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StarCoveter
11-06-2007, 09:18 PM
Ok, FH and I have deposited on a lodge where we will get married at, the reception and all that. It sleeps 17 people (8 bedrooms and a loft), and we're renting the whole place and the accompanying 63 acres from Friday afternoon through Sunday afternoon.

We're going to ask family members if they would like to stay with us that weekend (parents, grandparents, siblings, etc.). We were thinking of asking them to help pay for their room (although we are not paying for individual rooms... just the entire lodge) since they wouldn't be staying in a hotel. We looked up costs for hotels for that weekend, and they could get a two-star motel for $60/night. We were thinking of asking $75/night, since it seems like such a nicer place. Of course, we would feed them Saturday afternoon for the reception, but they'd need to get food for Friday night.

I guess I just want you all's opinions about this. We think it's alright, but what do you think? If you think it's alright, how would you go about approaching them with it. Would a phone call be good enough? Maybe we could send a letter with pictures of the place and ask then that if they want to, they'd need to send a "deposit" or even full payment?

I don't know!!! :bbrolleyes:
bradysmommy2007
11-06-2007, 09:26 PM
im sure family wouldnt have a problem with it...if they are anything like my family they would all want to stay the night before and help out and all that stuff. I think i would do the letter idea..send a picture and describe everything you did in your thread and ask if they would like to stay then it would be the 75 a night...im sure they figure they would have to stay in a hotel anyways so why not be able to stay with everyone..It would be fun! and im sure they will not think it is tacky or rude :)
StarCoveter
11-07-2007, 07:40 AM
That's what we were thinking. Why not stay with family in a beautiful setting instead of a cheap motel where there's too-thin walls and smelly rooms? :hi:
SouthernQueenBride
11-07-2007, 08:50 AM
I think this is a great idea! Sounds awesome!
septemberbride06
11-07-2007, 10:36 AM
I dunno...honestly I wouldn't WANT everybody there the weekend of my wedding, but that's just me..each family is different..I know If I asked my family to pay me $75.00/night they wouldn't but never know...the worst they can say is no, right? :whoa:
StarCoveter
11-07-2007, 12:02 PM
I dunno...honestly I wouldn't WANT everybody there the weekend of my wedding, but that's just me..each family is different..I know If I asked my family to pay me $75.00/night they wouldn't but never know...the worst they can say is no, right? :whoa:

Well, I may end up regretting it! :bblol: But really, we loved the place anyway, and even if they don't want to stay with us, then it's a huge place all to ourselves! If they do stay with us and get on our nerves, there are plenty of places to walk around and escape to. Plus, there'll be so much going on, that I don't think it'll make that much of a difference.
Whitewater
11-08-2007, 08:07 AM
My mother would swallow her tongue if I'd been able to afford to rent a lodge for my wedding as you describe and then flat out asked her to pay me back, which is essentially what you're doing. My father would also get upset, and for good reason!

Look, if you can afford it (and obviously you can, since you've put a deposit down) why are you asking people to shell out just so they can stay with you? Why not be gracious hosts and let them stay in the lodge for free?

Why are you even considering asking your family to pay you for the privilege to be near you on your wedding day? I would think you'd want them there even if they never paid you a dime.


Whitewater
SouthernQueenBride
11-08-2007, 09:18 AM
My mother would swallow her tongue if I'd been able to afford to rent a lodge for my wedding as you describe and then flat out asked her to pay me back, which is essentially what you're doing. My father would also get upset, and for good reason!

Look, if you can afford it (and obviously you can, since you've put a deposit down) why are you asking people to shell out just so they can stay with you? Why not be gracious hosts and let them stay in the lodge for free?

Why are you even considering asking your family to pay you for the privilege to be near you on your wedding day? I would think you'd want them there even if they never paid you a dime.


Whitewater

The way I see it ... it is fine and usually the norm to ask for guests to pay for their own stay. Most people will book a group of rooms at a hotel for out of town guests and family so I really don't see this as any different. Just my thoughts!:frogg:
bradysmommy2007
11-08-2007, 03:28 PM
My mother would swallow her tongue if I'd been able to afford to rent a lodge for my wedding as you describe and then flat out asked her to pay me back, which is essentially what you're doing. My father would also get upset, and for good reason!

Look, if you can afford it (and obviously you can, since you've put a deposit down) why are you asking people to shell out just so they can stay with you? Why not be gracious hosts and let them stay in the lodge for free?

Why are you even considering asking your family to pay you for the privilege to be near you on your wedding day? I would think you'd want them there even if they never paid you a dime.


Whitewater


you seem a little fiesty there whitewater...

there is not any reason why you cannot ask your guest to pay for the rooms THEY WILL BE STAYING in... I and many others think that it is not rude to ask...just think about it this way...if a friend of yours was paying for their wedding would you really expect for them to pay for the place your staying in TOO? Thats like saying you should pay for their hotel rooms if they dont want to stay with you...