White tux on black men looks hot, but not so much on white men...HELP!!!

[Theresa Gilmore]

My fiance is the most beautiful shade of black I've ever seen and we've chosen to go with white tuxedos, sense white looks soooooo hot on dark skin. There are 6 groomsmen and 3 are black, 2 are Latin and 1 is white. White tuxedos don't really look that great on white men, would it be rude for me to request all of the non-black men to tan for our wedding?

[SerendipityCrafts]

This is just my opinion but yes, I feel it is rude to ask them to do that.

You can accessorize your decor, and may choose the attendant's outfits etc. but I wouldn't go further, by asking someone to get a tan. I think it's crossing the line.

[smileyone2002]

Honestly, I think that might be going to far. You might risk hurting someones feelings, and in the end noone is going to say.."man that white guy was so white up there..." Noone is going to notice but you and there will be so much going on that day that it wouldnt make a difference anyways! Good Luck!:flower:

[Blusher]

ya, i think thats a little to far...and besides, I know that none of my fh's friends or any of my guy friends would be caught dead tanning....
you could have the darker GM's wear white and the lighter ones wear black and then have them alternate when they're stading @ the front of the church (like white tux, black tux, white tux.....) IDK

[erika85]

your FH could wear white and have al the GM in black...He would stand out from the rest of them!:hi:

[FFC]

Asking them to tan would probably be going too far, but what about having your non-black attendants wear a black vest? Or have your FH wear a white suit, and everyone else wear black?

Maybe alternate.... since you have 6, and it's 3/3, you can alternate white, black, white black... and so on.

Like this maybe?

http://i11.photobucket.com/albums/a176/Ford4x4Chik27/groomsmanidea.jpg

[FFC]

Here's another idea...

http://i11.photobucket.com/albums/a176/Ford4x4Chik27/groomsmanidea1.jpg

[WebLady]

your FH could wear white and have the GM in black...He would stand out from the rest of them! This is what I would do.

IMO it would be quite rude to ask someone to get a tan (guy or girl) for your wedding.

[august8bride]

I like the idea of our FH wearing a white tux and the other groomsmen wearing the black tuxes.

[Nekochanpurr]

I agree with having the groom in white and the rest in black.. If i was the one white guy, i'd feel uncomfortable being asked to dressed differently because of the color of my skin.. =/ But if they all wear black, then i don't think anyone would know the difference..

[PGDesigns]

I agree that asking the "non-black" members of the wedding party to tan is crossing the line. Sure, everyone wants everything to be perfect for their wedding, but if you care enough about someone to ask them to be in your wedding, the color of their skin shouldn't matter.

If you really want your FH to stand out and make an impression in his white tux, why not just have him in white and the others in black as other posters suggested? I think most of your guests will be more concerned with you and your FH since it's your big day.

[Theresa Gilmore]

Ya, your probably right about not asking them to tan. I really wanted all of the GM to be in white but maybe I'll consider the other options you guys have suggested

[Measha]

If you really want them all in white than go for it. I don't think anyone is going to care that a white guy is in a white tux, honestly. But expecting him to tan to "blend in"...just doesn't seem right.

[Theresa Gilmore]

Its not that I want him to blend in... I just don't want him to be washed out by the white tux. It has absolutely nothing to do with that. You guys have been soo much help and have givin me some really great ideas, THANKS!!!! :D

[Nikita706]

This is just my opinion but yes, I feel it is rude to ask them to do that.

You can accessorize your decor, and may choose the attendant's outfits etc. but I wouldn't go further, by asking someone to get a tan. I think it's crossing the line.

Agreed. I would be really offended if someone asked me to tan. I'm really happy with my light skin tone and would be horrified if someone asked me to risk my health for something so trivial.

Honestly, I've seen plenty of guys in white tuxes and they looked fine. Maybe not as good as a black guy might, but I certainly didn't stop and go 'MY GOD! That suit looks HORRIFIC on that guy! He just so...WHITE!'

Anyway, I like the idea of having alternating black and white tuxes, or just having your fiance wear a white tux and the other Groomsmen wear black. But if you like the white tuxes, I really don't think anyone would think twice about a white guy in a white tux. Good luck!

[gennymac]

I really like the idea that FFC put up in post #7 for the different versions of the ruxes.

That looks really good.

Hey, but that's the really really great thing about this place - it's the safe place to ask those questions you really aren't sure you want to put out there with those toooo close.

Great luck with this !

Gen