I have so many questions!!

[Shawna]

Sorry ladies, but I will probably drive you all nuts with the amount of questions I have! But here is my big one. We are an inter-faith couple (Jewish/Christian), and we are really trying to incorporate both religions and traditions. My family is Jewish, and there are many traditions for weddings. Yet, everytime I ask his family, they don't have any ideas on what to add in. I really don't want to turn it in to an only Jewish wedding, but I have no feedback on what to add in for his side. Any suggestions would be lovely.
Also, we are having the ceremony and reception at the same location and we really want to avoid a huge gap between the two for us to go and take pictures. So, we were thinking of going against tradition and seeing eachother before the ceremony to take pictures.... Is this a huge mistake? Any ideas on how to still make the first time he sees me special?
Thanks

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[andysgirl07]

Hey Shawna, There's no way you could drive any of us crazy with too many questions!! Some of the answers will help us out too! Now as for incorporating some Jewish traditions into the wedding, I have no idea.

But, we were also thinking about seeing each other before the wedding to save time (our wedding and reception will also be at the same place). I read where some photographers will set up a private moment with you two, take some pics, and then leave for 10 minutes or so and let you two talk and stuff. I had thought about doing that, but I think I've decided to stick with tradition. We'll have pics made of him with all the families and bridal party. And then I'll come in after he leaves and take pics with the families and bridal party. Then there won't be a whole lot of pictures that need to be taken (just me and him together and both of us with the families and bridal party).

Although I don't think it's a mistake at all to see each other before the wedding (unless you're superstitious!) especially if it'll save your guests from waiting for hours!

[Tiggerprincess]

Hey Shawna, There's no way you could drive any of us crazy with too many questions!! Some of the answers will help us out too! Now as for incorporating some Jewish traditions into the wedding, I have no idea.

But, we were also thinking about seeing each other before the wedding to save time (our wedding and reception will also be at the same place). I read where some photographers will set up a private moment with you two, take some pics, and then leave for 10 minutes or so and let you two talk and stuff. I had thought about doing that, but I think I've decided to stick with tradition. We'll have pics made of him with all the families and bridal party. And then I'll come in after he leaves and take pics with the families and bridal party. Then there won't be a whole lot of pictures that need to be taken (just me and him together and both of us with the families and bridal party).

Although I don't think it's a mistake at all to see each other before the wedding (unless you're superstitious!) especially if it'll save your guests from waiting for hours!
I agree........We will not be anoyed by questions.We love em actually...So do NOT worry about askin too many

[courthay]

Shawna,
Have you searched for Jewish Christian wedding ceremony samples? You may want to try that because I know there are quite a few out there. I came across many sample ceremonies when I was searching for interfaith marriage information. Here is a link click here (http://www.abeautifulaffairoftheheart.com/FreeWeddingPackage.html) for a guy who does interfaith weddings. If you fill out the request for information in the link, he will send you a free personalized sample ceremony incorporating both Jewish and Christian traditions. He was very helpful for me, but I am marrying a Muslim man and it has proven difficult to combine both of our religions gracefully so we have opted for a non-religious civil ceremony. But hopefully you will be able to find more information to help your situation. Good Luck! :)

[bnd94]

Welcome to the board Shawna!!:D

Have you checked with his church? I am sure they could offer you some ideas. And there is always the internet.

Here are a few links that may help:

http://www.interfaithfamily.com/site/apps/nl/content2.asp?c=ekLSK5MLIrG&b=297373&ct=323726

http://www.suite101.com/article.cfm/interfaith_relationships/73723

http://love.ivillage.com/lnm/lnmweddings/0,,32l4-8,00.html

[LaceyinPgh]

Hi Shawna, welcome to the boards. You can never ask us too many questions.

As for the pictures. My FH and I are doing pictures with our families and bridal parties BEFORE the wedding then pictures with each other after the wedding. That way we get about half of the pictures done before the wedding and then half after the wedding. Our guests have about a 45 minute drive between venues so it should balance out nicely. My fsil did the same location for her wedding/reception. They just did pictures afterwards while the guests had cocktail hour. Either way it will work out.

It seems like some of the other members helped you out with some useful info on various Christian wedding traditions. So, I won't beat a dead horse there. Good luck incorporating both.