Talked with FH and got a few thigns off my chest.

[rainbowtreat]

OK we started talking about the wedding and helikes all my ideas. He said it looks like it is all coming together. He also said the cupcake tour might work. That is still not decided yet.

Then we started talking about the money situationt hat has been bugging me. We make it week to week. My taxes is what is going to pay for the wedding that is why I can't relly buy anything till next month. He knows the budget and how well we need to stick to it so he is going to go price shopping with me. For every thing.

We also talked about how the money situation will change once we are married. Right now I get some help paying for child care. Once we are married I wont get that any more and both kids need summer camp while I work. It will take more then what I get for child support. And we want another one. He wold like to have one of his own. I told him that child care is expensive and I didnt leave my first 2 at day care all day when I had them. I doubt I can leave this one. We want to start trying as soon as we are married in June.

We need a bigger apartment and as soon as we get oen I want to put in add in the paper for a babysitter. i want to stay at home take care of 3 kids at $100 a piece and bring home what I am bring home now. I wont have to pay for day care and save alot on gas. If I do this before we are married I dont have insurance untill we are. And with my bad hip I am affraid soemthign will happen and I will need something done. That is just my luck. but I dont want to stay in this job any longer then I have to. I hate it.

But Nicholas and I talked an i feel a little better about thing. Life is just so stressful right now that I cant even sleep.

OK I think I got it all off my chesst now. Things will come in to play I just want it now. I hate to wait.

[LizabethDavis]

I am there with you, I won't be doing much until next month with regard to the wedding planning and paying for stuff. I am glad you talked things over with FH and that you feel better about them..I wish I could say the same.

[ikkin510]

Gwen, I'm glad you got to talk things over with your husband. As far as the babysitting goes, that's great!! My mom ran (actually still does!) a daycare in our home. I plan on doing that once we have kids so I can stay home with mine. I told child day care management class too. So if you need any help or have any questions let me know. I'll try to help you out. My mom started the last few years just watching kids of teachers, so she has the summers and holiday's off. She loves it, but I know for you that might be tough not having the income for those few months. Good luck with this new adventure!

[bnd94]

That is great Gwen! All your plans sound so good I am sure everything will fall in place.:D

I have thought about starting a daycare too when we have a baby. It's not so much because of money for daycare though(My FMIL is retired and is begging for a grandchild!:D ) but because I want to be there for all the firsts for the baby. I would hate to miss all that.;)

[KMac]

Hi,
I am glad to hear that you talked things over. Issues like this weigh heavily on someone! I think we have all been there or are there right now. It sounds like you have a very supportive FH.
As for worried about money to pay things for the wedding, are you guys paying most of the costs? If you need ideas on how to cut costs, just let me know, I have some ideas for you. I wish you all the best. THings will get easier.
KMac

[rainbowtreat]

Yes we are paying for the whole thing ourselves. As for Day care i worked in day care for 7 years before having my own children. I stayed home for a 1 and a 1/2 after having my second child. Even when I had to go back to work when my husband and I split up my son was only 1 1/2 and I still had a hard time letting him go. Because I have worked in child care and have kids in day care I know about the waiting list to get into a good daycare center. And they are always filled. I have a friend who put an add in the paper and she had to turn people away she got so many calls. I have the experiance behind me careing for every age from infants to school age kids. So I dont Think I would have a hard time finding kids to watch. I figure 3 kids at $100 a week and maybe add one more in the mix Then I would be just fine money wise.

As for the bigger apartment we may be in luck. My girl firend called me at work today to tell me that a 2 bed room has just opened up where she is living. Those apartmetns are huge compared to what we have right now. And the bedroom the kids would be sharing is plenty big enough for 3 kids. It is HUGE. So I asked Nicholas to stop by and pick up the applacation on his way home. The manager knows and likes my friend and her husband. They have been living there for about 8 or 9 years now. If he sees that I have know her longer then that he will ask her and I might have a better chance at gettign the plae. He has only taken in 2 apps. so far. I am goin got drop it off tomorrow on my lunch break. Cross your fingers guys. This could be it. If I get this apartment we will move in Next month some time. And shortly after that I will put in add in the paper for baby sitting and then be done with the **** hole at work at. Thanks all of you for everythign you have to offer. It feels so good to be able to come on here and pour my heart out and know that you all dont judge you just try to help.