It Starts . . .

[Whitewater]

My mantra for the next almost two years is going to be:

Don't Panic!!!!

It's 2:30am, we're going to go check out a ceremony site tomorrow (the whole day in a lovely flowered park with a formal garden, lots of trees, and the use of the gazebo for $80!) and I can't get to sleep because I'm worrying about THE WEDDING.

It's enough for me to almost want to grab FH, the money we've already saved, and head to Vegas and the Elvis Chapel O' Love. Almost.

I can't believe I'm starting to worry this early. I'm not getting married until June 2009, so what's all this freakout about?

All I know is that I'm looking down the barrel of a GAZILLION things to do, wondering if/how we're going to pay for it, the logistics of the day (for a start, let's talk about how to park all those cars . . . ), and all the details that have to be ironed out, and I know it's not logical to start worrying now, but I am. I thought that by having a much smaller wedding that I could avoid some of it, but no. It's all there, just in a smaller package.

Kind of ashamed of it really, because as a stage manager putting together events (plays and musicals) in a short amount of time and getting vast amounts of stuff to happen well and on time is my job. It's what I do! I should not be freaking out about my wedding, after all, this is what I do for a living. I*should* be able to cope. And plan and accomplish wedding plans with one hand tied behind my back!

'Should' being the operative word.

Has anybody else started to worry early?


Whitewater (hoping I'm not alone)

[BrideInCuffs21]

Hahaha... well I started worrying when I joined OW... but my mom she was a nut when I told her that FH and I were looking at rings....

[frenchie]

I think you're worrying a BIT early, to be honest. I didn't start to do anything until a year before the wedding, and even then it was just looking.
I have 4 more months (actually 3 months & 3 weeks hehe) and I'm starting to panic a little.

[Whitewater]

You know what else is wierd? I'm also having MOOD SWINGS! At least, I think I am, I am not prone to having them on a regular basis so I'm not familiar with them.

Last night I was in bad shape, wondering how it was all going to get done, close to tears because I couldn't find anybody to take pictures or do to the dress, almost convinced that having a wedding was a big huge mistake.

This morning in my email I find no less than two recommendations for dressmakers (I LOVE my friends, and thank you Early Bird for recommending that I talk to my costuming friends, because I did and that's where these rec's came from) and a reply from a local photographer who is nice, affordable (we're probably going to go with the $500 package) and not put off by all my questions, so I think we may have a winner. -- here's the website, in case anybody's curious (I'll post it somewhere else too, under it's own thread so it doesn't get lost)

http://www.picsbydan.com/

And now I'm back to being optomistic and excited and happy. We're going to look at a potential ceremony site today, in a few hours.

It's SO WIERD how my mood can change like that, so quickly -- and so drastically -- .

I don't remember doing this at all the first time around. Maybe I was too young? Or because my mother swooped in and took over, maybe I didn't panic because I didn't have anything to panic about. Hmmm. Or maybe because I knew deep down that I should have said NO when my ex asked, I didn't care! All kinds of questions, huh?


Whitewater

[LookingBridal]

I wasn't stressed at all about wedding stuff even though I knew John and I were headed towards the marriage path UNTIL he proposed. It's like as soon as he proposed and we set a date all the stress started. Our wedding was a full year away and I was so worried about everything (most days I still am).

I've been having major mood swings too, mostly related to vendors!:hothead: If they do something well or amazing or tell me something great I feel so happy and like everything is coming together. Then as soon as I get a price back double the original or get told I can't have something I'm down and feel like everything is going to go wrong.

I think it's totally normal since it's a lot of stress and money for one big day in your life:)

[rainbowtreat]

I thaink maybe you should tell yourself to calm down, I mean you have 2 yeras to plan. I am not saying it is wrong or anything. Every one deals with things differently. I am saying you have plenty of time to work out all the details. Get others to help you or just ask their opions on things. There are ideas out there that you may not have thought of. It will all come together regardless how stressed or not stressed you are. In the end just have a good time. It is one day and it goes by too fast.

[bichonlvr]

No need to stress everything will work itself out....

What is important is that you are both there...all of the other stuff is not really tht important!!!

Congrats though:) How fun!!!

[PGDesigns]

I've come to the conclusion that everything does eventually work out. :)


BTW, you picked a GREAT day to get married! (It's my b-day.)

[twu]

My wedding is still a year away, and I'm having design nightmares already!

That photographer looks like he has a good deal for a reasonable, cheap price. Have you talked to any of his references yet?

[Measha]

Our wedding is just over a year away and yes I've allready been stressing. Some days it seems impossible that we will find what we need. The next day it all begins to fall together. It seems to be the way of things.

Our big stress now that we've found someone to do my dress and the BM's dresses, is finding an outfit for FH! (We're going with an 18th Century theme if you didn't see the thread).

I just take a few deep breaths and remind myself why I started to plan early! We can do it!