mindi_lynn
03-13-2008, 02:44 PM
I don't even know where to begin with my FMIL. My FH and I have been together for over 7 years. I have never really gotten a good vibe off of FMIL even though she would always act as if she liked me. After getting to know her she is a huge story teller and thrives off drama. If it isn't her way it is nobody's way and it is always about her and how she is the victum of every situation. She puts us into situations that we don't need to be put into. We were generous enough to store some of her stuff when she decided she wanted to move....alright 2 years later it is still in our basement. FH and I finally decided it was time for her to get the stuff out. Oh man that started a battle we are still trying to settle. We try to just blow off what she says and does but when she brings things up after weeks of it happening it just gets stressful. We asked her politely to get her stuff and that escaladed into her saying that she wasn't welcomed at the house and that she wasn't allowed to come around. FH has since told her in 3 seperate conversations that that was never said. It has also been 3 weeks since this started and I don't think I have any more energy to think about it anymore.
Long story short FH's dad passed away shortly after he was born and FMIL has since been remarried and divorced. There are other children in FH's family and she does not act or treat them this way with them.
After getting engaged she told me that we were not allowed to pay for anything for the wedding and whatever my parents did not contribute she would cover the rest. I was alright so I set a budget and started working away. I never had a "dream" wedding in my head just ideas and those ideas include my mom and I getting the wedding dress, my bridesmaid's and I getting their dresses, and working with FH on the rest of the details. Oh boy did that blow up in my face big time. She constantly brings up the fact that she wasn't invited to go dress shopping with us (how many FMIL get invited to go dress shopping.....not all of them). We actually picked out the bridesmaid dresses in another state on a family trip to see MOH and FH wasn't even with us. I'm sorry but I didn't feel she needed to be invited. Other people may believe FMIL should be included especially if they are contributing financially towards the wedding. We are however also contributing financially to the wedding. All of a sudden she is having this huge stink about money and about how we are ungrateful for what she has done and there has never been a time we were ever ungrateful for what she has done. We tell her thank you and that we appreciate her all the time.
There is more of why we don't get along from our past but it would probably take hours to type and read so we will leave it at this and I will take any advice I can get. Right now I just let it go in one ear and out the other. I have held in a lot of what I would like to tell her for the past 7 years.
Alright I think I am done ranting for now and I hope you can follow.
Long story short FH's dad passed away shortly after he was born and FMIL has since been remarried and divorced. There are other children in FH's family and she does not act or treat them this way with them.
After getting engaged she told me that we were not allowed to pay for anything for the wedding and whatever my parents did not contribute she would cover the rest. I was alright so I set a budget and started working away. I never had a "dream" wedding in my head just ideas and those ideas include my mom and I getting the wedding dress, my bridesmaid's and I getting their dresses, and working with FH on the rest of the details. Oh boy did that blow up in my face big time. She constantly brings up the fact that she wasn't invited to go dress shopping with us (how many FMIL get invited to go dress shopping.....not all of them). We actually picked out the bridesmaid dresses in another state on a family trip to see MOH and FH wasn't even with us. I'm sorry but I didn't feel she needed to be invited. Other people may believe FMIL should be included especially if they are contributing financially towards the wedding. We are however also contributing financially to the wedding. All of a sudden she is having this huge stink about money and about how we are ungrateful for what she has done and there has never been a time we were ever ungrateful for what she has done. We tell her thank you and that we appreciate her all the time.
There is more of why we don't get along from our past but it would probably take hours to type and read so we will leave it at this and I will take any advice I can get. Right now I just let it go in one ear and out the other. I have held in a lot of what I would like to tell her for the past 7 years.
Alright I think I am done ranting for now and I hope you can follow.