Jenfur427
03-01-2008, 08:02 AM
I am engaged to be married on April 19th 08. It's going to be a small wedding, with my family and our friends there. DF's family will not be there, they do not support our relationship. I have two kids from a previous abusive marriage. DF's parents view me as the person who ruined their son's life. He has a great job, has a bachelor's degree, lived at home with his parents until he graduated college and moved in with me. So in their eyes, he should have never saddled himself up with someone with kids, and has to deal with the constant drama of her ex-husband and his crazy dramatic girlfriend. Not my problem, right? Basically, we used to live about 10 minutes away from them, and at one point, DF actually told me to move out and broke up with me. The pressure from his family got to be too much. We ended up getting back together, he packed up and moved to TX to be with me. Didn't even tell them that he was leaving, just up and moved. He knew that he wanted to be with me, and knew that we'd never have a chance living so close to his family. So he moved, and we've been happy every since.
So the relationship with them has been strained at say the least. No contact from them except for the obligatory call on Christmas. DF's dad is finally talking to him again, but NO contact from DF's mom. It's just hard for me, because they were always such a close family, and I feel like I came in between that. And it's hard for me to get completely excited about planning the wedding, when I know his family won't be there. His family being there doesn't affect me one way or another, but I know that DF is upset about it, even though he won't talk about it. DF invited his father, but his father said he won't come, because it would upset his mother.
We've been together for 16 months, and knew each other for 4 years before we got together. You would think that they'd be over it by now.
I'm just frustrated. Thank you for letting me vent.
So the relationship with them has been strained at say the least. No contact from them except for the obligatory call on Christmas. DF's dad is finally talking to him again, but NO contact from DF's mom. It's just hard for me, because they were always such a close family, and I feel like I came in between that. And it's hard for me to get completely excited about planning the wedding, when I know his family won't be there. His family being there doesn't affect me one way or another, but I know that DF is upset about it, even though he won't talk about it. DF invited his father, but his father said he won't come, because it would upset his mother.
We've been together for 16 months, and knew each other for 4 years before we got together. You would think that they'd be over it by now.
I'm just frustrated. Thank you for letting me vent.