weird bride..

[EarlyBird]

I dont think this is a vent.. thats why i didnt place it there, but if someone else finds it offensive and venting, please move it.

Okay so my cousin (MOH) lives 5 hours away from me and i visited this week- She has been telling me bout this girl at work that is getting married this month and everything and keeps telling me all about her and she has told the girl all about me and my wedding plans- i guess she didnt tell her when i was getting married though- This week when i was there i hung out at my cousins work for a while and i was talking to the girl about things wedding and i was telling her everything i got done (including bm jewelry and fg flowerball etc etc) and finally she was like well when is your wedding and im like April 09' and she pretty much rolled her eyes at me.. told me she didnt know why i was bothering doing anything that its not like really being engaged if its that far off- Every couple minutes she kept saying "your going to miserable around your wedding cuz your going to have nothing to do" i kind of laughed it off but she kept going.. I later found out her wedding is actually like 8 days away and she has failed to do ALOT of stuff like her bm gifts are not even purchased, her seating chart not done, etc etc. Now im not judging her but im not the type of person to leave things till the last minute- I was always the type to do project the first week i got the assignment, that way, i never had to worry about anything when everyone else was scrambling to finish-- I just like getting on the ball. I just found it sooo funny that this girl was sitting her judging me/rolling her eyes at me/TELLING ME IM NOT REALLY ENGAGED..
On top of that everytime i would ask anything about her wedding she would act as if she was too good to SAY anything, instead she just kept pulling things out of her purse to show me.. like i asked about her menu, her venue, her caterer (i was not being nosey- fh might move their, and i was wondering about their wedding stuff in case we move everything there) and she just handed me her bills (i swear to you!!!!) and her brochure and her program.. weird right??

part of me really wanted to be a bi**h and be materialistic and superficial and point out that my wedding was costing alot of money and that for the amount my parents are paying i better be having EVERYTHING perfect, and i wanted to remind her that my diamond ring kind of proved i was engaged etc etc but i didnt want to get into it. I found out later my moh took care of that and told her that she didnt appreciate the way she spoke to me and the girl was liek "I just hate when CHILDREN act like getting married is a joke and play dress up and plan so far ahead" My moh told the girl she would be declining her invite to the wedding.

I dont know why, but i was soo put off by this girl.. I wondered why she was acting better then me just because her wedding was 8 days away and mine was "so far away" according to her...

[bichonlvr]

Don't even stress some people handle things sooo differently!

How old is she????

[KMS]

What nasty behavior. Brides are all so different. This whole site is a testament to that fact. It seems like some people use a wedding as an excuse to yammer on about their opinions and what they think you're doing wrong rather than maybe discovering something new. I'm glad that your MOH set her straight! Calling you a child playing dress up? :whoa: Oh I so don't think so!

[Whitewater]

I agree, EB, I can't figure it out either -- what does the date of your wedding have to do with whether or not your relationship is valid???? That's . . . wierd. Good for your MoH for sticking up for you and declining the invite! She's got guts, particularly if she has to work with this girl.

I don't think it's strange to show you pictures and bills and stuff, though . . . at my allergy shot today, my nurse (granted, I've been going to these things once a week for MONTHS now so my nurse and I are no longer strangers!) was asking about my reception location and was disappointed that I didn't have any pictures. What, was she expecting me to just whip out my wallet? I'm not going to keep photos of my wedding stuff with me :) But obviously there are enough people who *do* that my nurse thought nothing of asking me about it.

*shrug* I will definitely be showing off pictures and so on when the website gets up and running, but that's a little different, I think.

My mind still boggles, though. I mean, one of the main reasons FH and I aren't getting married until 2009 is specifically *because* we wanted to be engaged for a while and just sit on it, being engaged without having to be caught up in the year-long whirlwind that is wedding planning and enjoying just . . .being engaged.

Strange.


Whitewater

[EarlyBird]

oh didnt i mention? sorry- she just turned 21- younger then me :)

[bichonlvr]

WHAT?!??!?!??!

Maybe she is totally regretting getting engaged and now getting married in a few days!

[frenchie]

Strange - she is acting really weird. And bratty. My guess is maybe she's unloading on you her feelings about maybe a younger sister or someone who's getting married in 2009 just to play dress up and be like her? IDK. But at any rate it's not right for her to judge you.

[twu]

She's elitist and an *******. Not much else to say about those types of people except that you really shouldn't let them get to you. (Well, I can be elitist too about certain things, but I try to be helpful and encouraging to others rather than, you know, being condescending and rubbing it in their faces.)


But wtg for your moh sticking up for you like that! She sounds like an awesome friend.

[Nekochanpurr]

Wow. sounds like a weirdo.. Good thing you don't have to deal with her anymore.. You don't, right? And you sound like you have a VERY good moh!

[EarlyBird]

haha actually im going to visit again in a couple weeks but my moh/cousin said she is probably going to take off work anyway while im there, so no, i wont have to hahah ..

[Danielle9608]

Don't even let her get to you. She probably just felt threated by you because you have more done then she does. And don't let it get to you when people say that you are planning early. I also have a long engagement. And people said that to me all the time. I have been engaged since Oct 2006. And I also started planning right away. I chose to have such a long engagement since we are paying for most of it ourselves and needed that time to save. But I really am happy I did it this way. I haven't stressed out once through this whole process and have been able to take my time doing my DIY projects like mine invitations.

[septemberbride06]

Don't pay attention to her and her nasty comments...it sounds like maybe she was trying to make herself feel better rather than put you down but who knows :notsure:
at any rate...good for you for getting everything doen early so you don't have to stress out and good for your MOH for sticking up for you like that :)

[bradysmommy2007]

ok..you got me all fired up now...well your cousins co worker did ha! im the type of person that would have been the B***h to her probably not meaning to but come on now is she serious! its never to early to get things done! i have alot done in my opinion and my weddings not until nov next year! why would you want to wait until the last minute...we are already going to be stressed enough just trying to make sure everything falls into perfect place! omg i just want to call her up right now and go off for you haha! dont worry about people like that..they're CRAZY...im 21 so please dont blame it on an age thing lol she is just very imature for her age!

..the longer you have the more time you have to make it that much better! thats how i look at it.. i thought nov was a millllion years away but its enough time to perfect everything! same goes for you :)