Marrying because everyone else is???

[PGDesigns]

I just have to vent. I found out today that one of my guy friends is planning to buy a engagement ring for the girl he's been dating for the last 8 or 9 months.

He has cheated on her with his ex, who he was with for like 2 or 3 years. He swears his ex is crazy, yet he still talks about being with her. He thinks the world revolves around him and talks down to his GF all the time, especially in front of other people.

Three of his close guy friends have gotten engaged over the last year, and now he is talking about buying a ring for his GF. However, he actually made the comment to one of our other friends that he "can't believe he HAS to pay on something for 2 or 3 years for something that has nothing to do with him."

He doesn't get that marriage IS about BOTH him and his GF. We think he is only popping the question because that's what his friends are doing. His whole attitude about this sucks.

I didn't see this side of him until he started starting this most recent girl, but she has yet to see the "real" him. It's like watching a trainwreck, and even though he's a friend of ours, I seriously hope she says no.

[erika85]

I agee that does not sound very good. Hopefully she see the real side of him before any wedding!

[SouthernQueenBride]

Ohhhh no!

Does the GF KNOW that he has cheated on her in the past? Someone should spill the beans - maybe this will prevent her from saying yes.
I have seen this happen before though and it is really common - how sad! I guess that is why we have such a high divorce rate in this country. (USA).

[PGDesigns]

I don't think she knows, and if FH or I tell her, it would affect our jobs in a way, and now, we rarely see him or his GF since they don't live around here.

It's a pretty sticky situation, and it's really, really sad. It's like their whole circle of friends in their town is full of psycho people. Seriously, all of them are crazy, and I don't mean in a fun way.

He's almost 30 and is nowhere near being mature about things, especially relationships.

[bichonlvr]

UH OH!!!!

That does not sound good, maybe someone needs to clue her in!

[Nekochanpurr]

Oh man.. Thats awful. :(
Theres no way a friend of a friend might drop something, so it doesn't look like your involved? XD Sorry, thought i'd try.. Cheaters are the WORST!!

[ger]

I was told that myy ex's gf caught him with someone else and NOW they have set their date. How is that for STUPID!?!?!?!

[katieandalex]

Alex and I had a couple of friends of ours do this. They didn't talk about getting married at all before. And then we got engaged and mysteriously 2 months later he is telling us hes going to propose. He did and then they didn't set a date until they found out our date because they wanted to get married before us....we moved up our date, so they moved up their date...it was just this big stupid battle over who is going to be better....

I can't believe that people actually act this way, marriage should be about when you and your partner is ready, not when everyone else is getting married.

[candyt2009]

On no I would tell her how he is

[PGDesigns]

Oh man.. Thats awful. :(
Theres no way a friend of a friend might drop something, so it doesn't look like your involved? XD Sorry, thought i'd try.. Cheaters are the WORST!!

I wish there was a way for us to find someone to tell her that he has gotten back together with his ex a few times, but other than about four of us care anything about being faithful. The rest of the circle of friends is full of cheaters. They will do anything for their friends, but when it comes to dating, they are horrible.

I don't know for the sure when the last time he cheated on her was, but still... Both of them are surrounded by friends who have either just gotten married or engaged, it's just sad tot hink that he is probably only getting married because everyone else is doing it right now. FH and I talked over the weekend about how someone close to her needs to tell her. I'm afraid that's the only way she'll listen.

[TangoWedding]

guess that is why we have such a high divorce rate in this country. (USA).


My thoughts exactly.

[septemberbride06]

as bad as it sounds alot of people (or couples) do get married simply to "fit in" around their friends.
A few months after me and Joe got engaged his sister and her new bf were engaged (if any one remembers past posts about her then you'll know why that's not a big suprise) BUT what really mad me mad was she called me a few weeks before my wedding anniversary (this past Sept.) and said they were getting married on MY ANNIVERSARY!!! (of course at a court house)
I about flipped a lid..I mean me & Joe had plans to leave town and everything...luckily Joe talked to her and told her it was our special day and we BOTH appreciated her NOT doing it that day...so she changed it to later in the month.
Coem to find out they only got married because she wanted his insurance, and so they would have a bigger tax break (considering she just had his baby and has one form a prev. relationshiip)
anyway, very LONG confusing story but yeah I know what you mean...totally aggravating too when you can;rt really say anything to the other party (meaning his GF about the cheating)