Who's walking me down the aisle??

[FFC]

I'm sooo lost as to who to have walk me down the aisle.

I have a dad, who wasn't there for me from age 13-20.

I have a grandpa who was there for me.

I have a stepdad who's always there for me.

I know having my stepdad walk me down the aisle would be considered out of line, so that's no issue for me right now.

However, ever since I started planning my wedding, I had been planning on my grandfather walking me down the aisle. Well, it hit me, my dad is back in my life now (let's just say he 'went away' for 7 years). My dad is making my wedding invitations, and he has been trying over the past 2 years to be in my life.

I want my grandpa to walk me down the aisle, but I don't want to offend my dad.

What are your thoughts on having BOTH of them walk me down the aisle...

OR walking down the aisle alone... ?

Same goes for the father/daughter dance/song... but that's a whole nother thread.

[IDoTwo]

My daughters have talked about when they get married that they will be conflicted between their Dad & my husband, (their bonus Dad)

We decided that my husband will walk them the first half of the way down the aisle and then their Dad can walk them up to their husband. I think it's a lovely alternative and my husband thought it was a great idea as well.

Just a thought :)

[IDoTwo]

Same thing could work for the father daughter dance. For our Father/Daughter dance I'm dancing with my two sons. The first half of the song with my oldest son, and the second half of the song with my youngest son. Could work for two dads & a grandpa :)

[Brian's Bride]

Could you have both (one on each arm)? That's what I'm doing with my dad and my son.

[bichonlvr]

What about your mom???

I say go by yourself!!! Have them all standing at the end!

[Rainbow Brite]

I'm walking down the aisle by myself. I haven't lived under my father's roof in 10 years. I've stood on my own two feet for that long and don't need anyone's permission to marry my FH. My dad and I don't have a bad relationship - he actually knew I'd walk by myself before I even brought it up ;) He just knows how independent I am. But I couldn't deny him the father/daughter dance - I want that to be special :)

[FFC]

You all have great ideas.. I'll be considering for awhile yet :) thank you tons!

[sweetvenus]

A friend of mine had this dilemma as well. She had her real dad who she wasn't close to at all, her stepdad who raised her, her new stepdad, and her grandpa. She had her grandpa walk her down the aisle so that none of her dads would be offended. Her mom's new husband was a groomsman, and she danced with both of her stepdads at the reception.

[crazycatlady]

i agree with walking alone. :) i guess i still see it as sexist that my dad is going to "give me away". but if youre not going for a statement, then you can have 2 or even 3 walk you. i dont see a problem with that or walking alone. its your day, do what you want :) i feel the same way about my dad and if i told him he wasnt walking me down the aisle and he got upset i would just do a little reminder of "and you think you have the right to be there for me this day of my life when youve never been there before?" and he would shut up. but thats my dad, i dont know how yours would react.

[FFC]

I'm leaning towards walking alone, but I also want my grandpa to do it. I'm digging the idea of both of them... but then again, that'd be crowded :D

[crazycatlady]

people do the same thing when there are more bridesmaids or groomsmen than the other party. 2 guys will walk with one bridesmaid or vise versa.

[crazycatlady]

sorry... by the way... that rott is so pretty! is that your dog? looks like my old sadie girl! OT but just wanted to say that dog is so pretty! I love rotts!

[FFC]

I like the idea of having grandpa do it so that neither of my dads will be offended... that's awsome! I'll have to talk to Matt about it and see what he thinks.

Crazycatlady.... Yes, that's my rottie. Her name is Kitty :D She's an attention wh***... but she's soooo lovable!

[august8bride]

I would have my grandfather walk me down the aisle. Because it's the one you fell closer to, and has raised you. Because they should have the right to give you away. But that's just my opinion.