How did you know he was "the ONE"? Share your story.

[mtigercat]

Sorry if this is already here somewhere. I was posting on another thread and thought of a question for everyone. How did you know your future husbands and already husbands were the one you wanted to be with forever? I always like hearing the stories. Sometimes in all the craziness in planning stuff it is nice to take a step back and think of what made you want to marry this person in the first place.

I think I knew he was the one when after a day of fighting with my parents (as usual) I was really upset. He didn't know what to do to make me feel better. So he told me to wait and he went and got a cassette tape (remember those). He said I don't know how to say it so listen to this. He played "Just Between You and Me" by Apryl Wine. Now that is our song. Plus he was by my side throughout my mother (brother and sister) moving to Florida and telling me a month later...and two major back surgeries. I can talk to him about anything and everything. I cannot picture the future without him in it. He truly is my best friend. I know that sounds corny but it is true. I think that is what helped us stay together this long. We are each others best friend.

So everyone how'd you know he is the ONE for you?

[august8bride]

I don't think it was just one moment. But when we first met I knew there was something extermely special about him. Then we had a rough start with family and friends but he was there for me through all of it. And he was the only one that could make me feel better. Plus when I met his family and saw him with nieces and nephews I began to love him even more. And I truly think with each passing day there something new that I notice that makes me love him even more and reminds me that he is the one.

[WebLady]

I think it was a mix of a lot of things ... I knew there was something special about him from when we first met. He and I have lots in common and we share the same hopes and dreams for the future. He is loving, encouraging and supportive and just an awesome guy :wub:

I love all the little things he does and how he looks out for me and genuinely cares. I like how he talks about the future using "us" and "we".

The longer we were together, the more we got to know each other, the better it was and then one day (not really a specific moment) I just knew I loved him and I'd marry and spend my life with him :D

[RosieAngel]

FH and I met when he was visiting my "honorary roommate" who lived downstairs from me in my dorm in Seattle. He lived in California, so we began a distance relationship. We decided to call each other after two or three weeks of "get to know you" emailing.

Our first phone call, we just started talking and talking. The conversation was interesting, carefree, and fun, and before we knew it, we had talked nearly 8 hours! After the third week of these super-long calls, I realized we had something special. :)

[Whitewater]

The first time I realized Tiernan was a keeper was, believe it or not, on our first date. We'd been chatting online for about 3 months prior, but things didn't really align for us to meet live and in person until then.

When we did, we met in a Barnes and Noble cafe. And then, we started talking about Lord of the Rings and the literary archetypes and how they differed in the movies . . .. and that's when I knew that this man was the One For Me. Most guys woo their dates (especially their first dates) with chocolate or roses or something . .. he did it by being an intellectual geek, and I loved it. He spoke my language!!!! I think I started falling in love right then :)

Later, I kept expecting him to have expectations of me that I couldn't possibly meet, you know, I was sure I couldn't live up to his standards and that he would keep trying to mold me into his Ideal Woman, and I don't really *do* that, so I was worried. Then I realized that he was falling in love with me without me having to change a single thing! OMFG, that was HUGE.

And when I introduced him to my clann and he fit in *better* than a hand in a glove, I knew. I knew we'd be spending the rest of our lives together, God willing, and if we didn't do something to each other to screw it all up. Fitting in with my friends is hard to do --they're worldly, cynical geeks, just like I am, and they're *hard* on potential mates, because they've seen the potential for destruction when relationships end and divorces happen. But they ALL liked him from the first, and now he's as much one of us as though he was born to it. It's insane, it's amazing, it's one of those things that works SO well you really start to believe that maybe there IS a God out there watching over you.

He and I were destined for each other, and that's all there is to it. We'll be together for the rest of our lives, I'm sure of it, and still it won't be long enough. I can only hope that God decides to end our lives simultaneously, because I don't know if I would be able to stand having him die without me.

I really do feel like I'm living in some kind of a romance novel or a fairy tale -- one of the ones where it all works out and they live happily ever after, forever. It's something I never *dreamed* I would ever experience in my life. I've wanted this since I was 3 years old, and now I finally have it, after being divorced and living the next ten years in romantic solitary confinement.

"Love" doesn't even begin to cover what we have, and are, and will be. It's amazing, and now I know what I missed my first time around!


Whitewater (being sappy!)

[WBandMe]

Whitewater, you brought tears to my eyes.

[EarlyBird]

This story is kind of personal to me so i hope nobody judges me - I know alot of people will find me crazy, but i promise... im not

when i met fh it was through a friend. I was not THAT into him. i never realized it at least. Then after about A MONTH of dating he dropped a really big bomb on me. He admitted to be a drug addict (we are not talking smoking pot here, i will let you all gather your own assumptions, ill only say it was a harder drug) he said he would be checking himself into rehab and that he would be in for 8 days intensive care and then 2 months no leave facility and then 3 months in a center where he could only leave WITH an assigned person and only one time a week and only if he was on good behavior release. He said "I dont even know if its appropriate to ask you this, but do you think you would stay with me during this time" and for some reason, i never ever thought about it before i said "of course" That became the moment where i knew that there was SOMETHING about this guy. I was the girl that never even did a drug, i was preppy, came from a school where drugs were not tolerated, so i had neevr been around a so called "druggie" and for some reason, i wanted to stick through this drama. I realized he was the one after he got out and our relationship had budded so much just by the little time we had. I always like to say i saw him at his worst before i ever saw him close to his best. Most people would never have stuck through it, and i had no idea then or now why something told me to, but i can only assume its b/c something inside of me knew i was meant to be with him. Happy to report, he recently celebrated his 4th yr clean and im glad i stuck through it

[uptowngirl]

Vana that is an amazing story!!

For FH and I we were in a similar situation, where there was pressure right at the very beginning. I first met him right when I was separating from my ex-husband. At the time Patrick was kind of a friend of a friend, but we also worked together so he was able to see all the **** I was dealing with since I would come in to work all upset.

The ex and I were separated, but still living in the same house (I was upstairs and he was downstairs) and things were getting really bad with his drinking/drugging/clubbing etc so I wanted to finally get out. FH offered to let me come and stay with him and his roommate until I could get my own place - no strings attached.

Well for me that was it - to be treated with care and respect after so many years for putting up with the ex's abuse - I realized that this guy was special. The night he first told me that he loved me, despite the complications I might bring into his life, was when I knew that I wanted to spend the rest of my life with him.

[PGDesigns]

Vana, I don't think it's crazy at all. Sometimes, you just know. Congrats to him for 4 years of being clean!

I knew there was something special about J basically the moment I met him, but it wasn't until a while later that we started dating, and that's when the cr@p hit the fan with my family. They were totally against it and made things really rough. Despite everything, he was very concerned about coming between my family and me, but there was this connection I couldn't let go of.

Life since then has been a wild roller coaster in terms of family drama and tragedy, but he's always there. Kinda like Sarah, I came with complications, but his love for me never faltered. There wasn't one particular moment of me knowing--it was a culmination of things.

[Rainbow Brite]

It might sound cheesy, but I think the moment I realized he was an extra-ordinary guy was the first time he kissed me. It was just...perfect. You can tell a lot from the way a guy kisses. He didn't try to push it any further than a kiss. He didn't carry on for an absurd amount of time. He was gentle, sweet and wonderful :) It definitely made me want to stick around and see where things might go :)

[sweetvenus]

I knew he was the one the moment I laid eyes on him. I know it's extremely cheesy. Back in early 2004, I was going through a very deep depression for various reasons. It took a lot to get me out of bed in the morning and I would on occasion have "flings" (for lack of a better word) with various guys as I was just trying to find SOMETHING to care about.

The guy I was currently seeing invited me to his roommate's birthday party. I showed up and walked in the door, and FH was standing behind the kitchen bar making drinks and the first thought that popped into my head was "Uhh, I'm with the wrong guy!" I went up to him and talked to him for awhile, and it was crazy how I seemed to care about something again. We talked a few times over the next few weeks and started dating a month after we met. I tell him he's my angel because he saved me and gave me emotions and faith again.

[thetsakid]

well as a kid i hated him but we started dating cuz i felt bad for him but i left for the summer with my church group (started dating in march) well for like a week i couldn't teach, sleep, eat or anything without thinking or talking about James...so my team mates that are girls started telling me that i was in love with him and i was like noo way...so i prayed to God and said "if you want me to marry him and love him show me a sign" well my phone vibrated and it was James....that was a big sign so a few days later in a really nasty and cheap hotel we were staying at i cleared the room so i could call james and tell him that i loved him and he knew what i was trying to say but i couldnt say it so my friend andres who is was on my team came in and started singing a song and playing it on his guitar about how i love James and thats how i knew...

[Jamie'sBride]

Well, It was more what I didn't feel. With every other relationship I'd had in the past, I was always scared and felt smothered. The other person would irritate me if they were around too long, and I would start second guessing spending time with them or taking things further. I was always looking for excuses or ways to push them away.

I never for a second felt that way about Jamie. The only thing I couldn't stand was being apart from him. "Alone time" had no meaning whatsoever, when it was something I coveted all my life until I met him. I wanted nothing more than to be with him every second, and I felt like I was going to collapse when I wasn't. I had never felt that way before in my life. So, the "one moment" where I knew he was the one would probably be the first time I actually waited by the phone...panicked when I thought he wasn't going to call. That would be it. When the thought of losing him became unbearable, that was it.

[JCM]

There were a couple different moments for me...when we first started dating I think we were both a little nervous so the first couple weeks we went out to the bars with mutual friends almost everynight and drank. I was convinced he didn't like me because he hadn't kissed me, and normally I wouldn't hesitate to be the first one to do it, but for some reason I just didn't want to be the one to make the first move with him. So I waited and waited and waited for what seemed like eternity. After a couple of weeks we both relaxed and decided to stay home one night and he FINALLY kissed me after almost 3 weeks. I asked him what took so long and he said he wanted to make sure I was completely sober because he didn't want to take advantage of me, I knew then that he was definately different from any guy I had ever known.

But the first time I knew that he was definately the one was when my sisters car had broken down in the middle of the night, she tried to call me but my phone was off and I was asleep and she tried to call my parents but they didn't answer, so she called him. He drove down in the middle of the night to milwaukee to go pick her up and take a look at her car, I didn't even know he did this until the next day. I thought right there and than that he was the person I would spend my life with, if he was willing to get up in the middle of the night when he had to get up at 5 am to go pick my sister up from 30 minutes away, he was somethign special!

[RosieAngel]

All of these stories are really great! I'm always interested in other people's love stories... :heart:

[Jacobs_Girl]

The first time I met him I knew he was different. It was totally love at first sight. I knew he was the one when I woke up after being with him the whole weekend and he was gone off to work and I was so sad. I knew he was the one! I always WANTED to be around him, I always WANT him near me, I always think of him, I always want to call him just to hear his voice, he is on my mind 24/7 lol When I hear his voice or name I pop my head up from what I am doing and look around like my dog LOL

[Chele&Chris]

I always knew there was something special about Chris from the first time we talked online but the moment I realized he was the one...Would have to be when I was being stupid and broke things off because I thought we were never going to meet in person and I met someone else but every day Chris was all I would think about and then we finally met in person and it was like a light bulb came on "This is the man God put on this earth for me!" From that day on I'm miserable every minute we're apart, which was REALLY hard for a couple years since he lived in Georgia and I live in Pennsylvania BUT now he moved to PA to be with me and I couldn't be happier.:jplove:

[sbeechan]

You guys have sweet stories!

My fiance and I just clicked so well as friends in high school. When we first started dating senior year of high school, we fell in love with each other almost immediately. We chose to go to the same college- we didn't consider any other option really other than staying together.
Then in my sophomore year of college, my family was planning on moving from RI to NC and he was going to leave behind his family and friends to be with me. We actually applied and got into the Uni of NC @ Charlotte and put a deposit on an apartment there. Thank god my family's plans fell through. But that's when I realized that he was willing to be by my side no matter what and how much I wanted to be by his side forever.

[MrsDM]

We have been together for 4 1/2 years. We met in high school (I was a sophmore and he a junior). We met through some mutual friends. I was informed by one of those friends that Dan (FH) had a thing for me so I decided to just talk to him one night on the phone. That one night on the phone turned into everynight sometimes for 3 or 4 hours.

Anyways, he became my best friend. I had previous relationships where I decided to pursue friendships further and failed..horribly, and I didn't want to take a chance with Dan. I told him I liked him, but don't want to ruin our friendship and he said, "Jeanne, I will wait for you." Right there, he had my heart. Shortly after, we just kind of evolved into a relationship. I just felt safe by him and I guess, I just knew.

[HisMuse]

I just knew, the moment I met him. It was so unexpected and I did not want to like him considering his situation. When he serenaded me on Valentines Day I knew I couldn't live without him and that I never wanted to be apart from him.

[NOTKT]

After about 3 months of dating, he went away to Texas for military training. We made it through the 6 months he had been gone! I flew to him and we drove his car back it was a 28 hour drive following a huge storm all the way home. We made it through 4 whole days in the car. I knew he was the one. Yes, after not seeing him for more than 6 days in 6 months, I flew to him and drove for 4 days. I'm crazy, I know.. :)

[kiddienurse601]

We had dated briefly in high school, though we went to different schools. Afterwards, we lost touch but I never stopped thinking about him. About a year ago, I was working with his ex-gf and she gave me his e-mail address. We started chatting (via myspace only) and soon after my grandmother died. He immediately gave me his phone number and told me to call if I wanted to. I WANTED TO!!! We talked all night and I knew that I never wanted to face anything big without him ever again.
Who knew it would take him moving to Denver and me to Baltimore (both of us from Jackson, MS) for us to get together and make it stick? If I had made a list, it would seem that God used it to check off everything I wanted. I am so very lucky to have this man in my life!!

[tinkerjew]

It wasn't a love at first sight thing with me and Larry, but the first time I laid eyes on him, I said to myself, "I'm going to fall in love with this man. I just know it." Sure enough, I did. We actually started out as roommates before we started dating, so we didn't have our first date until after three months of living together. I have Epilepsy, and I actually had a seizure on our first date. Since it was in a public place, an ambulance got called out to transport me to the hospital. I had vomited all over myself, so I absolutely reeked, but he stayed in the hospital with me that whole night, and that's when I realized, hey... I want this guy to stick around for a while!

[sunflowersummer]

I was suppose to move away for school a year before him (he wanted to take a year off). Being a high school relationship, I wasn't sure what to expect, but when he told me he would come and visit every second weekend, and how he'd miss me like crazy when he couldn't see me - I knew.

[todaysdestinationwedding]

My husband and I met online in Sept. 2002 in a hotmail chat room...romantic huh? I didn't know he was the one for several months after I starting chatting with him. He was just one of many friends I had online. When I first talked to my husband online I was actually considering meeting someone else that I was talking to. That did not work out...and that's a good thing. But I noticed that hubby was always online when I would get on. ummmm...was it because he had nothing better to do? Our chats became more and more frequent and the next thing I know it was every night to the wee hours of the morning. He made the trip from MS to MO on New Years Eve 2002 and we met in person for the first time. He came back up here several more times and I went to MS that June to meet his family. My mother passed away in June and he was back up here right away...He turned that 12 hour drive into 10 1/2 that time. By that time...I knew! He officially moved to MO in Sept 2003 and we were married in Sept. 2004...there is just something about September...:flower:

[LadyDante]

Scott and I met through a mutual friend. We would talk some on YM before we actually met, and the day we met, I remember thigking to myself "wonder what it would be like to date him". We ended up getting to be closer and closer friends and couple of months later we would spend hours upon hours talking. Then I started to drive out 60 miles (at the time it was a long drive for me) to spend time with him about once a week. At the time I also had a friend that I've known for several years, and he was pressing me into a relationship, and was gonna come see me for New Years so we could see if we actually would like each other in real life, but until then we were just friends.
One day, I took a friend out to Magic Mountains for his birthday. And we started talking about relationships, and I ended up mentioning Scott. So he asked me one simple questions. "Why can't you be with Scott?". I gave him a bunch of excuses, among which was that I had a deal with the other guy about New Years. But I couldn't stop thinking about it for the rest of the day. And another thought plagued me and nearly made me cry. I thought forward to the December and was upset that I would have to hold other guys hand instead of being able to cuddle up to Scott. Thankfully, he felt the same as I did, and the next day he unchickened himself and told me he was in love with me. That year I got to have my first real Christmas with him and his family, and got to cuddle up in his arms all I wanted.
Some time later he actually told me that a thought passed through his head as he was walking to my place. "I could be meeting my future wife", and then he shruged it off as absurd.
Another way that I definatly knew that he is the one is when I was in Israel, I had trouble sleeping, not because it was a strange bed in a strange country, but because his snoring has become my lullaby. lol

[BamaBride]

i first knew i was going to marry my FH when i saw his pic on his brothers fridge lol (i was 14)...i seriously said "omg i'm gonna marry him" 8 years later i am lol. Really i knew he was the one when we spent our first year inseperable we didnt go one day without seeing each other! 5 years 5 months later we still havent gone ONE day without seeing each other and we NEVER got tired of each other....sounds crazy but it's just normal for us we love to be with each other.

[Rainbow Brite]

5 years 5 months later we still havent gone ONE day without seeing each otherWOW!!! That's really something! You're gonna DIE that first day one of you has to be somewhere that the other can't come! lol

[Angie_Sweetheart]

Good Question, well in my case we share common interests and values. I think this is very important specially when it comes to make decisions that are good for both.

[NowAShelton]

after we had been together for a couple of months, i moved in with some friends over the summer and he would come on the weekends. after a long weekend..:bbwink:..he was on his way back home when his truck broke down and he had a bad phone call from some family members...he immediately called me and after spilling everything - which is in itself a big feat for him (big macho sports guy) he said," i dont wanna go home. i wanna be there with you! can i live with you??" it was so cute and little-kid-like that i knew this was it. i couldnt live the rest of my life without little moments like that that made my heart melt and i knew that such a tough guy wouldnt have said something like that unless i was really important to him

[FutureKelley]

I knew from the moment we met that he was my soul mate. It was an insane thought at the time, but when we met I thought "Oh my god, I'm going to marry this guy some day". When we shared our first kiss, that was it for me. I have never, ever felt that way about anyone else and I knew that this was the real deal. We have been inseperable ever since.

[ktmb34]

ummm, Well, when I first met him I was about to move back home to Alaska from Arizona so dating was the last thing on my mind but he was very into me. He always says I wasn't into him, but the truth is I was just focused on other things. We text for about a month then he tried calling a few times and I didn't answer so we pretty much just stopped talking. About 3 months later I was scanning through my phone book on my cell phone and just sent him a text saying hi. I finally felt like I was ready... Instantly we clicked. He's so big and handsome but sooo gentle with his words. We talked for hours on the phone. He told me he loved me right away, but I wanted to make sure. So we got together in October then in the end of November he flew up here to Alaska (from Ohio) for about 2 weeks. I absolutely fell head over heels. We had never like touched or held hands or anything since we'd officially been together, considering we were in different states. However I had no apprehension as i RAN to him at the airport and jumped into his arms, wrapping my legs around him. It was amazing. When he went home was the worst time of my life. After that he decided to move up here. I think it was that time he was here and when he left, that made me realize I am so in love with this man and I can not live with out him. I told him I loved him on that trip when we were coming back from my home town, we stopped at a glacier (he'd never seen one) and I told him. The night he left I cried so hard and even into the next morning when I took a shower. My room mate at the time actually asked me the next day if i was alright because I cried so hysterically. Anyway, thats when. :)

[amisteratwisterandme]

He is the first man that I could ever be totally myself with, and I didn't feel judged or silly.

[Piedpiper522]

This is a hard question to answer! I guess I always knew, we've always been very drawn to each other. But I've known I wanted to marry him since before we even started dating (and he thinks the same!) he said one of the main reasons we started dating is because he knew he wanted to marry me! :wub:

(now if only money grew on trees we wouldn't have had to wait 5 years to tie the knot! :D )

[TiffandMatt]

well, to be honest, we clicked automatically. At first I was worried about the whole Army thing because that is a lost to handle. Then I knew it when I went to stay with him and his family in Chicago before he went away for Army training this past summer. I couldnt stop thinking about him over the summer and I knew I couldnt live without him. When they are gone and especially when they are protecting the country, you really appreciate who you are with more and I want to be with him through everything. On top of that, he is the only person that I have intimately been with and if that offends anybody, I am sorry, but that is a big deal to me as well. I just know that everything is right and even though I am sacrificing a lot to be with him, it is really worth it.

[Angel1na3]

This story is kind of personal to me so i hope nobody judges me - I know alot of people will find me crazy, but i promise... im not

when i met fh it was through a friend. I was not THAT into him. i never realized it at least. Then after about A MONTH of dating he dropped a really big bomb on me. He admitted to be a drug addict (we are not talking smoking pot here, i will let you all gather your own assumptions, ill only say it was a harder drug) he said he would be checking himself into rehab and that he would be in for 8 days intensive care and then 2 months no leave facility and then 3 months in a center where he could only leave WITH an assigned person and only one time a week and only if he was on good behavior release. He said "I dont even know if its appropriate to ask you this, but do you think you would stay with me during this time" and for some reason, i never ever thought about it before i said "of course" That became the moment where i knew that there was SOMETHING about this guy. I was the girl that never even did a drug, i was preppy, came from a school where drugs were not tolerated, so i had neevr been around a so called "druggie" and for some reason, i wanted to stick through this drama. I realized he was the one after he got out and our relationship had budded so much just by the little time we had. I always like to say i saw him at his worst before i ever saw him close to his best. Most people would never have stuck through it, and i had no idea then or now why something told me to, but i can only assume its b/c something inside of me knew i was meant to be with him. Happy to report, he recently celebrated his 4th yr clean and im glad i stuck through it
Hunny! Your story was awesome! I understand this type of thing better than many people know. But I definitely CONGRATULATE your man on his 4th year clean and sober! And I congratulate you for being there for him through it all and sticking by his side. He needed that strength and support more than you could have ever imagined at the time. =)

[Angel1na3]

OOOHHH good question! Steve and I had been through a TON of ups and downs and to be honest, I always questioned if he was the one. When we met I wasnt looking for anything serious at all. When we started actually dating, I still never thought he'd be the one. I guess in a way you can say, I was the girl who always thought it was greener on the other side... I will admit, I did some wrong doing (as well as he) in our relationship and when he found out, we split up and about 2 weeks later I found out I was really sick... He was by my side the entire time and at that moment was when I knew he was definitely the one. I knew he loved me with all he had and he was willing to forgive what I had done to him. And once I realized that, I let our bad past go as well and I knew he was the one and I would fight for him all the days of my life. After I was better, our relationship really turned and we have never been as close as we are now, before that point in our journey together.

[JJsWifey08]

We met through a mutual friend on Myspace. I saw him on her comments and thought he was cute so I requested him as a friend. After that he read one of my blogs and he was talking nice then he said"COWBOYS SUCK" I then knew he was my one. He has kept me laughing since that day!! I love him sooo much. Hes been there for us in soo many ways

[caligal85]

I'm actually not sure how I knew he was the one. I just knew no one else would do. It was probably the day he called me my sophomore year, after a year of getting the silent treatment from me and saying that he had thought about me everyday and refused to let me be the one that got away. I was speechless. However, it wasn't until two years later that we tried again. That didn't go so hot and I thought we were done and I was devastated. Then ten months later he put a ring on my finger and asked me to be apart of his family, which is the million dollar word in my life. All that to say, I don't think there was one instance. I think it was a lot of things put together in the right combination to unlock my heart.

[Docsgirl]

I've known him since 4th grade. He was the new kid in school. We'd been best friends since 8th grade, after our attempt at dating fell through. I was 14 and was scared to death when he tried to kiss me (I knew that he wasn't a virgin, so I was so scared if I let him kiss me that he'd want me to do EVERYTHING)....so I turned my head and rejected him! LOL. We'd decided to try dating because we liked being around each other and ultimately had crushes on each other....but decided it was just better to be friends.

Fast forward 8 years and many random visits while he was on leave throughout the years...and once again he's coming to see me on the most recent trip home. I had just gotten my first place sans roommates and told him he could crash at my place if he'd like while he was home. We went out dancing and drinking with a few friends the first night he was home and after a few drinks, he backed me up against a wall and kissed me. I forgot I was supposed to exhale, my heart skipped a few beats and I knew I wanted to be able to kiss him for the rest of my life. The icing on the cake was when he told me "I've been waiting 8 years for that kiss". :soppy:

[NOTKT]

^ Awwwwwwwwwwwwwwww

[Angel1na3]

I've known him since 4th grade. He was the new kid in school. We'd been best friends since 8th grade, after our attempt at dating fell through. I was 14 and was scared to death when he tried to kiss me (I knew that he wasn't a virgin, so I was so scared if I let him kiss me that he'd want me to do EVERYTHING)....so I turned my head and rejected him! LOL. We'd decided to try dating because we liked being around each other and ultimately had crushes on each other....but decided it was just better to be friends.

Fast forward 8 years and many random visits while he was on leave throughout the years...and once again he's coming to see me on the most recent trip home. I had just gotten my first place sans roommates and told him he could crash at my place if he'd like while he was home. We went out dancing and drinking with a few friends the first night he was home and after a few drinks, he backed me up against a wall and kissed me. I forgot I was supposed to exhale, my heart skipped a few beats and I knew I wanted to be able to kiss him for the rest of my life. The icing on the cake was when he told me "I've been waiting 8 years for that kiss". :soppy:

OMG thats adorable!!! The cutest story!

[DanDanNoodleBowl]

we had been datign a while, and when i first felt like he was the one, it was such an oridnary, random moment.

We were laying in bed, he was falling alseep, and we were listening to Blink 182 ( i dont even like them lol) and i was just sitting there thinking and then it just clicked, how i loved him and how comfortable we were together.
Thats when it first clicked. Not very romantic. :bbeek:

[rubysync]

we are office mates actually and I even didn't think that we will fall for each other... one time when I had a problem, I really cried then he saw me, he wiped my tears and asked me what is my problem... the best thing on it is that he comforted me.. then after that we became close, we laugh together, eat together etc. we became close friends... then for how many months he asked me to marry him... and I am feeling that he is the one... we got married this month, march 7 ^_^

[f77g4]

I love everyone's stories! Vana you're such a strong lady! Tara what a cute story!

Well when Matt and I first met I was 15 and he was almost 18. We were at a New Year's Eve party and he was drunk and kind of followed me around...I thought it was great that an older guy was interested. I had a friend who was a coworker of his and she tried to hook us up but nothing ever became of it until almost a year later when we saw each other at her birthday party. And we officially became a couple in Dec 2000.

A few weeks into dating he told me he loved me and I told him that I thought we should wait before saying those words because I didn't want them to be thrown around loosely (which is weird because I had said them in previous relationships) and the next week a tragic accident happened and killed 2 girls from our high school then I felt life was too short and I told him I loved him too and he seemed surprised.

When I graduate high school in 2002 I had plans of going to univeristy and it was the thought of me leaving without him that made him secretly apply and have all his paper work in order before telling me that he was going too. I think then I knew I had something special.

Plus he waited for me for 2 years if you catch my drift because I wasn't ready - most guys just wouldn't do that (or at least the ones I had dated).

All that plus my longest relationship before him was 3 months and now we are getting close to 8.5 years...lol....I know I've found the one!

[Docsgirl]

I love everyone's stories! Vana you're such a strong lady! Tara what a cute story!

Well when Matt and I first met I was 15 and he was almost 18. We were at a New Year's Eve party and he was drunk and kind of followed me around...I thought it was great that an older guy was interested. I had a friend who was a coworker of his and she tried to hook us up but nothing ever became of it until almost a year later when we saw each other at her birthday party. And we officially became a couple in Dec 2000.

A few weeks into dating he told me he loved me and I told him that I thought we should wait before saying those words because I didn't want them to be thrown around loosely (which is weird because I had said them in previous relationships) and the next week a tragic accident happened and killed 2 girls from our high school then I felt life was too short and I told him I loved him too and he seemed surprised.

When I graduate high school in 2002 I had plans of going to univeristy and it was the thought of me leaving without him that made him secretly apply and have all his paper work in order before telling me that he was going too. I think then I knew I had something special.

Plus he waited for me for 2 years if you catch my drift because I wasn't ready - most guys just wouldn't do that (or at least the ones I had dated).

All that plus my longest relationship before him was 3 months and now we are getting close to 8.5 years...lol....I know I've found the one!

Awww! That's really cute that he secretly applied for the university so he didn't have to be without you. :grinhappy:

[f77g4]

Awww! That's really cute that he secretly applied for the university so he didn't have to be without you. :grinhappy:

Thanks! (I can't give you rep)

[NOTKT]

I love everyone's stories! Vana you're such a strong lady! Tara what a cute story!

Well when Matt and I first met I was 15 and he was almost 18. We were at a New Year's Eve party and he was drunk and kind of followed me around...I thought it was great that an older guy was interested. I had a friend who was a coworker of his and she tried to hook us up but nothing ever became of it until almost a year later when we saw each other at her birthday party. And we officially became a couple in Dec 2000.

A few weeks into dating he told me he loved me and I told him that I thought we should wait before saying those words because I didn't want them to be thrown around loosely (which is weird because I had said them in previous relationships) and the next week a tragic accident happened and killed 2 girls from our high school then I felt life was too short and I told him I loved him too and he seemed surprised.

When I graduate high school in 2002 I had plans of going to univeristy and it was the thought of me leaving without him that made him secretly apply and have all his paper work in order before telling me that he was going too. I think then I knew I had something special.

Plus he waited for me for 2 years if you catch my drift because I wasn't ready - most guys just wouldn't do that (or at least the ones I had dated).

All that plus my longest relationship before him was 3 months and now we are getting close to 8.5 years...lol....I know I've found the one!


You certainly did find the one! What a great story! :)

[Jettadear]

I didn't really know. FH was the one who figured it out every step of the way. Matter of fact, I almost canceled our first date. Im so glad I didn't. I worked with his best friend and he used to come in to chat with his friend when he was in town. Im in arkansas and he used to be in louisiana. It was the last week of xmas break three years ago and he asked me out. I had just broken up with a very mentally abusive jerk and worked with nothing but men so needless to say I had a date for almost everyday of two weeks. Very distructive. So I went out with FH and had such a good time that I broke the date I had the next day and that led to the next and so on. I was for sure it was only going to be a winter fling. Fun now but nothing in the future. At the end of the week FH keeped trying to say that he was feeling something strong but every time he tried to say it I changed the subject. Then two days before he was to go back home, I let it slip that I cared about him. We dated long distance and were just going to take it a day at a time. Well three years later we own a house together, bank account are joined and were getting married.

[emilycake]

I honestly think meeting Jamie was fate. My cousin got married last summer in the middle of the day and they had a party later that night at their friends' house. I went to the wedding with my family, but I wasn't sure about the party...mainly because I had just broken up with my boyfriend (it was a VERY controlling relationship with zero trust from his side) and I just didn't feel up to it. My sister was in town (she lives 8 hours away) and she begged me to go. My cousin finally called me and convinced me to come. So my sis and I loaded up in my Mustang and headed out to the middle of nowhere. From the second I got there, my cousin and sister were trying to hook me up with a guy. I talked to a few guys, but nothing more than small talk. Most of them were my cousin's husband's mud bog buddies. I had a great time and after 3 hours, I tried to convince my now-drunk sister to come home. She wanted to stay just a little longer, so I got in my car and backed it down to the area where the party was. I waited a few minutes and this guy I had talked to came up to my window and told me he liked my car. I thought he was SO CUTE and I ended up talking to him for an hour. My sister finally got in my car and I told the guy that I hadn't gotten his name...he told me it was Jamie. I guess neither of us had the courage to exchange phone numbers, and I left. I asked my sister about him and she had gone to school with him. I tried to find a way to contact him the next day with no luck. I was kicking myself for not getting his number. The next day (Monday) he called me and asked me out on a date that evening. From that day on, I knew he was the one. I have practically been with him every single day since then, and moved in with him a month later! Turns out, his story was exactly like mine. He didn't want to go to the party but his brother who was in from work (he's in the Air Force) and some of his friends wanted to go, and they finally convinced him to come. He told me that he would have never had the courage to come talk to me if he hadn't had a few beers...ha! I'm so glad everything worked out the way it did! Hooray for persuasivness! I can't imagine my life without him! We honestly complete each other. He's the love of my life.

[doris27]

It isn't any one thing that makes my FH the one for me. It's everything. It's who he is. I have had a relationship where I thought very highly of my SO, but things just didn't feel right (due to significant incompatibility, I have since realized), and I have had a relationship where I was very emotionally attached and felt all that I thought I should feel in a long-term relationship, but where my head knew something was wrong (he didn't treat me very well). With Adam, I feel in love, and all of the positive emotional things I could want to feel, and it's right logically, too. I can tell he loves me as much as I love him. He shows it every day in how he treats me.

There are many positive things that mean a lot to me. We can talk about anything. We get along really well, and are always able to work out conflict. He is wonderful with my kids. He communicates well. He's loving and sweet to me. We have compatible values and goals. We have a lot of similar interests. We make each other really happy and help each other grow as people. Nothing is missing, nothing is off, there are no red flags. We adore and love each other (both in the "in love" way and in the giving way). All of the ways we spend time together are exceptionally good as well. I think it comes down to, you know when you know...which isn't to say you can't be wrong. I have been in the past...but you should always listen to yourself. If either your heart or your head says something's wrong, it probably is. If both are fulfilled and at peace, you've very likely found The One. I know I have found my One. =-)

[doris27]

I had a little more I wanted to add. There have been some moments along the way that kind of tipped me off. I remember early on when we were just hanging out together as friends. I was involved in an on again off again relationship with the man I mentioned who didn't treat me very well. Anyway, FH and I were hanging out, just watched TV and playing video games and talking, and at a certain point it occurred to me that I was just happy, and not hurting emotionally. The fact that I felt that way, and that is was actually surprising told me a lot. It still took a little while before I ended things with my ex, and then FH and I got together, but the foundation was laid that night.

[AnnaBanana]

I don't think there was a specific moment when I first knew he was the one, but I love being with him all the time, and I know he's my "one." He's so sweet, caring, loving, generous, respectful, calm... he's an amazing guy! He makes me feel so loved and special, he treats me like a princess. And he's my prince. :)

[Mrs.Goff]

I'm not sure that there was a awe inspiring "He's the One" moment. But I'll share a couple very important moments in our relationship.

We were 2 weeks into dating (had known each other about 6 weeks) when DH told me he loved me. Let me tell you that was a awkward moment. haha We were sitting in a local park and he was always telling me how much he liked me and liked being with me and out of the blue he says "I love you".:bbeek: I sat there a moment before saying "Thank you.":bbeek: Neither of us addressed it and just changed the subject. The next day I got an email explaining that he was sorry for what he said. That he knew I wasn't ready for that. (I had told him that I wanted to take it slow and that I wasn't ready for I love yous.) He then told me that he was only sorry for saying it out loud. He told me that he was completely in love with me and he wasn't sorry for that. I was flattered but I didn't feel like I felt the same.

Fast forward 2 months later I was moving 30 minutes away and was terribly afraid that the distance was going to kill our relationship. After all it was brand new. Well after the big move I didn't hear from him for over a week. I was SO confused, I couldn't understand what happened. But I shrugged it off and decided that I was OK with it and was moving on. Never even shed a tear. Cold hearted right? haha I kept people at a distance because letting them in meant getting hurt when they left. Heck I REALLY like DH when talking to him on the phone for a month before meeting, but told him repeatedly not to get attached because we probably wouldn't ever meet in person.

(The moment I knew I loved him)

I was sitting on the porch when my cell phone started beeping that I had a voice mail. My phone didn't have a good signal in the house SO I didn't know that I had missed a call. When I listen to the message it was him and I started crying just from hearing his voice. Sappy I know. lol He said that he missed me terribly and ask me to call as soon as I got the message. At this point I still lived with my parents and my mother and aunt was in the house. Instead of calling him right away I ran into the house yelling "he called, he called!" My aunt was SO confused. As quickly as I ran in, I ran back out to call him. (When I say "I RAN" I mean just that. I didn't walk quickly I ran like I was running a race. haha) He said that he HAD to see me and would I mind if he came right now. I played cool and said that I was busy, BUT he could come at 7pm (totally made up that time I don't remember what I'm I told him... lol). I was so nervous and it took FOREVER for 7pm to come. When I seen his truck coming up the road I held my breath. Once he pulled in I calmly walked out to greet him. As soon as his arms wrapped around me I burst into tears and said "I love you."

Not the most romantic story but hey it's all I've got. ;)

[OHilton]

I knew something was different about him the first date. I did a lot of dating before him and every one of those dates I always had to be a girl I'm not. With him I was so natural. He had no expectations of me and we just clicked. I was worried that he was too good to be true and would end up like every other guy. Three months later a terrible thing happened to me and I dunno why but he was the first person I called and he stood by me through it and he remained my encourager while I got myself back into school . I knew then he was my soulmate. I had never had anyone care so much and I had never cared so much for anyone. He is my rock, my strength, my love, my hope, my everything and what's so amazing is I am that very thing for him and he tells me that everyday! :)

[f77g4]

I'm not sure that there was a awe inspiring "He's the One" moment. But I'll share a couple very important moments in our relationship.

We were 2 weeks into dating (had known each other about 6 weeks) when DH told me he loved me. Let me tell you that was a awkward moment. haha We were sitting in a local park and he was always telling me how much he liked me and liked being with me and out of the blue he says "I love you".:bbeek: I sat there a moment before saying "Thank you.":bbeek: Neither of us addressed it and just changed the subject. The next day I got an email explaining that he was sorry for what he said. That he knew I wasn't ready for that. (I had told him that I wanted to take it slow and that I wasn't ready for I love yous.) He then told me that he was only sorry for saying it out loud. He told me that he was completely in love with me and he wasn't sorry for that. I was flattered but I didn't feel like I felt the same.

Fast forward 2 months later I was moving 30 minutes away and was terribly afraid that the distance was going to kill our relationship. After all it was brand new. Well after the big move I didn't hear from him for over a week. I was SO confused, I couldn't understand what happened. But I shrugged it off and decided that I was OK with it and was moving on. Never even shed a tear. Cold hearted right? haha I kept people at a distance because letting them in meant getting hurt when they left. Heck I REALLY like DH when talking to him on the phone for a month before meeting, but told him repeatedly not to get attached because we probably wouldn't ever meet in person.

(The moment I knew I loved him)

I was sitting on the porch when my cell phone started beeping that I had a voice mail. My phone didn't have a good signal in the house SO I didn't know that I had missed a call. When I listen to the message it was him and I started crying just from hearing his voice. Sappy I know. lol He said that he missed me terribly and ask me to call as soon as I got the message. At this point I still lived with my parents and my mother and aunt was in the house. Instead of calling him right away I ran into the house yelling "he called, he called!" My aunt was SO confused. As quickly as I ran in, I ran back out to call him. (When I say "I RAN" I mean just that. I didn't walk quickly I ran like I was running a race. haha) He said that he HAD to see me and would I mind if he came right now. I played cool and said that I was busy, BUT he could come at 7pm (totally made up that time I don't remember what I'm I told him... lol). I was so nervous and it took FOREVER for 7pm to come. When I seen his truck coming up the road I held my breath. Once he pulled in I calmly walked out to greet him. As soon as his arms wrapped around me I burst into tears and said "I love you."

Not the most romantic story but hey it's all I've got. ;)

That's a great story!