Registering... ugh!

[BrideInCuffs21]

Well this isnt really a frustration but just a rant. So we are finally done with our wedding registry and for as much stuff we have on there, I feel guilty for putting as much as we did. I understand that we won't get everything we asked for but whatever is left over we get 10% off of so its all a good deal... right?

I am just relieved to have this registery done because my mom was about on my last nerve with it. She was actually going to go and finish is herself without Randy or I!!!! WTF... and her telling me if you dont finish no one will get you anything, well no one is going to get us anything now because we still havent sent out invites... duh!!!!

But just want to say we are done with the registry and relieved! I did most the registering online at WalMart and BBB, but ended up going yesterday and printing off our registery and went from there.... actually found some really decent deals at WalMart compared to BBB and vice versa... but anyways one more big item checked off the list!!! Yay!

[smileyone2002]

HAHA...your mom was stressing over nothing!! We are still adding things to ours and our wedding is a couple months before yours! Plus, how are they going to know where you are registered if they havent even gotten an invitation yet!! Oh well...at least you got it done and out of the way!!

[BrideInCuffs21]

Now I am venting...

Yesterday we were at FH mom's house and she ended up wanting to know where we registered and I had told her BBB and Walmart.... so she starts in saying that BBB is too expensive for her and that we wont be getting anything from there cuz its too expensive, then goes on to talk about how its nice that I chose walmart because she can afford something from there....

OK my thought... I am not expecting gifts from anyone, BBB is high priced but yet I found better prices of things there than at WalMart and vice versa!?!?!

So WTF I can't register at two places and one just because they have expensive items there doesnt mean there are good bargains....same with walmart... but she has to make me feel that I am high maintainence and that I am trying to get expensive items to show off money.... whatever!!! :bbmad:

[smileyone2002]

I know what you mean. BBB does have pricer things but not everything there is so outragous!! The sad thing is that Charlie(FH) told me that BBB was too expensive and that he didnt want anything from there!! Where I am from there are tons of BBB and everyone shops there so I dont see the problem! Who cares what others say...they get upset cause you havent registered and then they get upset at where you registered...you cant make everyone happy:bblol:

[RosieAngel]

I'm so sorry! That's way judgmental of your mom, especially considering the good deals at BBB... I got tons of awesome stuff super-cheap from the clearance section back when I got my first apartment. I still check the store for sales!

You're not high-maintenance! Don't let your Mom convince you otherwise!

[BrideInCuffs21]

Its not my mom that is judgemental on where I registered is my FMIL.... I understand her money situation or lack there of... that is why when we registered at BBB we went with alot of the items as being under 20 dollars... there is a handful of items that is in the 100s but thats like the pots and pan set, mix master, and some bedding... but we ended up printing off our registry list and then went and finished registering at WalMart and found better deals there and took off those items from BBB.... i mean for cryin out loud I let FH keep the 25 dollar meat tenderizer at BBB and I went through and kept telling him keep the items inexpensive....

But when we printed off our registries and BBB was 16 pages and WalMart was 9... I cant tell how horrible I felt having that many pages... But I look at it this way its items we need or want. And if we dont get them we at least have them and go and get our 10 percent off at BBB, in the end either way we are saving money!!!

But after going to his mom's I cant tell you how guilty I feel for registering at BBB and for so many items.... I feel like I can never win with her and she knows what irks me... but I dont let her see me irked.... but yet I vent to FH and he thinks I am 'bad mouthin' his family... I'M NOT!!!!

[RosieAngel]

Oh, whoops, I read that wrong. Durr, I'm smart. :purplex:

Please don't feel bad! I'm sure everyone else will be thrilled to see so many $25 and under items!

[BrideInCuffs21]

I am trying not to feel bad but when I seem to be constantly reminded about how this is too expensive or that is too expensive or that they don't have the money.... it makes me feel bad or even guilty for doing as much on the registry as we did.....

I honestly don't expect a dime, nickel, penny, or present from my FMIL.... but I don't get why she needs to be like that... ugh!!!!

[Kfancii]

I don't think you should feel guilty about registering at BBB at all. You will have people who will want to shop there over Walmart and vice versa. Also, the fact that you have lots of things on your registry is GREAT! That means that you are giving your guests lots of options to find you something that you want that they feel good about buying for you. I love it when a gift registry actually has more than a page or two so I can really shop and buy something that I think is a good value too. I'm sorry your FMIL is stresssing you out over the registry thing. Just remember you are doing the registry for all of your guests, not just your future family.

[BrideInCuffs21]

Well, I can say that I am actually starting to feel better about where I registered because of you ladies and also my aunt. Today I called and talked to her and brought up the registry topic. She told me that my mom and her went out to the stores and printed off our registries and was very impressed that we picked out good items and that they weren't way to over priced. :bblol: Coming from my aunt that means alot she is one savvy shopper. She also was telling me that the people being invited to the shower will be able to but 2-3 gifts a piece because the prices are soooo reasonable. Plus she told me whatever we don't get for the shower or wedding we have 24months from BBB to get gifts that we wanted and get 10% off of them. She said for family, people will know what to get us for christmas and our birthdays!!! Yay! SO finally someone in my family is siding with me.....:happy:

[BrideInCuffs21]

Forgot to also mention my aunt said she about feel over laughing when she was at BBB because she saw that I had asked for 2 sets of popsicle molds and a 2inch cheese grater that is actually a garlic grater.... hahaha

[Danielle9608]

I personally don't feel like BBB is expensive but I can understand why some would. However, people (at least I am) are usually willing to spend a little more on household items for a wedding then they would for themselves. These things that you receive for you wedding you will probably have for the next 20-30 years. Don't feel bad about it, you offered two different places, people will decide what they can afford and either get or not.

[brendalin]

Awwwww! I am sorry thay our FMIL is making you feel this way! Registering should be fun!!! BB&B is CAN definatly be expensive, however they can have some great deals as well! ( I found a grill set there that was 15 more at walmart!!!) Sometimes they carry stuff that is of better quality and that is why it costs more! PLUS they will giftwrap your stuff for you for free!!!

You gave them two places to register at, i think that is awesome of you! Keep your chin up! It will all be fine. Don't worry about registering for too much either. it gives people more options, plus they can get you stuff off of there for your birthdays or christmas!

[RosieAngel]

I agree with Danielle: FH and I always spend more on our friends' weddings than we would on ourselves! "Oh look at these towels _____ registered for! They're $50 apiece, but soooooo fluffy! Let's get her these!"

[BrideInCuffs21]

I understand what you ladies are saying... I have felt better since posting this... and talking more with my aunt about it and venting to FH which isnt helping the MIL thing but you know what i feel better and he knows im just venting!!!

I mean for a friend of mine baby shower I spent over 200 hundred dollars on her gifts and it was items that she needed.....