Who is giving a speech?

[Shawna Bride]

I just wanted to see who was giving a speech at their wedding?
I really wanted to say something, but now that I'm trying to compose it, I'm having writer's block.
Is anyone planning on saying anything, if so, can we help eachother and give tips?

I wanted to say somethign about the fact that both Ryan's and my parent's are still together, and that gives us a great role model for a happy marriage.
I think that growing up with parent's who are in love really helps us have a strong basis for what a marriage should be.

So, any ideas?

[countrygirl]

Hi Shawna!! I too would like to say somthing at my wedding, my problem, I am going to be such a blubberng fool, that I most likely wont even be wearing make up thru the ceramony becuase I will cry it all off!!!!!!!

It took me 30 years to get engaged (you will neer hear me admit my age again) and I want to say something, but I have no clue.

I may just have to stop in here later to see what advice you have been given, and run w it!!!!

[CindySue]

Hi Shawna!! I too would like to say somthing at my wedding, my problem, I am going to be such a blubberng fool, that I most likely wont even be wearing make up thru the ceramony becuase I will cry it all off!!!!!!!

It took me 30 years to get engaged (you will neer hear me admit my age again) and I want to say something, but I have no clue.

I may just have to stop in here later to see what advice you have been given, and run w it!!!!

Im with you....I would love to say something, but other than a short toast, I seriously doubt my brain will be able to hand anything big like that. That day it will probably be stuck on stupid.
Oh and FYI - Brian hid my egagement ring in my birthday cake on my 32 birthday.

[countrygirl]

It's funny at my b-in-law's wedding, I cried more than the mothers, it was truely pathetic. Josh (FH) said that it will be a good thing I am wearing a veil, when he lifts it up and sees makeup streaming down my face, he can cover it up again. He thinks he's funny.

[WhiskeyGirl]

I was terrified about making a speech at our wedding but once I had a glass of champagne (ok two or three) I couldn't have been more at ease with the mic!! We didn't make speeches to each other (we're private people that way) but we definately did the whole thank you to this person and that thing!! What I did for my speech was that I jotted down key points that I wanted to address (in a good order with each point that pertained to each other close together) and got up there and just blabbed! It helped me know what I was going to say and because I had such a hard time writing a speech it made things much easier!

[CarlosHoney]

I'm going to toast Carlo at the wedding. It's very simple (and Cindy gave me an idea for the modification):

He knows all my secrets, but loves me just the same.

[CindySue]

I'm going to toast Carlo at the wedding. It's very simple (and Cindy gave me an idea for the modification):

He knows all my secrets, but loves me just the same.

Brian and I are going to toast each other but I dont think we are going to get to involved with all that.

[countrygirl]

I really don't know what I will do or say. I will probubly get so nervous that I spill my drink all over me, I am about the biggest clutz you will ever meet.

[WhiskeyGirl]

I really don't know what I will do or say. I will probubly get so nervous that I spill my drink all over me, I am about the biggest clutz you will ever meet.

No thats me!! lol...I can even Fall UP the stairs as well as down!! In all honesty, I'm sure your dress will be fine hun! It's the people around you, you need to watch and hope they won't spill on your dress!! lol

[CarlosHoney]

Yeah, I'ma clutz too. I know what shirts are dirty because there is spilled food ALL OVER THEM.

[countrygirl]

That is the good thing about having kids, you can lie and blame it on them, when they aren't around of course. Mine would nail me to the wall w the truth on that one!!!

[CarlosHoney]

Well, he's not talking yet...;) But, no, I've learned a hard lession about lying. I'm not a liar anymore.

Been tangled up in my own web of lies, and it wasn't fun. So, I'm not going there anymore. I learned to lie from my Mom, and I'm not setting that example for Elias.. So she's out of my life right now.

[countrygirl]

Didn't mean that as a serious thing.

I agree, you have to set a good example for the little ones. We have four between us, and my FH's ex is not one who is good at that. We are already having probs w his middle one not being honest. It really is a shame when parents can't see how thier actions influence thier children.

It sounds like you have good values Carrie, and you are going to be a wonderful mother to that little boy, love the name Elias by the way.

[CarlosHoney]

Thanks!! :bbmrgreen: You never know, that's why I said it. Some people will do anything, not giving a :censored: what happens to their kids. My mom's ex's sister used to take her 12 year old daughter to go strip at the lesbian clubs to win money. Yeah, great parenting, right?

[countrygirl]

Ok, can we say EWWW??

That is terrible. And people wonder why kids now a days are messed up. It's funny, I get so excited when I see a child w manners, and treating adults w respect. That is something that should be expected, not surprising.

My mother raised us to be very respectful, and of course, we boobooed now and then, but sheesh, not like you see kids doing now. Not to brag (haha) but I hear my son's teachers telling me that he says yes ma'am, please and thank you. That makes me one proud mama!!!

[CindySue]

Oh.....well my kids were raised with manneras too and they use them.....at home. But its like when we get out in public, they forget every thing. i have to cinstantly remind them to say yes ma'am, no sir, thank you, excuse me, etc.

[CarlosHoney]

What a lot of parents don't understand is that respect is a two way street. It's to be earned, not a free gift. If you treat your child like they are less important than you, then they will return the favor, have bad self esteem, and act out because they have emotional needs that are not being met.

If you treat a child like they are important, and that you care about what they need and think, they are going to be more receptive to the kind of behavior that is expected.

Communicate and you'll have better results. It's true in marriage, friendship.. All relationships, really. :bbmrgreen:

[countrygirl]

I agree Carrie. I see that alot w my FH's kids. Thier mom doesn't take the time to do thier homework w them do thier laundry, cooking, cleaning, spend time reading, playing, none of it. She hides out in her room most of the time on her phone or comp, according to the kids. Thier teachers have commented on the difference when they are with us as aposed to her. Not to sit and bash her, but it's like we have to deprogram them each time they come to us, and we only have them everyother weekend. IT's a shame really. They are such loving and fun kids, but w no direction from her, it shows in thier mannerisms.

[Shawna Bride]

Where is this thread going? Lesbian strippers, 12 year old, lying spouses! LOL:w00t: :ura1: :drool:

[countrygirl]

Way to liven the thread Shawna!!

Atta Girl!!!!:cheers:

[CindySue]

Where is this thread going? Lesbian strippers, 12 year old, lying spouses! LOL:w00t: :ura1: :drool:

I KNOW......huh?

[rainbowtreat]

I read this and was like what the hell did I miss! I had to go back. though tI read them all but I was way wrong lol.

[LaceyinPgh]

Wow, I got really confused halfway through. I was getting ready to talk about public speaking and suddenly I have to comment on lesbian strippers. Gosh, I leave you all alone for a couple days and this is what I come back to!

Anyway as for manners and respect. I work with teenagers all day. I have kids that are a complete joy to have in my classroom because they are courteous, polite, respectful, hard working, and just down right pleasant to be around. I have had (I'm pretty lucky this year for not having too many of these) kids that when you know thaey are coming in you could sit at your desk and cry because they are just heathens. The thing is, if you saw the first grouping of kids' parents out and the second grouping of kids' parents out you would have no trouble matching them up either. Kids see things like actions, mannerism, ect and realize what is acceptable in their house. They also will push the limits to see how far they can really go. If you don't do something to stop that or to show that they went too far, if just cycles out of control.

As for the original question on the thread, God help our guests. Sean is always running huge business meetings and teaching symposiums at conferences. I stand in front of really tough critics and talk all day too. I sure hope those people don't mind sitting for a long time. We will definately be making a speech to thank our guests for being there and to thank our parnets for being so wonderful. (Sean and I were both really lucky to have great parents growing up - insane sometimes but great.) If you are worried about public speaking, the first thing to remember is to keep it short and sweet, "We want to thank everyone for coming. It is wonderful to know that so many people have gahtered to support us in our marriage. We want to thank our parents who have raised us to be the people taht we are today. They all modeled wonderful examples of marraige and parenthood that we hope to follow." The second thing to remember is that these peole are not there to judge you. They aren't grading or scoring you. They aren't going to take points off because you didn't do it right. They are your friends and your family. They are there because they care about you. You have spoken one on one with every single one of these people. There is nothing different about the situation only that you are speaking to them all together instead of one at a time.

[Shawna Bride]

Lacey, that sounds great, I hope you don't mind if I borrow from you??

And thanks for bringing this thread back to the speech and not lesbian strippers! LOL

[WebLady]

Well I have to comment about the kids thing too ... One of the things that bugs me the most is when some kid will run or walk right by you and not say excuse me! Then when you are at a movie or restaurant (or even a wedding) and some kid is screaming :bbrolleyes: One time my DH and I went out to eat and I saw this family in front of us with like 5 obviously unruly kids and when we were seated I said to the hosted "Can we sit in the no kids section?" She laughed and sat us far from them ;) Man, I am so glad my niece isn't a bad kid, (she is only 2) and I hope she doesn't turn out like that. If she does, I will have a hard time being around her.

Ok now as for the toast/speech thing. I like the idea of a special toast to parents and special people.

I was going to write something for my Dad but I didn't want to start trouble with my mom as I don't feel the same about her. My dad was not the ideal father when I was young (my mother definitely wasn't) but as an adult my daddy has always been there for me when I needed him. He is loving and emotionally supportive and encouraging of me and he has always shown me unconditional love, no matter what I did and even if he didn't agree with what I did in my life. He tells me he is proud of me and what I have become. He loves and accepts my husband, even if he doesn't come around except for holidays (mostly because of my mom). He never askes for anything, he always says he just wants me to just be happy. I don't get that from my mom. Ok, I am about to cry ... I haven't helped much, sorry.

[usahgrad]

I know I'm going to say something at the wedding because I want to make sure that certain people who did wonderful things for us are publicly recognized and Jason has already nominated me as the DH (this time it is Designated Hitter, Nikki :)). He's kind of shy. I'm not sure if he will toast me or not, but I don't expect him to do something if it's going to make him uncomfortable.

I'm not quite sure what I'm going to say yet but I still have a little while (and a lot of boring evenings at work) to figure it out! ;)