I need your advice

[WebLady]

OK, this is sort of silly ...

I need to get my hair cut again (mostly a trim) and the regular girl I go to at Great Clips is not in today; after today she is off until Friday.

I did find out that she was at the Griffin location, but that is like 30 mins away from me. I called her there and she is busy with a perm and leaving in a couple of hours anyway. But her sister is there and said she could do my hair.

She also recommend a couple of other people at the local shop, but neither of them are in today either. Plus I am weird, once I find someone I like to do my hair I don't like to change unless I have to.

So, I am sitting here torn if I should make the 30 min trek to Griffin and let her sister cut and style my hair or I should try one of the other girls tomorrow or just wait until Friday when she is back at the local shop.

I am leaning towards just waiting until Friday, but I am suppose to go out with a friend Thursday and I kind of wanted to get my hair done before then.

What would you do?

[SouthernQueenBride]

Hmmm ... that is a toughie!!!! I think I would wait till Friday. To be on the safe side and all!
On a totally unrelated side note... I am going to a wedding in Griffin this weekend!

[RevMatty]

I'd wait till Friday, who know's what the others are like. You could risk going to them, and then comming out looking like a French Poodle. Stick with the one you trust.

[WebLady]

Yeah, I am probably going to just wait until Friday.

So now I have another completely unrelated dilemma ...

DH just called me and said that a friend of his from out of state called earlier today saying that he is in town visiting his parents. So he invites us to dinner at his mom's house this Saturday.

I have a couple of aversions to this ... for one, I barely know this guy or his wife and parents, and what I do know of them we have zero in common. Plus, this guy and his wife have like 6 kids 10 and under; that is certainly not something I would be excited to be in the middle of.

Besides that, Saturday is the day I usually have lunch with my sister and niece and visit with my parents. I just see this as an inconvenient and uncomfortable situation that I don't want any part of.

DH says he doesn't mind one way or another and that he figured I wouldn't want to go. I told him I would go if he wanted me to, but I didn't really want to. So now there is this part of me that feels like a bad wife for not wanting to go.

But there have been times in the past where he has been invited to things with my friends and family and not wanted to go or had other plans.

So what would you guys do?

[KMS]

I say just do your regularly scheduled thing with your family. You'll be miserable and surely he doesn't want that for you.

[RevMatty]

Ask yourself this, "How many times has DH done things for you he didn't like doing?" Then you'll know what to do. Believe me I've had to ask myself that a few times.

[WebLady]

I say just do your regularly scheduled thing with your family. You'll be miserable and surely he doesn't want that for you.
Yep; that is probably what I will do. I just feel a little bad; maybe DH just needs better friends :p ;)

Ask yourself this, "How many times has DH done things for you he didn't like doing?" Then you'll know what to do. Believe me I've had to ask myself that a few times.LOL - not very often :p At least in similar situations that is.

[bichonlvr]

Yes wait until Friday...where a ponytail :)

As for the other, I think there are a few points 1. there are things you HAVE to do when you are married, whether we like them or not 2. it is short notice and you do have plans, so that is a great excuse 3. are they kids with him? If not it might be a great opportunity to get to know him without his kids around. 4. You say like you feel like a bad wife, does DH really want you to go???? Does he still like the guy???

I say...say you have plans maybe next time with a little notice!

[WebLady]

Yes wait until Friday...where a ponytail :)

As for the other, I think there are a few points 1. there are things you HAVE to do when you are married, whether we like them or not 2. it is short notice and you do have plans, so that is a great excuse 3. are they kids with him? If not it might be a great opportunity to get to know him without his kids around. 4. You say like you feel like a bad wife, does DH really want you to go???? Does he still like the guy???

I say...say you have plans maybe next time with a little notice!
My hair is too short for a ponytail; it is at that in between stage where it needs to be longer or shorter. But I will work something out and just wait till Friday.

As for the other thing; yes dude's kids will be there and his wife and his mom and I hear a couple of anuts and uncles too :notsure:

DH has been friends with this guy since high school, I have met him before and he is nice to me, but we are not friends. He actually dated one of my old friends in highschool too, back before he met his wife and before I met DH.

DH says it doesn't matter to him if I don't go, he didn't really mention wanting me to go, he just told me about it and said he figured I'd have plans with my sister and not want to go.

[bichonlvr]

DH says it doesn't matter to him if I don't go, he didn't really mention wanting me to go, he just told me about it and said he figured I'd have plans with my sister and not want to go.

Well then DON'T GO!! That's what I say...men don't go to things when they don't really want to!!! Don't feel badly!!! But you might have to go next time! ;)

[WBandMe]

Side note: My hair is in the horrible in-between stage too and I want to cut it so bad and I'm not allowed to because I promised FH it would be long for wedding :-P I agree with the Friday decision.

As for the dinner thing.. I wouldn't feel bad about it. You technically DID have plans already, even if its a routine thing, and I'd rather run the risk of DH being a little bummed but not surprised about you not going, than have you go and be in a bad mood or something and then you both be upset by the end of it.

[WendyNC]

This might not be the advice you were looking for, but thought I would ask - Are you close to Atlanta? I think ATL has an Aveda institute. I go to the one in Charlotte. If your hair is relatively simple, and you are not doing color, that might be an option. They are only like $15 and that includes everything - wash, cut, dry, style. YES it is a student but their teachers are right there watching them and grading them.

[70707Bride]

Wait until Friday...then hang with your family!

[NicksBride]

First wait until friday, I am just like you!

I would keep your plans with your family, you need to see them and hang out with them and DH will be just fine alone or not going. :)

[WebLady]

First wait until friday, I am just like you!

I would keep your plans with your family, you need to see them and hang out with them and DH will be just fine alone or not going. :)
Yep; that is the plan ... thanks everyone :frogg: