Is there ANY possible way?

[CarlosHoney]

I don't know if you remember her, but I've talked about the psycho chick from :censored: before. She's the girlfriend of one of our groomsmen. She's been nothing but disrespectful, and everyone knows that we don't get along. I don't even want her in my house anymore, mainly becausae I don't want her spewing her negativity all over my son. She's cause a rift in our group of friends several times. She's alcoholic, loud mouthed, inonsiderate, RUDE, abrasive, and above all, mean spirited. I don't want her there.

But, they will have been together for a year and a half at the time of our wedding. Is there any possible way that I can not invite her? I really don't want her there. I'm afraid that she will cause a scene. I mean, she showed up to our baby shower in a tank top, and you could tell that her nips were peirced. Come on!! :bbmad:

[CindySue]

Hmmmmmm? Wish I could help you on this one, but I dont have a clue as to what you should do here. Is it possible to talk to the GM about it? Does he know theres a problem? Unless they break up between now and then, Im afraid you might be stuck with her. But hopefully Im wrong!
Good Luck Girl!!!!

[CarlosHoney]

Yeah, he knows that I can't stand her. I was dealing with her pretty well until Carlo's Birthday dinner. She was talking abouthow she hates kids, can't stand them, never wants them, and how they're so horrible. Then, looks down the table at us, and says "No offense, I know y'all are proud parents and all."

That was the straw that broke the camel's back. I've had it. She's not welcome in my house, and I don't want her at my wedding. I'm really afraid that she's going to cause a scene, since she does it so often.

I think that they might break up, though, seeing as every other day they're having a huge fight. I'm keeping my fingers crossed, and in the meantime, I'm going to talk to Carlo about it.

[Shawna Bride]

What about asking her to go out for coffee and having a 'heart to heart'? Maybe if you two are alone you could find out more about her, and what makes her tick. I find people like that are different in groups. Some people love to be center-stage and act out in groups. Maybe you can ask her to keep the drinking to a minimum. Or you could point her out to the bartender and ask him to water down her drinks??
I know it's a difficult situation, but you can't not invite her I don't think.
Keep us posted, and we're here for you in the mean time!

[CarlosHoney]

Shawna, sorry to say, but been there, done that. We've had a group talk, one on one talks, It's been over a year since these problems have started. I don't know what else to do. We are having a cash bar, so if she wants to pay for her own drinks, good for her. I really have given her so many chances.

She doesn't like Carlo and I, either. She really doesn't want to be around us, and does things to disrespect us. I think I'm going to have to talk to her boyfriend. Even beyond just the wedding, if she wants to be around me, she is going to either have to be respectful, or be quiet.

Thanks for the input, though. I've tried and failed at being her friend.

[CindySue]

There are people that no matter how hard you try, you just can not be friends with them. I know a few like that myself. Dont worry about it. Like you said, you tried. You cant do much more than that.
Too bad you couldnt tell her, "Well seeing as to how you dont like me or Carlo, we know you wont want to be invited to our wedding. We will send you an announcement, though."

[CarlosHoney]

Actually, that doesn't sound too bad. ;)

[CindySue]

Actually, that doesn't sound too bad. ;)

Very polite, not rude....but definitely gets the point across.