Becoming Bridezilla!!!

[Jenn060306]

I think i might just loose it soon!

The last two days have been :censored: The weather has been miserable, so bad they closed the college (which they almost never do because they'll loose their funding if they arn't open so many days out of the week). Yesterday after i dropped Mark off at work i was driving to Newmarket and got caught in the slush on the side of the road that the plows leave and spun out. i did a couple 360's before i came to a stop on the shoulder facing the wrong direction and about 6" away from falling into the 4' deep ditch. :bbeek: Thankfully i didn't! I got home to find they are doing snow removal in the parking lot of our apartment building this morning so that means i would have to drive to school which is a 5 min walk away. And to top it off my computer is giving me grief and taking about 30min to open my file in photoshop. I gave up and went to bed.
This morning i woke up, turned the TV to the local news and they are saying not to go out if you don't have to, the roads are treturous. Blowing snow, white out conditions, and all the freezing rain we had yesterday is complete ice now! JOY! But i still had to go out because of the snow removal.
So i go over to drop my RSVP card and Map Cards off to the printer. I was really happy that they said i could pick them up this afternoon. When i hoped to bring back my Invitation design file. Because i was hoping that Mark had finally spoke to Father Steve to get the confirmation that we can have the ceramony at Our Lady of the Lake. I waited all afternoon and didn't hear from Mark... So i call at 330pm cause he should be between lessons. But nobody answers the phone, i leave a message thinking he'll call me back in half an hour. I finally call again at 5pm and one of the shadow teachers answers and won't let me talk to Mark cause he's in a lesson. Anyone eles there knows that when i call its because its really important. It's not cause i felt like saying hi. So finally Mark calls me back and gives me the good news that its confirmed and we can go ahead and print the invitations! Great Cause my mom has been on my back about it and saying that Mark's behaviour has been really unacceptable.
I run over to the copiers. All exsited because it was going to be something eles to cross off my list! But NOOOOO! They closed early because of the weather! So now i'm stuck... I e-mailed them the file but i have no way of knowing if they got it. And i have to be in Newmarket by 915. And they don't open until 10am. I will call in the morning to confirm. But i'm so annoyed by this all. I have only asked Mark a dozen times to get a confirmation for me. I started asking him early last week. I am so sick of him waiting until the very last minute to do somthing!
I was so grumpy i decided to get myself a frozen pizza, pineapple, and chocolate fudge crackle ice cream tonight. I'm on my own, pretty much all my friends have gone home because it's reading week. And i'm grumpy as all :censored:
I guess i will spend the rest of the night addressing and organizing my envelopes. Sorry for the vent! I am tired and cold today.

[Shawna Bride]

Oh Jen, I hate days like that. Don't worry, you will read this post in a few days and laugh at yourself! I really hate the snow and slush, and it seems like Newmarket is the worst for it. Usually it takes me 30 min to get to work, and on Friiday it took an hour and a half! It's so frustrating. Especially since I quit smoking and don't smoke in the car anymore. Do you know how upseting it is to be stuck in traffic and not smoke!!!
Well, not that I've ranted and raved on your thread, you must be even more annoyed!

Let's talk abouut happy things, how are the plans going?
Where did you get your invitations done anyway?
:p

[Jenn060306]

LOL not to worry about ranting on the post.... i used to drive to Vaughn every day from work and get stuck on the 400. I hated it. I've never smoked so i can't relate to that. But traffic... sucks! Esp. Yonge st. on a saturday...

The good thing is my file went through ok and they are going to print them today or monday morning! YAY! That makes me feel better!
I am having them printined in Barrie near where i am going to school It's called Georgian Copy. I designed them myself, and the printing is $2.75 for 11x17 cardstock full colour. In totally my invites, rsvps, map cards printed will cost me about $120.00 then i bought envelopes at staples for $25.00 for 350. :D
Today i am feeling much better.... yesterday i thought i was just going to cry. Plus i was annoyed with Mark not being arround to talk to so i felt so alone. But today i am happy! Bridezilla has gone back to sleep.

[Shawna Bride]

My bridezilla pops out once and a while too, I think it's expected.
That's really cheap for the invitations, good for you! We spent quite a bit more.

[Jenn060306]

My bridezilla pops out once and a while too, I think it's expected.
That's really cheap for the invitations, good for you! We spent quite a bit more.
When we first started to look i found that everything was terribly over priced. And i didn't see a DIY one at Micheals i liked either. And since i'm in Graphic Design.... Why not do them myself?! I think that's where most of my costs were saved. And... there is no embossing or metalic inks.
I'm thinking i would really like to get into the invitation design business when this is all done.

[LaceyinPgh]

Don't feel bad at all sweetie. The closer the wedding day gets the more irritatable that I become. I don't exactly have a nice, warm, and fuzzy personality to start with and now with all of this wedding stress and everyone getting on my nerves, I am in a "take no prisoners" state of mind 100% of the time anymore. My mother and I got into a verbal fight at the florist today because she thinks I should have my crinoline, bra, and panties all preserved. I flipped out, I have every intention of selling the crinoline because who the hell needs one sitting around for 50 years. As for the $50 bra and $12 panties, those will be worn again. Why on earth would I save them. My mother is a very sweet sentimental person to the point that she saves EVERYTHING. It annoys me but normally I just ignore it. Today however I flipped out and told her that was the dumbest idea that I ever heard. (I still believe that it is a stupid idea and huge waste of money.) It went back and forth until I shrieked that it was my **** wedding and if I wanted to set fire to the stuff I would. I felt bad for the florist. But if she is going to be around me as the wedding gets closer, I feel that it is more humane to just get her used to it now instead of slapping her with it later.

Don't feel bad. Yucky weather makes for yucky moods. I was fine today until I woke up to a bunch of snow and ice. Yucky moods are only made worse by stress and working, going to school, and planning a wedding can lead to some stress.

Sorry to hijack your thread with my story. But, we all know that you aren't anything close to a bridezilla. A bridezilla would have called the manger of the store and home and complained to him at the top of her lungs until he risked his own life to come and give her the RSVP cards just to shut her up.

[Jenn060306]

Awww Lacey.... Don' feel bad about telling me your story. I actually enjoy everyones storys and experiences. Honestly it makes me feel better knowing that other perfectly nice and sweet girls are facing some of the same challenges i am. It kinda makes you feel a little more normal.
I think i would have freaked if my mom suggested that too! I have no idea if i will be wearing a cinolin.... I have to try on the dress once it's here before i can decide. And for undergaraments.... i would think that i would save them for special occasions. Probaly wouldn't make them apart of my regular rotation.
I called this morning to confirm that they got my file. Ali said he did and was going to start on them this afternoon and they should be ready to go Monday morning. I wouldn't have freaked out on them because they do all my printing for school etc. And they gave me an AWSOME deal. They said they'd give me the student price for printing rather then the price they would have normally charged for printing invitations which is about $3.50 for an 11x17 sheet. :bbeek: I will be super happy to pick everything up on Monday! I can look forward to cutting them all out and mounting them to black paper.... and cutting them out again! LOL! why?! Don't know. But i will post a picture. The prototypes i made looked really nice :bbmrgreen:

[LaceyinPgh]

See it all worked out. Sometimes I think we all just get a little impatient from the wedding stress. We just want it done and over with. **** any person who stands in our way. :bb:

The invites sound pretty. I can't wait to see them. I always admire anyone who can do the diy thing. I on the other hand have had my invitations since January and still haven't touched them to address them. I need to do that today and tomorrow.

[Jenn060306]

I've got about 90% of them addressed right now... i need a couple more addresses and i am good to go! I haven't figured out when i want to send them yet. Probaly mid-march. Does that sound ok?!

[LaceyinPgh]

I've got about 90% of them addressed right now... i need a couple more addresses and i am good to go! I haven't figured out when i want to send them yet. Probaly mid-march. Does that sound ok?!

If you sent out save the dates or if it is a small list, you would be safe sending out the local invites 6 weeks ahead of time. Any international ones should probably go out 8 weeks ahead of time. I have a friend who sent out hers for her April 22 wedding in the begining of February which is about 10-12 weeks before the big day. That just seemed WAY too early.

[CindySue]

Im with Lacey.....The closer it gets to my wedding the "b*tchier" I become, plus the nasty weather here definitely isnt helping. We had a calendar set up with things we are needing to do to the house before the wedding. And instead of seeing the cold damp weather and rearranging a few things and working on indoor projects this weekend, I blew up because we couldnt do what I wanted to do, what we had planned to do outside. I have little less than 3 months (plenty of time to get this stuff done) but I bawled and squawled that my wedding was ruined, all my planning for nothing, blah, blah.....you get the picture. I think about it now and Im :bbredface: . I dont act like that. Brian finally told me to shut up and get over it.....he wasnt God and last time he checked he couldnt control the weather so I needed to quit b*tching at him. I wasnt b*tching AT him, but TO him.....but guys just dont get that sometimes.
I think we will all have our "bridezilla" moments. Some worse than others, but we will all have them. Hopefully when its all said and done we can look back on them and laugh!

[Jenn060306]

I wasnt b*tching AT him, but TO him.....but guys just dont get that sometimes.
I think we will all have our "bridezilla" moments. Some worse than others, but we will all have them. Hopefully when its all said and done we can look back on them and laugh!

Oh.... i have had mark tell me to suck it up and get over it which really didn't make me feel better. He's pretty good about getting the b*tchin to not at.
I'm worry about having some more major 'moments' the closer we get.... so far i have been cool calm and collected. 99% of the time.

[CindySue]

Oh.... i have had mark tell me to suck it up and get over it which really didn't make me feel better. He's pretty good about getting the b*tchin to not at.
I'm worry about having some more major 'moments' the closer we get.... so far i have been cool calm and collected. 99% of the time.

Depending on how much you still need to do, you could make it a point to spend at least 1 night a week with Mark talking and/or doing anything BUT wedding stuff. That has definitely helped us be able to handle situations that have come up more calmly.

[Jenn060306]

Depending on how much you still need to do, you could make it a point to spend at least 1 night a week with Mark talking and/or doing anything BUT wedding stuff. That has definitely helped us be able to handle situations that have come up more calmly.

Definatly... we try. But because he doesen't get home until 1030pm most nights and leaves at 730 in the morning it makes it tough to spend time together. We don't usually talk wedding during the week. Either Sunday or Mondays when he's off we do a bit.
We try to take one day a month that we call 'Nervous Breakdown Day' and we rent a bunch of movies and order pizza and stay in our pj's all day. It's a nice break from reality!

[CindySue]

A "nervous breakdown day"? That sounds sooooo awsome. I might try that but if Im not dressed within an hour of being out of bed, my kids will be asking me if Im sick. HEY!!!! Maybe I should say yes, then they can take care of me all day!

[bnd94]

LOL! Just be happy you are not being filmed.

I watched bridezilla the other night. That has to be so embarassing watching yourself blow up on national television! :bbredface:

Some of those brides get really scary! LOL!!

I have bridezilla moments already and I am 7 months away from our wedding. LOL! Watch out! :bblol:

[CarlosHoney]

Luckily, everyone has cooperated nicely, or there would be a beast on their hands... hehe.

http://www.dailypepper.com/mt/archives/bridezilla.jpg

[Jenn060306]

LOL i've seen that show.... it's horrifiying. I worry that i will get that way.... Carrie that picture rocks!

I love my 'nervous break down days' i look forward to them all month. it's a great escape from school, work, wedding.... both of us feel much better having that day to recover from everything.

[CarlosHoney]

Yeah, I haven't really had any........yet. I'm sure when something goes wrong, then I might. So far, I've only gotten mad at my mom for lying to be about what/when she has paid for things. Grrr to say the least. But I'd get mad if it wasn't wedding related, so I feel like that doesn't really count.

I'm not so much excited and nervous as I am a ball of planning. I'm in the zone right now. I might have to take a Wedding Free Week to calm down. I spend all day looking at pictures and ideas online, and end up not getting much else (not wedding related) done.

[Jenn060306]

I'm feeling the same way today.... I got 2 wedding magazines yesterday so i have been more interested in reading those and finding ideas on the internet the i have been in doing my work. I have a rendering i have to do for a client, and i am just not in the mood today. I would rather be doing anything eles. I will probaly break down and do it tonight. If i had my computer i would be designing my seating cards, and chart, menu cards and table numbers.... all the print material.... cause its so much fun!

[CindySue]

I'm feeling the same way today.... I got 2 wedding magazines yesterday so i have been more interested in reading those and finding ideas on the internet the i have been in doing my work. I have a rendering i have to do for a client, and i am just not in the mood today. I would rather be doing anything eles. I will probaly break down and do it tonight. If i had my computer i would be designing my seating cards, and chart, menu cards and table numbers.... all the print material.... cause its so much fun!

Im glad most of my stuff is done, because like you, I will totally get wrapped up in wedding stuff and forget about everything else. Im sure there are times when my family feels neglected.