Wedding Stress

[WebLady]

Stress and anxiety is fairly common when it comes to weddings; what is the source or your stress/anxiety?

*wait for the poll ;)

[WebLady]

We didn't have a "normal" wedding so there really wasn't much to stress about for me. I guess there was a little worry about money and how my family would deal with our little wedding.

[70707Bride]

The only thing that I can remember that I was stressing over was the fact that my aunt who came back from AZ just for my wedding was staying at my parents house, and so was I. She's been in pain from her back, and depression and stuff like that, so she was acting like it was her week, and when something didn't go as she planned or wanted, she started crying or throwing a fit! OMG it was ridiculous! And on top of everything else, that put me over the top.

For example, we just had bubbles, because we couldn't have rice to throw, which I didn't want anyway, but we could have birdseed, but I just wanted bubbles. I didn't want birdseed in my dress and getting caught on the beads and stuff. So she kept saying that she was going to get birdseed and throw it at us, she is the kind of person who would do something like that too because she thinks its funny. So I think Chris said if someone does they are loosing a limb, and I agreed, Then she ran off crying to my mom! Wtf?

Then on the wedding day, when we were going to leave the church, my aunt waited inside the doors to blow bubbles right in our face and then she was walking on my dress behind me! I was so mad! Once we got in our car, we popped the sunroof, and she was trying to pour the bubble liquid in the sunroof on me! Needless to say, I couldn't wait for her to leave to go home and for us to leave on the honeymoon!

[Kfancii]

I was getting all kinds of "help" and advice on everything from my family and friends. What kind of wedding I should have, who I needed to invite, what I should wear, etc. The guest list was getting out of hand for a "small wedding" so my FH and I decided that we were going to scrap the idea of a park wedding here in town and go to the Smokey Mountains instead. This way we will have no more than 10 guests and we can have the wedding we want instead of the wedding everyone else thought we needed.

[WBandMe]

Family, definitely. Money a little bit because it always hurts to see the costs add up, but even if we ended up over budget we'd have that money to pay...we just don't WANT to. As for family, already we're getting unsolicited input left and right. Mom's telling me who should stand up with me, his parents are suggesting how we do this or that based off of how they did it for THEIR wedding ... blah. I appreciate the input and I'm sure I'll get a lot of help and good ideas from family, but right now I want to be like "My wedding, not yours. Shut up. Thank you."

[HisMuse]

I am only stressed about these expectations and trying to make everyone happy. Not worried about anything else.

[FFC]

My main stress is money. I know I can't afford to pay for much, and my mom has agreed to fund 99% of it, but I know she can't really afford it. So once everything is paid for I'll be able to take a deep breath.

[august8bride]

My family is the biggest stress of all. In fact if I didn't have to deal with the family I'm not sure I would have any wedding stress.

[WebLady]

Looks like family and friend issues were out numbering money issues, so I separated the two in the poll.

[FFC]

Looks like family and friend issues were out numbering money issues, so I separated the two in the poll.


Whoops, mine was Money - but went with family, that would have evened them out :D

[KMS]

Our biggest wedding stress was definitely money. We didn't pay for very much of the wedding, but what we did pay for was hard on us. Then I felt guilty for all of the things that everybody else was paying for too.

[BrideInCuffs21]

The "stress" we are having... isn't related to wedding, its more relationship issues... many issues running from love, trust, children, friends, and stupid things.... ugh.. men in general...

[NOTKT]

My mom and money are tied.

[sweetvenus]

Money is definitely our biggest stress factor. FH and I broke up for a month or two last year, and in that time I bought a house and a new car, then we got back together and he proposed, but now my savings account is drained, lol. This is my second wedding, so my family is not really interested in helping finance another, and his family can't afford to help out, so we are on our own.

[Danielle9608]

I said other because their wasn't an option for future in laws :bbeek:

ETA I guess I could have voted for family and friends, but they are really the only ones stressing me out at this point.

[Nekochanpurr]

Money, hands down. I could handle everything else.. But all the surprise stuff that drains my account.. then i have to pray until the next paycheck comes that it'll be enough to start saving for stuff again instead of living paycheck to paycheck.. Yuck.

[TangoWedding]

I said other. The only thing that has stressed us out at all is trying to get everything under control as far as planning it all ourselves. Just trying to figure out what goes where and when has been the biggest issue.

I wouldn't go as far as saying we're stressed about the wedding, though. It's been pretty easy flying. So far. :monkey:

[sjk1431]

ours right now is money it's a pain. :purplex:

[smileyone2002]

I am just worried about money....I am worried that things arent going to get paid for...we have 4 months left and we havent paid for anything big at ALL.:purplex:

[woohoo2me]

im going to say money, we have alot going on right now that costs alot of money and we are paying for it ourselves so money is very tight, family is a close second, very very very close second!!!!

[SouthernQueenBride]

I checked other b/c I am most stressed about just getting things done in time! I really want to do all these great little extras ... but it is a lot of stuff to do!!!
I know I will feel better as soon as I mail off the invites ... and my stress level will go down a notch ... but it is all the little things that are starting to pile up and they would not matter so much to anyone else ... but they matter to me!