aunts opinion...

[Teribridetobe]

My Aunt thinks that i should not give out any favors to my guests. She says its our day. Why spend more money giving out gifts to guests?.She thinks its silly that i would do that.( I disagree though.) I thought it was something we did to thank them for sharing your day. Does anyone know where that tradition originated from? She thinks its from italy?We are close but she seem to be very negative about certain things. Sorry just needed to vent abit.:bbconfused:

[CindySue]

I have NEVER been to a wedding where there werent favors. Thats what I thought it was for.....to take the guests for coming and to have a memento of the day.

[StaceyMc]

Remind your aunt just what she said to you: it's your day and do what you want to do.

I just read an article on the origins of favors and something is telling me it started in England. The original favors were very expensive porcelian pieces. I'll look for that magazine tonight and let you know for sure.

I always enjoy favors at weddings and such.

[Jenn060306]

I'm not sure where they came from. But you really do need to do what makes you and your FH happy.
Maybe consider doing a donation to a charity of your choice such as the Cancer Society, on the behalf of each guest. That is a nice gift for your guests, that in my experience people really appreciate. Many organizations have programs like that in place, they will give you everything you need including little cards that have a message for each guest inside.
I doubt your aunt would have any objection to that.

[usahgrad]

If you're worried about the cost...do something really simple. I did origami boxes and we're going to put m&ms in them. Total, they MAY cost me about $40. They don't have to be extravagant.

I have been to a wedding where there wasn't favors...and it kind of made me (as a guest) feel unappreciated. (Of course, I was a BM and we didn't get and bp gifts either...so it's kind of the way that particular couple does things I guess.) But I think it's a nice way to show your guests you appreciate them being there. Even if it is something small. While it is YOUR day, without your guests, there wouldn't be much of a party.

[rainbowtreat]

I agree. My favors are little cowboy hats fills with skittles. ( maybe the m&m's with our names if we can fit it into the bugdget ). I want to find a way to give away the center pieces. I dont need 6 cowboy boot glass vases. One or two will be plenty. As for gifts to the bridal party. I am decorating there champagne (sp?) flutes. I am adding the little heart that said brides maid etc. And I will most likley add a flower or somethign to the base of it. We can't afford alot so these are our gift to them.

[usahgrad]

I know where you're coming from Gwen...I don't know what I'm going to do with 39 wine glasses...it'll be nice for parties I guess. Maybe you could stick a stickie under one of the chairs at each table and then whoever is your emcee/dj/whatever can announce at some point to check under their chairs and whoever gets the sticky gets the centerpiece. I know it sounds hokey, but that's what they did at the Viper Owner's Convention a year ago and those are big wigs there so maybe hokey is ok. :)

[WebLady]

Here is what I found about favors ...

So what is the deal with favors? We give favors today as a little token of thanks for all our guests that come out to share our day. (and give gifts) The tradition of guest favors comes from the idea that the happy couple have been blessed with good fortune and are "lucky in love". Therefore the favors are a way to not only thank your guests for coming, but also to symbolically pass on the "good luck"

I also like Kelli's idea of doing the 'contest' for the centerpiece

[Teribridetobe]

If you're worried about the cost...do something really simple. I did origami boxes and we're going to put m&ms in them. Total, they MAY cost me about $40. They don't have to be extravagant.

I have been to a wedding where there wasn't favors...and it kind of made me (as a guest) feel unappreciated. (Of course, I was a BM and we didn't get and bp gifts either...so it's kind of the way that particular couple does things I guess.) But I think it's a nice way to show your guests you appreciate them being there. Even if it is something small. While it is YOUR day, without your guests, there wouldn't be much of a party.
I was going to go with disposable cameras and giving picture frames out so they could put there favorite picture in it. I like your idea with skittles in little boxes! I don't understand why my aunt would be so bothered by us spending money to give out favors. I personally think they are great. Thank you for your reply.

Teri

[bnd94]

I know where you're coming from Gwen...I don't know what I'm going to do with 39 wine glasses...it'll be nice for parties I guess. Maybe you could stick a stickie under one of the chairs at each table and then whoever is your emcee/dj/whatever can announce at some point to check under their chairs and whoever gets the sticky gets the centerpiece. I know it sounds hokey, but that's what they did at the Viper Owner's Convention a year ago and those are big wigs there so maybe hokey is ok. :)

I think that is an awesome idea Kelli. I think the guest would have fun doing that. Everyone loves to win something.

I wanted to add to your rep but I couldn't :(

[CindySue]

Gwen, You could also give your centerpieces to the bridemaids too. If you have 6, you keep one, each of the 5 girls gets one to remember the day by.

[rainbowtreat]

Thanks Cindy that is a thought. We will have eight center pieces. One for each table and 2 for our table , it will be 2 tables put together because the weeding party is so big. So the 6 girls could get one and I would get 2. I will have to keep this in mind. Thanks.

[bnd94]

Thanks Cindy that is a thought. We will have eight center pieces. One for each table and 2 for our table , it will be 2 tables put together because the weeding party is so big. So the 6 girls could get one and I would get 2. I will have to keep this in mind. Thanks.

Hey if your having a weeding party Can you all come to my house this summer and help me? I have a bunch of gardens that always need weeding!

LOL!! I couldn't resist!