Changing your name?

[CarlosHoney]

This is a little bit of a spinoff of Cindy's thread about prenuotual agreements. Something that I've been thinking about is whether or not I'm going to change my name. I feel like my maiden name is just fine. Chances are I'll change it for Elias, so that his Mom and Dad will have the same name as him.

I can't say, though, that if Elias wasn't here that I would change it. What do you girls think?

[CindySue]

Carrie, Im changing mine simply because I no longer wish to have my ex's name. (Brian says thats the main reason Im marrying him.:bblol: ) I will have a different name than the kids, but they understand that, and it not out of the question that Brian may adopt them one day. If you WANT to keep your maiden name AND have the same as Elias, you could always hyphenate it: Carrie Maiden-Married. I know so many doing that now days.

[CarlosHoney]

My maiden name is Abrahamsen, Carlo's last name is Munguia.

I'm too lazy to be Carrie Gail Abrahamsen-Munguia.

[CindySue]

My maiden name is Abrahamsen, Carlo's last name is Munguia.

I'm too lazy to be Carrie Gail Abrahamsen-Munguia.

:bblol: ok......I agree! But hey....it was an idea.

[LaceyinPgh]

Carried this is something that I thought about long and hard too. I decided to keep my maiden name. At first Sean hated the idea but eventually he saw reason in the matter. I like my name. It has worked fine for the last 26 years. I don't see a need to change it. Some people (especially my mother) have a hard time dealing with my decision. But it is a personal decision. YOu could always do for Elias what I plan on doing if Sean and I ever have kids. I am hyphenating their last names because in my belief, Sean's family, heritgage, ethnicity, and history are no more important than mine. Our kids can deicde what to do later in life with their names.

[WebLady]

I changed my name when I got married, partly for the same reasons Cindy did ;) But I wanted to still somehow keep my father's name. (both my parents had been giving me heck about not changing my name back in the divorce, long story :bbrolleyes:)

Anyway, I ended up dropping my middle name and using my maiden name in it's place so I could have both names without having to go with the hyphenated long name :wink: Using my father's name is really just to have it, I don't really use it. Sometimes I sign my name with the middle initial and others with just the last name. I introduce myself using the married name.

My sister had a baby before she was married (they are engaged but haven't set a date) so she hyphenated the baby's name and she said she would do the same so that she and the baby would have the same name. But she says that no one ever pronounces the whole hyphenated name, they just say one or the other ... it kind of bugs her ;)

I remember one of my teachers in High School had a hyphenated last name.

Anyway, do what you feel is right for you.

[CarlosHoney]

Anyway, I ended up dropping my middle name and using my maiden name in it's place so I could have both names without having to go with the hyphenated long name :wink: Using my father's name is really just to have it, I don't really use it. Sometimes I sign my name with the middle initial and others with just the last name. I introduce myself using the married name.I think I might do that. I really am not attatched to my middle name. It was my great grandmother's middle name, and she really, honestly, wasn't that great. I was thinking about asking for her wedding ring, so that I could have one that was in the family, but I really don't know if I want hers. Maybe I'll ask for my great grandfather's. I didn't really get along with her. She was kind of a :censored: .

Just wondering wht everyone else is doing, though. Thanks Weblady for the idea.

[CindySue]

I think mine is like what WebLadt said....on my DL my maiden name is in the place of my middle name......hmmmm? :detective: Im gonna check into that!
I actually like Lacey's idea.....hyphenating the kids names. Because shes right, the fathers background is NOT more important than the mothers. Hell, my kids know everything there is to know about my family and hardly have anything to do with their dad or his family.

[WebLady]

I have heard of quite a few people using the maiden name in place of their middle name. Made the most sense to me :) I didn't care for my middle name anyway (not that is was really bad, just never used it) My mom wasn't happy when I dropped it, but she was the one that complained the most about my having my ex-husbands last name for so long after the divorce ... I just can't win with her though ;)

I am glad I have my husbands name, I love being him Mrs :wub: But it is nice to still have a little art of my father's name too ... I know my Dad likes it.

[Jenn060306]

I plan on taking Marks last name when i get married. I never thought about keeping my own name. I'm not sure why. I guess i just feel like it is the right thing for me to do. I love the idea of getting cards addressed to Mr. & Mrs. Rabey or hearing my kids friends call me Mrs. Rabey. It's a little strange. But.... yeah.
Hypanating our names wouldn't really work. Biggs-Rabey or Rabey-Biggs. I think it sounds very strange.

[martysgurl]

I'm excited to change my name. I'll be Sara Martin soon . My last name is double the amount of letters then that lol so i'm excited to be easy !

[rainbowtreat]

My maiden name was my moms maiden name. She never married my real father and thre for never gave me his name. I kno wmy real dad now but we are not close and my maiden name doesnt mean that much to me. I also kept my ex-husbands last name after the divorce. But my divorce papers said I had the right to change it at any time i wish to. So that was fair I thought. I kept it mailey because I knew one day I would find the right guy and remarry, and i didnt want the hassle of changing eerything more then once. My kids both have that name so i figured for their sake for now it would be better. I dont mind it. I dont hate my ex we actualy get along great "now" lol. I will be taken my FH last name, not that it means all that much to him, his mom wanted him to change it to her maidne name because his dad had nothign to do with him even though he livedin the same town all the years my FH was growing up. I asked him about changing it when we got married. There are many names he could use, from his moms maiden to his great grandmothers name ( she helped raise him while his mom worked 3 jobs cause the so called dad wouldnt help ). But he says he will keep his name. He is ok with it. And I will take his name, I can't wait to be Mrs. FH. My new last name starts with the same letter as my name now. I can just see me go to writ emy new name and write my ex's. Wondering how long that will take me to get used to.

[usahgrad]

When I was with my ex-boyfriend, we had discussed getting married and I was totally adament about hyphenating. Now, there wasn't any thought about it in my mind, I can't wait to be Kelli Sutton (sounds even more Irish than before!). I'm kind of with Carrie too...I'm entirely too lazy to be signing out Kellianne Noelle Lloyd-Sutton on all of my checks!

You wanna know the kicker to all of it? I have double ls in all three of my names at the moment (which wreaks havoc on any type of nice looking signature) so with my new name, what do I get? Two double ls and a double t! Oh well...

[WebLady]

LOL ... some people say that I have 2 first names ;)

[bnd94]

Everyone at work always yells "hey it's mr and mrs ......" now, when we walk in the shop(we work together) I really like the sound of it. I always jokingly say "oh no Danny is going to take my last name". :bblol:

So I most likely will take his last name because I just think we should have the same last name. However I like mine much better since I have a hard time pronouncing his last name, actually everyone does. :D

[CarlosHoney]

Aww, Becky, that's no fun! We both have last names that are hard to pronounce. So, either way, it's gonna be different. Elias is the only boy (so far) carrying on Carlo's name. So, we're going to use his last name. My mom's line is stopping, since her brothers aren't having any kids. And my little brother Mike is the only boy with the Abrahamsen name. So, yeah. It's one of those things.

[neeni13]

I didn't change my name legally until a year later and that was because my ID had run out and was getting a new bank account :bbconfused: although i always used my husbands name. I liked to say he no longer was a "free man" when spelling it for people

[officiant-fica]

In Mexican culture (old school) the childdren take the mothers maiden name as thier middle name and use the fathers name as the last name. So with our daughter we gave her a traditional middle name as well as my maiden name. For me now that I am married I took my DH's last name. If we have more children they will have both of our names.

[CarlosHoney]

Yeah, there are lots of people here in San Antonio like that. Very true. :)