invite question....

[woohoo2me]

i went to invite some friends from school, but i dont want them to bring a date, so on the invite should i just put their names?? or is it rude to say no you cant bring a date, bcause we cant really afford to have more people then we are going to have, but there are alot of people we want there aswell.... i know they would understand if they knew we couldnt accomidate for more people, i just dont want to come off as a b!tch.....

[Kirby]

I'm in the same boat so I will be interested to see peoples' replies.

[bichonlvr]

I honestly think it depends on their "dating" situation. I think if they have a serious BF/GF you almost have to include them. If they are just casually dating people or just beginning to date someone NO! The only other thing I would worry about too is inviting someone who does not really know anyone else coming to the wedding.

On the inner envelope you only write the 1 name!

If people do not want to come alone they will just RSVP No..nothing you can do about it you tried to include them.

What is cool is to invite a bunch of people from the same spot (school, work, church etc.) and hopefully, they will all end up coming together.

Good luck

[Camel]

We set kind of a similar rule- unless the person was in a long term relationship (meaning already married, engaged or dating longer than 1 year).

We addressed our envelopes just to that person- if we knew they were dating someone we either included their name if we knew it or simply wrote "and guest" I'll be hoenst- we had a LOT of people call and ask if they could bring a guest but we stood our ground! Also, be prepared for some who don't call and just BRING a guest or even worse people who call, are told no and bring a guest anyway!

[august8bride]

If they are friends and you are inviting a whole group of them. I think it's okay only to put their name and no guests. Because they can hang out with each other, and I'm sure they will understand if they know its a budget thing and not that you hate whoever their dating. Now it would be different if only invited a couple of them because they might feel out of place. If that makes sense.

[woohoo2me]

Also, be prepared for some who don't call and just BRING a guest or even worse people who call, are told no and bring a guest anyway!


people are going to be doing this!! :| :| :|

[heatherh321]

Honestly, I was thinking that some people would do that too (just bring a guest anyhow) Some would do it out of ignorance and others would probably do it intentionally, or thinking no one would notice. But I think you should TRY to make it clear on the invitation. Hopefully it wont screw up your headcount too much....:irked:

[august8bride]

You think people would be nice enough to only bring those who are invited. After planned everything down to the perfect detail. It's hard to believe people can be so pig headed but guess some of them are.

[lize566]

I agree with everybody else has said as far as just putting the one name on the invite.

About people bringing people anyway, DH's aunt takes care of two elderly mentally handicap women during the days a couple days a week and she RSVP'd her and the both of these women!! Now, she actually didn't even show up to the wedding, but I was so mad when I saw the RSVP!!! I've seen these women maybe 2 in 8 year of dating, and both occassions have been where there is a meal involved, like christmas day, and then I think maybe another cook-out or something. It's unbelievable how some people are!!