Countdown

[Shawna Bride]

1 month and 12 days to go

1 month and 12 days to go!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

1 month and 12 days to go????????????????????????


That's 42 days

That's 1008 hours

That's 60480 minutes

Oy Vey!

[countrygirl]

You Go Girl!!!

[CindySue]

I have 79 days and Im like OMG :bbeek: Congrats girl!!!!!

[countrygirl]

I'm not ready to start counting that closely. I will drive myself bazonkers if I do.

[WebLady]

Congrats and Good Luck Ladies :D I can't believe my anniversary is right around the corner ... doesn't seem like it has been a year yet. I guess time flies when you are having fun ;)

[Jenn060306]

YAY!

It's almost here for ya Shawna! I dunno how i will be when we're that close!

[Kacie_bride]

Yeah for you! I know I will really be excited when I get that close.

[WhiskeyGirl]

Just remember to take some time and enjoy the planning stage and then on the day of, remember to take some time and enjoy THE DAY!! I think sometimes we get so wrapped up in it being perfect we forget that most people don't know that things went wrong and we miss out on enjoying things! (I know I did!!) So enjoy your day....and YAY!!!! lol

[usahgrad]

Ten weeks from this Saturday...


INITIATE FREAK OUT MODE!

I have so much to do and all I have is my weekends, so I only have seven weekends left because one weekend is the wedding, one weekend is the bridal shower, and one weekend is my mother's surgery.


:bbeek: oh





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GOD!

[WebLady]

I am sure it will work out, just make a list and do as much as you can and if others want to help, let them ;)

I am sort of freaking out with the wedding I am helping with ... it is less than 2 weeks away and there is SO much left to do. I am meeting with the bride and the MOB tomorrow and hopefully we can make some headway. We did find a new cake today though (the other baker canceled last week) :ura1:

[Shawna Bride]

I feel so tense and uptight lately.
It's as if we are focusing so much on the wedding that we have forgotten about us. I'm ready for this to be over and to be married.
We had a big fight the other day and it was so upsetting. I cried all night and I woke up the next day with my eyes looking like ET!
The two of us have focused alot of trying to make our mothers happy, and we can't even remember what is going to make us happy.
We are different religions (I'm Jewish, he's Christian), and I feel so much anxiety that I have to please both sides of the family I make myself sick.
Ryan and I have made up since the fight the other day.
I think this wedding has turned in to a monster and has become a seperate entity! Here it is 5 weeks before we get married and we're fighting over these silly issues. We already decided years ago how we would raise our children, but I'm so scared that after seeing how much input the parent's have on teh wedding, it will be even worse with children.
Why can't love be enough?

[CindySue]

I feel so tense and uptight lately.
It's as if we are focusing so much on the wedding that we have forgotten about us. I'm ready for this to be over and to be married.
We had a big fight the other day and it was so upsetting. I cried all night and I woke up the next day with my eyes looking like ET!
The two of us have focused alot of trying to make our mothers happy, and we can't even remember what is going to make us happy.
We are different religions (I'm Jewish, he's Christian), and I feel so much anxiety that I have to please both sides of the family I make myself sick.
Ryan and I have made up since the fight the other day.
I think this wedding has turned in to a monster and has become a seperate entity! Here it is 5 weeks before we get married and we're fighting over these silly issues. We already decided years ago how we would raise our children, but I'm so scared that after seeing how much input the parent's have on teh wedding, it will be even worse with children.
Why can't love be enough?

Dont feel bad.....Brian and I have been bickering over little stupid issues too. Im ready for mine to be over too. Brian mentioned last night that we should just run off on May 13th and get married somewhere. I wanted to :chair: .
That is what i had wanted from the beginning. Now we only have like 4 things left to do for this wedding and NOW hes going to give in. Like yall, we had gotten so focused on this wedding and forgot about eachother. We realize that now and can spot it when its happening now so we are able to stop it.
It will all work out.......hang in there! Just remember why you are marrying this man. It will help you stay focused.
Good luck!

[WebLady]

I hear about this kind of thing alot ... most brides just want it to be over by this point. So good luck ladies! I always say just do what makes you happy and don't let parents get in the way but it is sometimes hard. Remember that no matter what happens, you will still end up married.

As for the kids, I know first hand (with my sister's child) that the parents LOVE to but in with the grandbaby's and they think it is their right to. So good luck with that too.

I am glad that we decided to just get married in our living room, but, my mom even made a few comments about that :bbrolleyes:

If you can, try to take some time for each other where you don't have to think about the wedding. Maybe have a 'date night' or something.

[CindySue]

If you can, try to take some time for each other where you don't have to think about the wedding. Maybe have a 'date night' or something.

My mother is coming home from Florida this weekend and she has not seen my kids since August. They are out of school for Spring Break next week and the way it looks, Brian and I may have the house to ourselves for a few days next week. Of course its during the week and we wont really be able to do anything, but still. We will be able to have quiet dinners and talks without kids interrupting.

[WebLady]

My mother is coming home from Florida this weekend and she has not seen my kids since August. They are out of school for Spring Break next week and the way it looks, Brian and I may have the house to ourselves for a few days next week. Of course its during the week and we wont really be able to do anything, but still. We will be able to have quiet dinners and talks without kids interrupting.

That sounds good ;) :goodluck:

[Shawna Bride]

I feel like an emotional basketcase these days.
I can't take it anymore.
I feel so overwhelmed and uptight all the time.

I'm tearing up right now as I type this to you guys.

I just don't know how much of this I can take.

And now my Mom is all upset and stressed out too! I mentioned one thing and she got all emotional and upset that I'm chaning things all the time. Origianally I wanted our families at the head table, since to me our families are more important to our lives than our friends (wedding party). Both parent's fought us on this so I gave in and had the wedding party up at the head table. The other night I mentioned again how much I would have rathered it the other way, and my Mom spoke to his Mom and they said yes they do think it would be nice for our families up there. So that being settled, I innocently made a comment to my Mom just now that the original way (families at seperate tables with friends and bridal party up at head table) probably would have been more fun for everyone. She totally exploded saying that she can't take things anymore and things are changing all teh time! I didn't even say I wanted to change it, just that it would have been more fun the other way. I just made a little comment.

I just wish this wedding would be easy. I feel like I can't assert my feelings without someone barking at me, getting mad or getting upset.

[CindySue]

Shawna......this is just my opinion and Im not an expert here so I hope I dont offend....but youre coming up on your wedding date fast and that has a lot of added stress all by itself. From what Ive heard from our brides that the last month or so WAS the worst. They would start second guessing EVERYTHING. They wanted their wedding days to be so perfect, would work so hard with their planning and then there at the end would start nit picking it to death.
Your mom has the added stress that her "baby" is getting married. She knows what its like and how hard it can be sometimes. If her and your father arent together anymore........well she doesnt want that happening to you.
I still have 2 and a half months and if Im this stressed NOW :bbeek: ..........BTW - I have had the "dont know how much more I can take" feelings on and off for a couple of months now. :bbconfused: Ive been told they are normal.
I think everyone in here has had some moments here lately and we will probably will continue to do so even after our weddings.
Try to take a few days and no absolutely NOTHING wedding related. If you are going to be out around friends or family, wear a sign......I AM NOT TALKING OR THINKING WEDDING TODAY. (I actually saw this on a t-shirt on a website about wedding stress but cant find the link)
Good Luck girl!!!

[WebLady]

Well, I was just going to agree with Cindy but I guess I have been doing that alot, so I gotta 'spread the love'

Anyway, I see this so much where brides get so stressed and over whelmed and it is usually about a month or so before the big day. Why do you think brides cry at the wedding! Like Cindy said, take some time and relax and try not to think about the wedding.

The say I look at it is as long as you are sure about your guy then the rest is really small in the grand scheme of things.

If you can't get through to your mom, crying helps sometimes ;)

Good luck, I am sure the wedding will turn out just fine :hug:

[Shawna Bride]

Thank you both for your support.

Now I really do understand the crying at the wedding, it's a sense of relief!

When I come back from my honeymoon, and I post something about being sad the wedding is over, please remind me of this silly nonsense!!

I really think I would completely fall apart if it wasn't for all of you on this forum.

Thank you truly.
:wub: :wub: :wub:

[Hayz]

Hey Shawna. Well as you know I'm very very close to the big day, and yes it is kinda scary.
I have been feeling a bit happier and relaxed this week. I think its because its my last week of work (2 more days to go:ura1: ) before my 2 weeks off and with picking out 'Puppy' I think I'm looking more forward to collecting her after the honeymoon than I'm looking forward to the big day itself.
I think its because even though the wedding is a really good thing, it involves sooo much stress that you tend to forget thats its a good thing and it ends up looking like a bad thing. So with having our puppy picked out its gives me something to smile about again and something to get excited about without all the stress. I think its taken a lot of the wedding pressure off the wedding. Its like "Hey who cares if the day doesn't go to plan - we're getting a dog!!!:ura1:"

Just please remind me of this next week. On Sunday we are heading down to my parents to stay with them for the week leading up to the wedding and will be finalizing everything. I have a feeling I'm may start to get stressed again, just as all the family will be wanting to talk about the wedding and I'd rather try and forget it or I'll just get too nervous.

If you are going to be out around friends or family, wear a sign......I AM NOT TALKING OR THINKING WEDDING TODAY. (I actually saw this on a t-shirt on a website about wedding stress but cant find the link)


I think I might need one of those signs lol.

Anyway what I'm suggesting is having something good (no stress involved) to remind yourself of when you are getting stressed about wedding stuff, wether it be thinking about the honeymoon or something else you have planned for after the wedding or later in the year.

[Shawna Bride]

I think another difficult thing for me is I just started a new job in January, so my life has been stressful all around!

I'm starting to relax a bit and realizing that things are going to be okay.

[CindySue]

I think another difficult thing for me is I just started a new job in January, so my life has been stressful all around!

I'm starting to relax a bit and realizing that things are going to be okay.

Yeah a new job will do that to ya.

There are times when i have to MAKE myself relax and calm down. I will just get so worked up over absolutely nothing.

[WebLady]

Yeah a new job on top of wedding planning can cause more than usual stress.

I read something once that said the biggest stresses in life were; Getting Married, Having a baby, Changing jobs, and Buying a house. So if you are doing more than one of these at a time then you are in for a harder time of it.

But, it can be done ... just sit back and think of why you are doing this. If you can think of a way to make it easier for you then do that. Talk to your FH about your feelings. Write them out in a journal. Remember, don't sweat the small stuff ;)

It will all work itself out :hug:

[usahgrad]

I'm in the same spot; I started a new job in December. I find that some days I am really excited about the wedding and other days I would rather cut off all my appendages before I even think about it. I know I really have to get in gear with this stuff or else I'm going to spend every night up before the wedding doing things I didn't get done (because that's how I am...I am not an oh well, it didn't get done, type person...I will get it done, even if I have to push myself to the point of exhaustion).

Jason and I haven't bickered yet (he's very laid back, which helps). But I've found our Tuesday Nights are probably what saves me.

I work two jobs, one is M-F 8-4 and one is Mon, Wed, and Thurs 5:15-9. Then with the weekends being the only time to wedding plan, that usually runs into Friday nights as well. So we designated Tuesday nights "No Wedding Nights." We may not do much, just lounge around and watch t.v. or something, but we do it together, just him and me. I feel so much better after those evenings and it kind of dulls the buzz in my brain for a little while. I know you're getting really close Shawna, but maybe designating just a little time every week will be your salvation. Do you have a favorite show? Sit down and watch it every week to give yourself a break. Good luck and just think, pretty soon you'll be sitting there calming us down while we're freaking out!