Rehersal Dinners...

[BklynBride05]

Who sould offer to pay for it.. ?

[courtnee]

tradition it is the groom's parents that pay for it, but now days more and more couples are picking up the tab. I decided to have a RD but it is pay for your own. In our family that won't be a big problem and understandable. Simple folks around here.

[robindepaula]

As Courtnee stated, it is tradition for the grooms family to be the hosts of this event, but I'm seeing more & more couples opt to cover this expense themselves. I've been to several where it was held at a family members house & was either buffet style or a big bbq.

[drea]

We are paying for our rehearsal dinner (my fiance and I). We are doing something a little more non traditional though. We are going to have the rehearsal with all of the people that are in the wedding. Then afterwards, we are inviting all out of town guests to a place called Mr. Gattis. It is a giant pizza warehouse with games and bumper cars and stuff. Not very fancy, but going to be great for all the guests and children that have traveled.

[Am3na]

It is a giant pizza warehouse with games and bumper cars and stuff. Not very fancy, but going to be great for all the guests and children that have traveled.

That sounds fun!

Our wedding reshersal dinner was combined with our wedding ceremony and recepetion tab (all at the same place) which my parents covered most of. They pretty much decided on the location, which was not cheap, so they opted in to pay for it.

We had a lot of out-of-town family fly in the day before the wedding, so they were all invited. We even had a few friends, and the bridal party there o'course - all friends. We payed for a few of them because we ended up inviting them at the last minute.

[wedbyjean]

If the groom's family shows interest in paying, but aren't sure where to go or what to do -- especially with people living all over the country these days, his parents may not know the area -- I suggest to my couples that they find out what his parents would like to do (style, budget, etc.) and do the legwork for them by making the arrangements for them.

However, as you've probably already noticed, it's not uncommon for the bride & groom, or someone else for that matter, to pick up the tab.

Sometimes the grooms' parents aren't sure of or aware of that they have "traditional" wedding responsibilities, particularly if they don't have any daughters that are already married. This is brand new territory for them, and there is so very little that they are "traditionally" responsible for. Keep them in the loop. Tactfully find out if they want to host or help out with the RD. If they do, great. If not, accept it graciously and go on.

Jean Neuhart
Weddings From The Heart

[Carol]

:wink: Well, we offered to pay for our rehearsal but his family was a bit insulted and wound up paying the bill when all was said and done. Usually the grooms parents pay.