I find this hard to believe.

[rainbowtreat]

OK I have mentioned about my friend being pregnant and thinking about giving the baby up for adoptions seeing she has 4 and cant deal with them. For the baby I think it is best. I dont like how she is with her kids some of the times. But that is another story. She is living with her mom so I know the kids are in a good home.

What I am fiding hard to beelive is that my friend was not yet divorced from her husband when she got pregnant by this guy. They had been seperated for almost a yr by the time this happened. but she has been told that the law in this state states that the biological father has o say in this matter. She was still married when she conceived so her ex is the LEGAL father. They are telling her that in order to give the baby up her now ex husband has to sign off his rights as well. The "sperm donor " ( sorry I dont like the guy much ) doenst have any rights at all. What kind of law is this any way? Have any of you heard anything like this before? What kind of state am I livig in? Should I rethink this? lol I mean if this law is on the books I can just imagine what else is there.

[Hayz]

If she doesn't want any more kids what the **** is she doing pregnant. Has she not heard of safe sex.

Sorry just had to put my 2 cents in there. I really don't understand people like this. I know accidents do happen but if its something you really don't want then they should be extra careful.

I find it really strange that the ex is the legal father. It should be the biological father - it was his contribution after all. And what if he wanted to do the decent thing and raise the kid himself, even if the mother isn't interested.

The kid has the right to know who is parents are should be with his siblings.

Don't get me wrong - I have no objections about adoption but it should be only if thats the only way to go, eg money being real real tight or the likes of rape victims etc.

[rainbowtreat]

I am with ya on this. But with all that aside I thought this law was kinda stupid.

[WebLady]

I have never heard anything like this. But I heard something once that the biological father has no rights unless they were married when the baby was born. As for someone else having rights, I don't think I have heard anything about that.

So you are saying she was married and got pregnant by another guy? Then I don't think her husband would have any rights (as long as the kid isn't his) If the father wants, I am sure he could sue her for right to adopt the kid.

There may be different laws on this in different states though.

[CarlosHoney]

Well, I sure hope that she gets her tubes tied after this one. There's no reason not to. If I ever have another baby I'm getting them tied for sure. If I don't have another, I'll get them tied after the IUD comes out in 5 years.

[LaceyinPgh]

It is actually a fairly common law in most states. It seems rather outdated in todays more sexually liberal society. But back 100-200 years ago when these laws were written it could always be assumed that the husband was the father because who else would she have been with? If she was pregnant it was his responsibility. Those laws will slowly change in the next few years with the ease of DNA testing though.

So it isn't just your state that is behind the times, it is a lot of them.

[Valmai]

I know over here in the UK then as long as your still married then that man has certain rites and responsibilities over any children you may have. It stems from the ages when once you became married then you became his property, and any children you had were also his, the woman had no rights wotsoever to her children. As wierd as it seems these days parts of these laws still stand, if you have a child with someone and you havent got divorced from an ex then that ex has more rights over the child than the actual dad does - stupid!!!

[CindySue]

In Texas, if your still married the husband is still the "legal" father. There are ways to get around it, of course, DNA tests and such, but it can get ugly.
My step brother's new wife went through something similiar. Her ex husband went to jail for beating her. She filed for a divorce but he kept blocking it, FROM JAIL (he had a good attorney, I guess). Anyway he had been in jail for a year when she started dating my step brother and it wasnt long after, she ended up pregnant. They wanted to get married, but she couldnt get divorced from her ex until the baby was born, he filed some paper saying the child might be his......HELLOOOOO.....he had been IN jail....there was NO way the baby was his. He made her do a DNA test and everything just to be a :censored: . When they went to court SHE was made to look like the bad guy.