Help!!

[dee177]

My fiance and I are having a major argument and my parents just keep saying when I ask the for advise about it is 'oh you'll have to sort that one out between you we're not getting involved' - Thanks mum. We are inviting 80 people to the day time reception sit down meal so I have 40 slots for guest and Leighton also has 40 slots for his family and friends.

The thing is we have mutual friends and I said to share those friends out between our guest places as it only fair. But he kicked up a fuss saying "I dont think so they were your friends first, I met them through you" so im having to use up MY guest spaces on friends that belong to both of us. Im so frustrated that he just doesnt see my point!!!! help

[Jenn060306]

Maybe you could break up your guest list into 3 groups insted of 2. 26 for your family, 26 for hishis family, and 26 for both of your friends. That will leave you 2 extra to put somewhere on the list.
Or... allocate a number of spots on each list for friends, in the end if one has more then the other the extra's can go on the other ones list.

Hope this helps! It's so tough to make the decisons on who you can invite.
Good luck!

[countrygirl]

That does not sound like much fun at all. Whether you were friend w them first, or he was, you are in this together, and those who are friends to both of you should be split. I agree w you %110 girl. Good luck w that one. I wish I had some advice for you. Maybe just tell him that if there isn't room for 'your' friends, them maybe there isn't room for 'his'. See how he likes that one!!!!:boxing:

[StaceyMc]

Instead of dividing the list like that, can you both sit down together and make a list, not paying attention to who invites what number of guests?

Joe and I did that and then put our lists together and added some people that we had both forgotten. We didn't try to be "even steven" on the guest list.

[KMac]

Instead of dividing the list like that, can you both sit down together and make a list, not paying attention to who invites what number of guests?

I agree with Stacey, try proposing that the two of you make a list of friends you want to invite, even if they are "his", "yours" or "mutual". Once you have the list completed, go through together and cross of any doubles of the same peopl.

Sorry you are having this problem. Friends are friends, regardless of who's they are. It can be very difficult to draw the line somewhere. I hope this helps a little. Let us know how it works out!:(
KMac

[dee177]

[QUOTE=StaceyMc]Instead of dividing the list like that, can you both sit down together and make a list, not paying attention to who invites what number of guests?
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Thanks alot guys for your suggestions. I think Im gong to go with the above. It does make sence just to make a list instead of alocating who invites who, just as long as Leighton knows I was right all along haha.xx

[WhiskeyGirl]

[quote=StaceyMc]Instead of dividing the list like that, can you both sit down together and make a list, not paying attention to who invites what number of guests?
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Thanks alot guys for your suggestions. I think Im gong to go with the above. It does make sence just to make a list instead of alocating who invites who, just as long as Leighton knows I was right all along haha.xx


dee177, It shouldn't be about who is right and who is wrong. I'm sorry but I need to point that out!! (And I hope you don't take offense to this!!) I agree that making a list together is the best way to do things, it will allow you both to feel more ease when putting it together. I wish you the best of luck!

[dee177]

No I havent taken offence at all, The bit about me being right was just a bit of a joke as we compromise about most things, It was just this particular situation was difficult to work out but thanks to everyones help its all sorted now.

[9801crystal]

This is no big deal. When your wedding is said and done and over with. You will be laughing about this. Hey atleast your friends are invited and they have a place to sit. Why don't you make a table that has reserved sign on it. That has bride and grooms friends. Which would make it easier.

Don't get mad at your mom she is right. It is not good to gripe about marital problems with your fiance or husband to people. Because you know how people can be. They will judge and when you work things out. They judge you even more. So it sounds like your mom is doing good by saying that is between you two. Just think it is only over seating it is in your control.
Crystal