My future mother in law is crazy..really she is

[thetsakid]

okay so I have been trying to include her on some wedding stuff even though she says its my wedding and doesn't care...so i showed her the proof of the invitation to make sure it was okay and she says she doesn't understand why she is sooooo involved. I said well I was just trying to be nice..and she says "oh and when were you going to tell me that my girls are your flower girls" and I freaked out! since we have been engaged I asked her 2 daughters to be flowergirls and she liked the dresses and the gifts I already bought for them!!! She says I never told her anything about it! but i have a few different people that she told she liked the dressed but would have a hard time paying for them. So she is crazy! I swear. So my fiance and my mom have agreed that if any of us talk to her about wedding stuff at least 1 other person has to be there, thats childish. Oh and she just asked our minister if she could go to Jamaica on a missions trip like a week before the wedding! arg I'm so mad at her steam is coming out of my ears!!!! :urgh:

[shawnsgirl]

Yeah something sure doesn't sound right there...Have you and you FH sat down intentionally with talk about the wedding. Did you even ask her if she wanted to be included in the plans??? Not everyone always wants to be a part of wedding plans ecspecially if money and spending it is involved. It does seem though that she doesn't always listen 100% to you when you try to talk to her and is pretty self involved in her own doings..I think perhaps that you and FH may want to try and sit down and talk to her..Ask her how her feelings are about being involved in the wedding planning. Ask her if she even wants to be involved. As well, just to smooth things over just say I'm sure we talked about the girls being FG's in our wedding. I'm sorry if I wasn't clear enough about it and leave it at that...Hang in there...Perhaps, nominate FH to do a lot of the talking too.

[thetsakid]

About a few weeks after we got engaged we sat down after church and talked about wedding ideas and she was there and all she kept saying was "its your wedding" i'm just hurt and she keeps trying to make me look bad like recently she said she can't find her address book of all her family so I said well how can I send shower and wedding invitations if I dont have address and she said that it wasn't her problem but that is again going to make me look like I didn't send invites to his family! All we asked her to do was to pay for the rehearsal dinner and I told her to pick whatever she could afford and we would figure out something to help pay for her girls dresses... I just hate that I go out of my way to be nice to her and all she is a jerk but I think i'm going to just ignore her so maybe she'll stop when she seeing whatever she does doesn't affect me....

[StaceyMc]

I didn't include my MIL in my wedding plans. We didn't ask his family to pay for the rehearsal dinner either. We had pizza and a veggie tray at my parents home - it turned out wonderful and I didn't have to deal with any complaining from my MIL. DH told her what day the wedding was, when the rehearsal was, where it was and what time to be there. As it was, she made a small scene at the rehearsal and a big one at the reception.

It doesn't sound like your MIL wants to be involved, so I'd probably just stop dealing with her. Have your FH get the addresses from her and give her a deadline - if she won't give them to you and you and FH can't find them at www.switchboard.com (http://www.switchboard.com), or somewhere online, then invites don't get sent out. When someone complains, nicely tell them that your MIL didn't provide addresses as she was asked too.

When I did my sister's bridal shower, her FMIL was being a pain in the arse about addresses. I was working full time and going to school at night - I didn't have time to screw around with her FMIL. I told my sister what the deadline for addresses were or invites for FH's side of the family wouldn't be sent. It's funny - I got the addresses shortly after that.

Good luck with her!

[suzismi]

I am so glad to hear that I am not the only one that has issues with this. I know how it feels. I can tell mine information then when someone asks her something about the wedding she'll say, "Ask the bride she doesn't tell me or my son anything"...nice! It has definetly been a trying time for us. I have made so much effort to keep her up to date and then to hear that from people it makes me wish that we would have just gone away and done it and came back and told them. Anyhow, keep your chin up girl...things will get better...that is what I keep telling myself. And don't forget...it is your day!!!!