Are You Kidding Me? Get Your Own Wedding

[LookingBridal]

So my fiance and I have been planning our wedding for almost six months now and it's had it's ups and downs, but it's pretty much set. We have our place and my dress, our caterer and a bunch of the odds and ends. Our colors are blue,white and silver (I want it to look like clouds and funness)
Anyway about a month ago his sister found out she and her boyfriend of two months were pregnant. She's due in April and they decided to get married in July (just a couple weeks after us). She has been married three times and has two children already so they family is doubtful this union will last.

So my frustration: We're having almost the exact SAME WEDDING!!!!! She's booked the same place, our dresses look almost exactly alike, down to the blue sash under the bust line (the only real difference is that her's has tiny straps and mine is a halter). Her colors are blue and silver and she's using the same DJ and photographer I want to use. Yesterday she even had the nerve to recommend the photographer to me, I was like Jen that's who we're already using and she says "oh yeah, I knew their name sounded familar" Yeah it sounded familar because I was talking about them two months ago.

And get this, her invitations are shapped like freaking clouds!!!!! Seriously, I'm so mad.

My FH says I shouldn't worry and it's not a competition, but it's so irratating that I feel like she's stealing my wedding. Plus all our family keeps commenting on the same thing. Like "oh you're using blue hydrangenas, isn't that what Jen's using?"

SO ANNOYING!

[HisMuse]

That would piss me off, I must admit.

[bichonlvr]

At least your is FIRST!!!

Sorry that is happening :(

Keep smiling and stay focused on YOUR wedding!

[StJohnBride]

I'm with PP -- I'd be FURIOUS if I were you. But I'd be even MORE so if they were marrying before you. Just try to keep any other ideas to yourself and hang in there. They'll look foolish to anyone and everyone who attends both weddings.

And I know it's little consolation - but imitation is the best form of flattery...is that what they say?

[LookingBridal]

I am thrilled that my wedding is first I must say. I think that's the one saving grace to this whole thing. And all the important people know I've been planning mine way longer.

I'm still just so mad! :hothead: But I guess I just have to keep reminding myself of the good stuff to focus on:heart:

[WebLady]

It is sad how much of this kind of thing has been posted here ... it stinks and I would be a little miffed too, but not much you can do but make the best of it.

Lucky your wedding is first so if anything most people will think she has coppied you. I would try not to worry about it, but I would also not talk to her or anyone she talks to about anything further you have planned for your wedding.

I am sure your wedding will be wonderful; all the best :frogg:

[EarlyBird]

maybe you could change your invites to something else similar but not just alike (i know these are your ideas and you shouldnt have to change, but sometimes if you change a couple things the it could make all the difference)

yah it sounds mean but at least your wedding is first :)

[LookingBridal]

So last night Jen (Future SIL) and her hubby to be got into a fight about this whole thing. He really wants to wear a black tux with a red vest or tie. She completely vetoed the idea, she wants him in a black tux with a light blue tie with silver cufflings and silver tie pin.... strangely that's exactly what I wanted. He told her flat out that he wants his own wedding, not a cookie cutter copy of mine:) yay! She called her mom to complain and she was like, well you are picking some very similar things, why not try something of your own. Jen went on this big rant about how it's not fair that she can't do things just because I'm doing them and my wedding is going to look trashy anyway so she be able to do things the "right way" I was like, excuse me?:hothead:

But at least everyone is telling her what a total brat she is being:)

[frenchie]

Well the only consolation here is that if someone's wedding is "trashy" it will be hers - hurried, copied, third, and only (it seems) because they're having a baby. And it's after yours. So people definatly won't be thinking YOU copied ;)

[70707Bride]

I was going to say, at least your's is first! Lol. It'll be obvious who is copying who, so don't worry about it. I mean, that would make me mad too, but your's is FIRST, so knowing me, I'd tell her something like that if she thinks you're copying her.

[cameron]

i understand your dilemma. but think on the brighter side of things at least you are having your wedding first and she is next which will show that she is indeed the one who is copying your ideas. I strongly suggest that you don't let her get on your nerves and don't mind what she is doing. i am also planning for a wedding in july and a friend of mine is marrying this january. while i planned way ahead of her i noticed that she was waiting upon me to tell her that we go to this florist, this reception venue etc. i later realized that in order for her not to copy any of my ideas i didn't talk to her about it. same with you, ask your future husband as much as possible not to disclose the details of your wedding. just let him tell those who will ask that you are making all the plans and necessary preparations.:heart:

[woohoo2me]

hummm since she is using alot of the same vendars, ask them for a discount cuz you "recomended" their business to her. maybe make your wedding a little cheaper :D

[SouthernQueenBride]

hummm since she is using alot of the same vendars, ask them for a discount cuz you "recomended" their business to her. maybe make your wedding a little cheaper :D

Good idea!!!

I hate this for you and I admit ... I would be so pissed too! But I have to wonder ... do yall hang out with the same people? Will it only be family there that are the common denominator?

Also ... like someone else suggested, don't say another word about your wedding and have your FH do the same. Seems like yall are not that close anyways so I would avoid her at all costs if you can. Your wedding will be beautiful, just try to enjoy it b/c it will come and go so fast. You don't want to look back and be upset that she not only stole your ideas but that she stole the joy that went into the planning.
Keep us updated!:heart:

[LookingBridal]

I loved the idea of asking for a discount. I might try that with our venue and photographer! HaHa!

We are definitely not that close and don't hang out with the same people so it will be only family that sees the similarity.

For now I have a ton more good ideas that I'll keep to myself

.... and maybe I'll make up some ugly, horrible ideas and make sure they get back to her so she can copy those! :chair: hehehe... okay maybe I won't be that mean, but it was a good thought:)

[septemberbride06]

I had a similar btu not so similar thing happen with my SIL (they were getting married at a court house and on my 1 yr. not the same day)
I was ticked, and If I remember came here to vent as well....turns out all I had to do was tell my FH enough and drop her little hints before she got the hint that I wasn't keen on the idea...so they moved the date a few weeks back...BUT they did honeymoon the same place (same type of suite) as us only a week later...which again made me angry but life is too short to be upset and angry all the time...causes not only medical problems, but relationship, family and work issues too...my advice don't tell ANYBODY any more plans and when it comes time for the wedding yours will blow everyone away and when they see she copied yours everyone will knwo the truth without you having to say a word.....and remember Karma's a BIOTCH! LOL