Is there a good way to approach this?

[gwennebe]

This might sound snotty and I'm sorry but...

I am in a huge dilemma. I don't know what to do and it is stressing me out big time. I asked my FMIL to make pew bows for me. Well she made a few and they looked "ok" but not what I really pictured. In fact they don't look very nice at all. I told her I needed 24 of them and she got all pissy about it and only wanted to do the first few pews. I want and will have all 24 pews decorated but that's not the huge point.

Is there a nice way to let her know this without hurting her feelings? I'm already not on the best terms with her. I'm so stressed out over this and afraid my wedding will be ugly if I don't do something. I'd rather just spend the money and order them from someone. HELP!!! What would all of you do?

[lizardbnorton]

Since you already have issues, I would recommend doing them yourself or going with someone else. Getting mad at her about pew bows is only going to make the relationship more stressed out.

[Danielle9608]

I agree. I would say, I really wanted to have all 24 pews decorated and I know that is a lot to ask so I decided to order them premade. Do you have a Christmas Tree Shops in your area? I see them there all the time for like $5 or $6

[EarlyBird]

Yah at this point i would thank her and say you understand asking her to do 24 was not right (take the blame and get out of this one quickly) Say you are ordering them so you would rather not use hers cuz they will look like two different bows.

[TangoWedding]

I'd also suggest using the ones she already made so she doesn't feel unappreciated for what she's done....just use them for something else. Maybe decorate the gift table with them...or the bar...or?

[RevMatty]

I agree with Tango.

And the best way to put out a fire is with gasoline? (something to think about)

[s_r_d3]

If she doesnt want to do the 24 of them and already got cranky with you over it then I'd say tell her that you shouldnt have asked her to do that many and your sorry (yes i'd take the blame lol) you'll just go ahead and order them.

I also agree with Tango, maybe use them somewhere else where they wont be the main decoration like on the gift table.

[WBandMe]

I was all excited when I read your post because I was like "Aw, totally just tell her that 24 is too much to ask, you're sorry for putting her on the spot, and you think it will be easier for everyone involved if you order them" ... then I read everyone else's responses so now all I have to say is "I agree with them ;)"