Help! RSVP...

[keri_rae]

I can't remember if there is already a thread like this, but I scanned through and didn't find it.

FH and I really do not want to have mail in RSVP cards. Our wedding will largely be people in their mid-twenties who are prone to loose the cards or just not send them in. Instead, we're having RSVP set up on our wedding website. But, for those who do not use the internet (i.e. my 75 yr old Grandpa), we wanted to include my phone number because I am collecting all of the RSVPs. Is that tacky? Is there a better way to do this other than stamping 200 little envelopes when 150 wont be used??? I thought of including a reply card with an envelope with no stamp but I'm not sure that wouldn't be tacky either. HELP!!! (and really, I'd rather you be honest - it wont hurt my feelings.)

Here's a sample of what we have for our 12-22-07 wedding:

RSVP card

The favor of a reply is requested
by December 8, 2007
at <our wedding website address>
or call Keri-Rae
at 555-555-5555.

[Danielle9608]

I personally have never seen it done before. But I do agree stamps are expensive and if you dont think they will be used then don't use them. It is your wedding do what you want. You may even start a new trend.

[SouthernQueenBride]

I am doing kinda the same thing....

We have having 2 cards made up. One with the RSVP via our website to be mailed to all of our younger guests and then we are taking about 1/2 of them and actually using the standard response cards with a stamp.
Our wedding is pretty large: Approx. 200 invites so we would save a little bit of $$$ on the half that we don't stamp. But I know what you mean, around here NO one sends in response cards!! It is crazy!

[PGDesigns]

We are planning on doing the same thing. Most of our friends obviously have internet access, so they can RSVP on our site, and the rest of the family/friends can call. We've seen too many things get lost in the mail lately, and added to the number of people who won't mail them back regardless, I think it's just easier for everyone to do it online or by phone.

[thatgirljenn]

I'm in my twenties, and I'll tell you I would so rather RSVP online then through the mail. So much easier.

[KMS]

I am doing the same thing. Website and phone RSVP. However, I am having them call a number other than mine so it's not awkward if they aren't going to be coming and need to RSVP "No".

[RevMatty]

I personally have never seen it done before. But I do agree stamps are expensive and if you dont think they will be used then don't use them. It is your wedding do what you want. You may even start a new trend.
I have seen this done before a few times. It's the newest trend

[EarlyBird]

Yes, i agree that the best way is online and phone number that is NOT yours.
I personally will do traditional but thats because NOBODY would be able to figure out the rsvp thing :) My dad would be getting 1k calls a day wondering "how to do this thing" from his family- andi think he would kill me heheh :) also, my mom is so terrible with keeping track of things so people rsvping by phone would get written on a little scrap piece of paper and my mom would LOSE it! hah!

sorry for highjacking just thought i would share that!

[WebLady]

I have seen alot of people do the online RSVP thing through their wedding website. There is even RSVP services where you can have someone else take care of keeping track with all that for you. But of you are trying to save on stamps, you probably don't want to pay for such a service ;)

The only thing with using a phone number is that some people may be hesitant to call if they are not coming. Plus if they are from out of town they may not want the expense of a long distance call; this being more so from people that you don't talk to all that often I guess.

Me personally, I would rather do the online thing than the mail. But I don't know if I would want to call it in.

As far as etiquette goes; I think it is suppose to be the traditional card.

[frenchie]

I think I'm going to do a website RSVP, an e-mail RSVP, and a telephone one. I'll just give my number because I don't want anyone else to have to deal with being drenched in calls...

[bichonlvr]

Totally COOL!!!!

Most people will e-mail or go to a site VS. Call!

But some people might just in normal conversation tell you their RSVP!

[Qtlilone22]

I agree that it should be online and it would be so much easier, but I do think that the best way and most traditional way is the RSVP cards. I am sure that everyone will respond no matter what way you guys decide to do the cards. :hi: