Advice: Attendants

[CarlosHoney]

Okay, so now that I can invite up to 50 people, I can have attendants. I don't know, though. Should I?

My wedding plans have totally changed overnight. If I go for the attendants, there will only be 2 of them. And I think that we'll have Mia be our flower girl. Super cute little girl of Carlo's cousin.

http://i8.photobucket.com/albums/a36/rosesarestriped/tinkerbell1.jpg

And we could have Elias be the ring bearer. Maybe I could stitch some ribbons to the tummy of his teddy bear and he could just hold the bear in his hands while someone carries him down. We could even get a baby tux.. But I don't know if Carlo is wearing one. He ought to, right?

I'm so indecisive about all this. I'm glad that I have somewhere to stress, freak out, and vent.. And you know I'm not crazy.

Well, not any crazier than you all. :bbmrgreen:

[CindySue]

Well me and Brian got fed up with the BS our attendents were giving us so we "fired" them. We are only having our children standing up with us. Carrie, using Elias as the ringbearer sounds so cute. Carlos may not wear a tux, but what ever he decides to wear, i bet you can find a matching outfit for the baby.

[CarlosHoney]

Yeah, probably. I don't really forsee that happening with my girls, just because they're so easy going. I know that they have busy lives (and none of us have cars) so meeting up might be tough..

But my Step Mom and I are going to make the favors in a couple of weeks, and we only need, like, 5 centerpieces. I love doing all that stuff, so it won't be a problem for me. Plus, we get the reception room for 6 hours.

I figure that we can start around 3:00 by getting the room ready. At that point I would want to have the hair and makeup done, all we would need would be to get into the dresses. Then, we could get our dresses on and do the ceremony at 4:00. The reception could start by 5:00, and then we could split at 9:00. I don't want to drag it out, you know..

I'll have to talk to Carlo about it. I mean, I guess he'll probably want his brother and his cousin to be his GM. What I was thinking is that I'll get the ties for all of the guys to wear, and then have the seamstress who does my dress to make it little for Elias to wear. Or, we could just use the fabric and kind of 're-apholster' a clip on, since tying and putting it on him might be a battle.

[usahgrad]

Using Elias as a ringbearer sounds so cute! And Mia is ADORABLE!

We're using my neice as a flowergirl. She'll be almost 1 1/2.

http://i34.photobucket.com/albums/d123/usahgrad/Family%20Pics/Kitten2.jpg

I LOVE the idea of using kids (as you can see by the amount I have in my party).

As far as bms go, I can't advise one way or the other. My MoH and I talk on and off and share plans, but we haven't been able to do much for each other's weddings for one reason or another (she's getting married less that two months after me and I'm her MoH). Jason's oldest neice helped me fold our favors because she likes to do origami and could grasp how to do it really fast. His other two neices have helped me in convincing their Uncle Jason he wants to have some sort of a bachelor party. My sister has--well you've read about my sister. My other bm lives in Chicago which is really too far to do much either, but she keeps saying she's going to drag me out to get me hammered on St. Patty's Day as part of my bachelorette party. So that's how helpful my bridal party has been. Good luck with yours!

[martysgurl]

Your wedding sounds like what ours once was. We had started out small and are huge now.
When your choosing your brides maids do so with caution. Right now I have 3 girls with all different dresses and different shades of eggplant. No one relaly wanted to play nice so I just let them go nuts and pick there own. Honestly deep down I dont' care.
Just make sure when you choose your choose with your heart and your mind.
I'm having my 4 yr old as the flower girl and my 2 yr old as the ring bear.
To cute !

[CarlosHoney]

So, here it is!!

Carlo's Brother is the Best Man, my Best Friend is the MOB. His cousin and two best friends are the other GM's, and the rest of my bridal party are good friends of mine. Also having Mia (pictured above in her halloween costume) as the flower girl, and Elias (who is asleep in my lap right now) is going to be the ring bearer.

So, we have a pair of attendants for every ten people at our wedding. More than I would have liked (I was going for two) but oh well.

I chose some a dress that isn't terribly expensive, so we'll be cool!

[martysgurl]

I was the same with my girls. I didn't want them to pay alot for a dress. My MOH is wearing a fancy dress but she had picked hers out before we had planned a huge wedding. Now one of my bridesmaids bought her dress super cheap. No idea what it looks like. Only seen a picture. I think I should have more say but no one is letting me lol

[RebeccaW]

I'am using my daugter as the flower girl she is 3 and we are using joes brother as the Ring bearer and he is 9!!!

[rainbowtreat]

I am havign 6 girls in all, not counting the flower girls and my jr bride, i bought them each the patteren that I chose, 2 of the girls were with me when I picke dit out and they both said it is your wedding you choose. Then they helped me pick the colors. All of them are in a different color. The same material and the same dress but a different color. Again the 2 that were with me said it was up to me. So I bought just a sample of each color that I wanted. Gave each girl a pattern and their color of material. They are in charge of getting their dress made on time for the wedding in June. I am sorry they are not letting you have a say in YOUR wedding. My girls are great. They know it is my wedding and I want them all in it. So they are going with what I want. I am so thankful for such great friends.