anyone else?

[EarlyBird]

Anyone else have a really unhandy fh/dh? I am so annoyed, i feel like im the only person whose fh doesnt know or care to know how to do ANYTHING around the house- If the toliet is clogged, i do it, there is a leaky pipe, i tighten it. and i feel like he knows he could do it but he doesnt want to try and maybe fine out he isnt as unhandy as he makes everyone believe.
Today sent me over the edge, i was cooking and the garbage disposal stopped working. it turned off and everything- so i called for him, told him it wasnt turning on and hes like oh it just needs a pipe tighten and walks away - i thought he was getting something to fix it but he wasnt!! he was watching tv. then he got mad b/c i "expect" him to do it- when he found out it wasnt a pipe needing tightening he said "i dont know, its not that" and went to watch tv again!!! i asked him what i should do and he said call a plumber so i call my dad and he comes out (hes not a plumber just handy and"everything) and my dad says "it was a plug, it just came unplugged!!" My dad drove out here only to find that out and FH wanted me to call a plumber when he never even checked!!!!!!

Hopefully im not the only one who has an unhandy (which is what i will call it until he proved otherwise) fh/dh, sorry if its a vent, i just dont understand how you can not want to learn how to fix things in a house you own. its not like we rent- if the problem worsens its only OUR problem, no one elses!!

[WebLady]

Well, if that makes you feel better; I have known a few men that didn't even know how to change a tire and didn't know the difference between a flat-head and a phillips head screw ;)

[EarlyBird]

yah he sounds right about there-GRRRRR i think im just going to break some pipes and cause choas before i leave for NY in a month- hell be home aLONE and i bet he will learn if he is left with the giant mess to deal with all on his own :)

[val24]

i hope you dont come home to a very expensive bill.....like him calling the plumber to fix it all while you are gone!

*i know what you mean, my honey does this on certain stuff, he is getting better though*

[twu]

It seems like the most aggravating thing about what your FH did is to be unconcerned and apathetic to a problem that you asked him to help you with. That annoys me WAY more than not being handy around the house, since I don't have expectations on how handy a man should be around the house. I do, however, have expectations about how well he communicates with me (as in, saying "I'm not sure what it is, but I'll get to it right after this show" instead of just going back to the idiot box) and how he responds to my concerns around the house.

[shawnsgirl]

Maybe this may make you feel better..

What is worse than an un handy man is a man that thinks he's a handy man when he isn't even close!!! Think about it a man that has no clue how to fix something, takes it completely apart, tries to put it back together in the end not even coming close to what is wrong and usually can never get the whole thing back together in the first place. Now your problem is worse than it was before...

[ikkin510]

I have the man that thinks he is handy and isn't...LOL. He can do the simple things, but anything bigger and I get worried when he starts working on it. I call my dad (one who can fix just about anything he puts his mind to) and find out what may be wrong and how to fix what Steve breaks. I now have become pretty handy just trying to get things fixed before Steve get's home and find's it broke. I feel like I'm married to Tim "the tool man" Taylor. At least Dh does try to give everything MORE POWER.

[MrsKittyManes]

Don't feel too bad, my FH is a plumber and I still get stuck fixing things on my own. The flapper on our toilet needed to be fixed so he went out bought a new one and then left it sitting in the bag in the middle of the bathroom floor. When I asked if he was going to fix it he said "it's really easy to do, can't you just follow the directions on the package football's coming on in an hour" And he's a PLUMBER! It ended up taking me about 8 minutes to fix it so he would have had plenty of time before his game. GRRRRRRRRRRRR Sometimes I think it's not their inability to do things it's their inability to want to do things thats the problem. Hope your future hubby learns to help with the fixin before you have to start breakin things
:kitty:

[EarlyBird]

yay!! im so glad to hear some people share some of my concerns and problems. Once he tried to a door lock- he shaved the door (thought thats what it needed) and messed the door up so much that we had to BUY A NEW DOOR. Heheh i guess i should count my blessings now that he doesnt do anythng around the house :) i forgot all about that incident.

[septemberbride06]

My hubby is terrible about this sort if thing as well. Although we don't have many things that need fixing inside the house...outside is a totally different story..lol...I actually know more about cars than my hubby does.. ( I dated a mechanic for 3 yrs.)
Another thing that annoys me which may sound like a vent as well (sorry ladies) is that when I get home from working I pick up the house, cook dinner, give my son a bath, read to him, put him to bed, potty train him, etc.
and because he installs cable he can sometimes not get home till late (depends on the night) which means more often than not I have to do all of these things. Well, when he gets home and I've cleaned, cooked, etc. why is it SUCH a big deal for him to take out the trash, or put his shoes where they actually belong???
am I the only person who experiences the lack of helping around the house? :bbidea:

[SerendipityCrafts]

My motto - you marry a man that can do or a man that can pay another man that can do :)

I think I am handy-er than he is but I haven't ever really put him to the test since we have only ever rented. Only time will tell .....

The quickest way to get him to at least try to attempt the job is to call a male friend over to have him take a look at it.

[kevinsbride2B]

This is probably going to get me into trouble wth you ladies but I had no idea hwo handy Kevin was. I thought he just talked a lot but couldn't back it up. Everytime I turn around he's doing something. I said to him last night that his handyness came as a little wedding present to me lol. I really had no idea.
As for the rest of my family.. ha ha ha!!! Not so handy! Duct tape is my grandfathers favorite. He even put the Christmas lights up with it one year. And when in doubt if you can't find the duct tape use hockey tape is his modo!

[SouthernQueenBride]

I can KINDA relate... but my problem is NOT with fixing things - b/c he can do that. But I am sooo sick of having to kill the spiders and cockroaches b/c my big strong man is terrified of a few bugs!

*He would NEVER admit this of course!*

[PGDesigns]

You know that old saying about men not reading directions??? Yeah, that's exactly why I'm the one delegated to put things together. If it's got instructions, I can do it.

However, I am not like Lauren. LOL I'm rarely the one to squish spiders and bugs.

[EarlyBird]

septemberbride- haha yah i was going to include "not helping around the house" in my vent- but i figured i would sound like such a b*tch. FH doesnt help around the house- in fact, he is the only one that makes the messes. but i kind of try to reason with it- if he did do the things i do, it would look terrible, be done wrong, and i would have to redo everything anyway- so lets be grateful when the inept (sp) men dont do those things- :)

Umm lauren- i have to share with you- FH doesnt mind cockroaches, however, he is so fearful of spiders. and yesterday i noticed he had been showering in the guest bathroom when i got home, i forgot to ask him about it- but then today he went to take a shower and i hear "babbbby" and run in and he goes- there is a spider- and i go im not tall enough to get it (its on the ceiling and im 4 foot 9!! he said i cant either- and i said, why your tall enough and he says "no i cant touch them" hhhaa he was cowering in the corner ofthe bathroom , naked, waiting for me to get on a stool and get them hahahah !!!!!!

[EarlyBird]

haha i told fh about this post and he wanted me to tell everyone that he fixed a door yesterday - (by fixed, he means he unscrewed the handle that was misaligned and screwed it back in straight- and please also let me point out, he is the one that put it in wrong the begin with :) )

[kevinsbride2B]

haha i told fh about this post and he wanted me to tell everyone that he fixed a door yesterday - (by fixed, he means he unscrewed the handle that was misaligned and screwed it back in straight- and please also let me point out, he is the one that put it in wrong the begin with :) )
ha ha ha!!!
I sat downstairs the other day while Kevina nd my Grandfather were puttin in our new floor and OMG they never listen. I told them once I told them 16 tiems that the door was too low and they needed to haev it cut in order to fit with the floor. I was told no there was plenty of room. Find whatever. Well guess what???!!!! IT WAS TOO LOW!!!!!!!!! But according to the 2 of them I never said that. I love the male listening. It's liek they have a component in their ear that you can tune to "selective".

[kevinsbride2B]

The quickest way to get him to at least try to attempt the job is to call a male friend over to have him take a look at it.
That is soooooooooo true!!! I begged and begged KEvin to start the basement. He said sure but that never happend. finally I came home from work one night and told him that my boss (who he is so urked by for some reason) was goign to coem by to help me get it started. Kevin literally jumped up and ran down the stairs saying "I can take care of this myself!" Ha ha ha! What actually happend was my boss offered to help and I said no thanks Kevin will have it under control.

[EarlyBird]

hahahaahahaha kevinsbride- thats funny funny funny!!!!!!
Mike would be like "alright, tell him to bring me some chips if he stops by any stores" as long as mike doesnt have to do anything, hes good hahahah

[firespirit]

I have the problem with Ryan being a perfectionist so it takes 10 times longer to get anything done when he's around. That's why I tend to get things done when he's not around, if he doesn't see any mistakes I made, he doesn't know they are there.

Recently he took part of the deck apart and I won't have any part in fixing that, so it's been 2 weeks and it's still not back together, because everything has to be just right to finish it up.