Anyone else WTT

[Diamend]

As much as I want to start TTC.... right now I need to settle (and learn to be happy with) WWT (Waiting to Try). I sooo badly wanna make a baby, it's driving me crazy! But right now, we just can't! We are looking at houses now to buy and financially I would be scared out of my mind to have a baby now! But..... I still want one!!!

Anyone in the same boat??? How do you get over it???

[WebLady]

I have no advice other than to just think about what is best for you and DH and the baby you want to have. Do you really want to deal with the struggle and stress?

But I don't understand how "WWT" means "Waiting to Try"

[Diamend]

OOps... I meant WTT.... sorry :)

[WebLady]

OOps... I meant WTT.... sorry :)

hehe - I see, I will change the thread title for you ;)

[Smashingpennies]

We waited two years before we started trying; adding a baby to the mix also changes the whole aspect on the realationship. It does not matter if you have known the guy or girl your whole life, a baby changes everything. No more being able to pick up and just go away for the weekends and going out with friends all night. I love my kids and I am glad I have them; but I have to plan ahead so much now if we are going to go out.

[lizardbnorton]

I'm in the same boat. I want to have children so bad right now. We are planning on waiting 2 or 3 years, so that we can have some us time and some time to save up money to buy a house. I also want to be in a house before I have children.

[Goin2thechapel]

My husband and I have been married for a year and a few months now. We are waiting until at least next November to TTC, then we'll be married for two years. It's such an individual choice. There's times that I think about how great it would be to start our family sooner than later, but there are other times that th thought of a baby freaks me out! LOL....Right now we're going to a class at the hospital called "Maybe a baby: Preconception." That's scheduled for next week. But I would wait as long as you feel you should. It's such an individual choice that no one can make but you and your spouse. :) Good Luck Hun!

[WBandMe]

We're planning to start TTC 4 or 5 years from now. After we get married we want to pay my student loans off and buy a house and also just have some time to be together. In spite of me still having 1.5 semesters left of college and us not being married yet, it's already hard for me to wait sometimes! 2 of my closest HS friends had babies last year and another one is pregnant, then there's a handful of acquaintances that are pregnant/parents. Sometimes I feel like there's something wrong with me for waiting. Although, other times I think about how much I love sleeping in, coming and going as I please, being able to take random trips and spending money quite freely, and then it doesn't sound so hard to wait hehe.

[ChibiAiChan]

I want to... but hubby doesn't =( It wouldn't be a good idea right now anyways considering we want a house and I want to stay at home with my kids.... which will never happen. Because it takes two incomes. This sucks.

[WendyNC]

Even just being pregnant changes the relationship. I have been a pretty "good" pregnant person ... no raging hormones or fits or anything ... but I do get moody. I know what is happening to me and why so I really try to keep it to myself but sometimes I just feel so HATEFUL toward my husband for no reason at all. And then I will turn around and feel incredibly clingy. And then I will be sad and sensitive. This is not an every day thing, it only happens once every couple weeks but it is still annoying. Not to mention I get tired kind of easy, which also makes me pissy. I can't imagine going through this if our relationship were not stable.

[Jenn060306]

We waited a bit. Planned on waiting a year before TTC. But after some medical problems we started TTC right away.

You need to do what's best for you and your DH. Having little ones is going to be fantastic. But you both have to be on board. For the time being, enjoy all the things you won't be able to do as easily when you have little ones. Going out on a whim, staying out late, the peace and quiet and SLEEP! he he he!

The time will go by quickly.

[Diamend]

You ladies are great!! Thanks for all the advice, support, encouragement and warning!! ;) I know all these things, as I am experiencing it with my best friend just having my little neice and very very soon (8 weeks) my little sister having one.... hopefully that will suffice me for a while!

[Diamend]

Well, as I am falling more and more in love with my new little nephew, I want a baby more and more!! It is soooo hard to wait, but I know I have to!!! grrr:(

[Jamie'sBride]

I was in the same boat...I always joke that I've been "ready" since I was a baby. It took Jamie a little longer, but I waited until he told me he was ready. He kept saying he wanted to have a place to put a baby, LOL...so the week before we met with our Realtor, also Valentines Day, he told me he was ready. Best Valentine's Day gift I ever got. :wub:

The trying is killing me...well, not the actual trying.:tongue: Wondering when I'm ovulating, counting the dates on the calendar, wanting desperately to take a pregnancy test early, already questioning what I eat and what medicines I take just in case... I'm just so impatient with it. But I understand how you feel. As stressful as this is for me now, taking that birth control pill every day was worse.

[joeyz_gurl]

I am ready like 10 years ago... Joey and i talked this morning ... he wants to wait until November or december after the wedding... practical brat... but every day that i see babies, or watch my niece... it gets harder to wait!

[rainbowtreat]

As for the part of how it changes a relatioship. it was hard on my ex husband and I. We had one right away but that was kinda why we got married. We wanted a baby. A year later we tried for our second. By the time I was half way through my pregnancy thigns were going sour. By the time the second was 1 1/2 we were split up. All for the better for all of us.

But I met my husband now and we had a baby a year after we were married. ( one month after our 1st annv. ) and it has not chagned us at all. Granted I have my first 2 so we were used to having kids around. But he never had a baby around. If anything it has brought us closer together. He dealt with my pregnancy just as much as I did. It was the 2 of us that were having a baby not just me. If I was moody he dealt with it if I was hungry and had no idea what I wanted he kept at me to figure it out and then went and got it. He was just as much part of the pregnancy as I was.

As for the waiting prat I have no idea how to do it. I never waited. We tried rigth away. I always wanted 3 before I was 30. I got my 3rd at 31 so I guess that is not to bad.

[StarCoveter]

totally in the same boat here! We were so ready to start trying, I was doing a TON of research, we even visited a hospital maternity ward. We thought we had considered everything to decide if we were indeed ready. And emotionally, WE ARE.

But then we visited some friends who have a 3-month old and found out how much they were spending on child care. :bbeek: Totally slapped us in the face with it - it's practically a second mortgage!

So we've decided to wait until next June or so. Give us 10 months to save and also pay down what little debt we have. We're also going to find homes for a few of our "babies" (we have 7 cats), which is killing me inside. I hate the idea, but I just don't know if I'd have the time/energy to keep up with them (and what they do to my house!!!) if I have an infant also. Just getting down to 4 cats would help so much!

So anyway, I know the feeling. All my friends have babies, people at work are pregnant. I want a baby now!

[Hope75]

Oh Yeah we are sooo there. We've had the baby bug for about a year and are the last of our friends to get married and have babies.

We have been doing research and plan to 'officially' start trying next month (we are getting married in 5 weeks, own our own home and have for almost 6 years, both in solid, good paying careers, great health insurance, etc, and are 33 and 32 now.)

We're 'kinda' trying this month... we'll see what happens!

Good luck to all those TTC or planning to!:D

[saltyveruca]

We're waiting, too.

My husband is totally ready to go, though! In fact, I had a pregnancy scare about a month ago and you'd think it was Christmas morning. He just can't wait to be a father-he's older than I am and he loves, loves, loves kids. It doesn't help that our niece is about the cutest, most well behaved child on the planet.

I am not so ready. I'm about 5 years younger than him and I like my life the way it is right now. :D But at the same time, I'm excited about having a baby.

We're waiting, for now, because I just want some more stability. I have individual health insurance right now and it doesn't have maternity coverage, so that's a big obstacle. I'd either have to change plans and pay a lot of money, or give up my sweet job to get a corporate gig with benefits. I'm also curious to see what our next president does with health care. That's a little sad, isn't it-waiting for a political event to see if you can have a baby?

On top of the insurance issue, we are *thisclose* to buying a new house, and I don't want to be pregnant or have a young child while we're in the middle of that.

AND we are still trying to raise our first baby...our business. It's going well right now, but I want to wait until we've had an extended period of time when the business is strong.

All of that said, if I found out tomorrow that I was pregnant, I know we'd be OK and the both of us would pretty much fall all over ourselves in happiness. :D

[Lang2b]

I love my son more than anything.....what happened to me was I got proposed 2 days before my birthday and then on my bday i found out i was pregnant...it was so unexpected and I was almost depressed because I wanted our wedding and to spend us time but we dealt with it. We enjoyed the pregnancy and a few months with our son. now I am taking the time to plan the wedding and enjoy that to. i didnt want to rush I wanted to enjoy both of them. I do miss sleeping in a lot. Im a stay at home mom and go to school full time and that gets stressful. But do what u think is right I wish we would have been a little more careful but I love him and wouldnt change anything....good luck take your time.