believe that would be a no-no. I dont think you can even toast with champagne at the church, but I could be wrong. She may just want to make this really special and some of the things she wants to do wouldnt be allowed.

[ikkin510]

Sharon, I sort of know where you are coming from. My parents are paying for my entire wedding also. The one thing to remember is that it is your wedding. It is great your mom wants to help, but if you don't like something, speak up! Ask her why she wants the reception in a seperate place. Maybe she has a reason you did not think of. Also explain why you want the reception in the church. I hope this helps out a little bit. My mom and I not seen eye to eye on a couple things in the planning. But normally, once we talk it out, we come to a conclusion we can both be happy with.

[CarlosHoney]

Talk to her, but listen to what she says. She might have something in mind that you didn't think of.

[WebLady]

First off, Welcome to the board!! :D

I would try to talk nicely to your mom and tell her your feelings and ask if she is attached to having the reception at another location. Like the other girls said, she may want to serve alcohol or do something else that you can't do at a church reception. I am sure she wants to make it great for you.

:goodluck:

[StaceyMc]

I would definately talk to her and find out her reasons for wanting to have the reception elsewhere and I would tell her why you and your FH would like to have the reception at the church. I don't really think it should matter who is paying for the reception, you should have a say in it too.

My FH and I are having the reception at the church and the only thing we're not permitted to do is have alcohol, which wasn't a big deal for us anyways - we're not into paying for someone else's drunken night out. We'll have a toast with sparkling cider or something.

[Shawna Bride]

I've been battling issues with Mothers my entire wedding! It's hard when your parents are kind enough to offer to pay for the wedding, but you feel obligated to please them every step of the way. What I wish we did was have the parents 'donate' the amount they were willing to spend into a pot, and then we could use it as we saw fit. Either way we would look for their advice, but at least it would have been easier and not such an uphill battle.

You need to decide what is important to you and non-negotiable, and what you are more flexible on. It's a give and take thing that needs to be handled carefully so no feelings are hurt.