Invitation Etiquette

[usahgrad]

Ok guys, I read somewhere that you aren't supposed to include anything but the invitation, map, and RSVP card in your invitation. How do you let people know where you're registered or how do you let them know about the hotels in the area? Will it be totally improper for me to stick in a little card that says, "The couple is registered at..."? I know that they get that in the bridal shower invites, but not everyone is going to be invited to the bridal shower...

Me, the one who's totally against Miss Manners is asking if something is proper...lol.

[LaceyinPgh]

Well, I never heard about the not putting the hotel info and map cards in an invite. If Miss Manners thinks I am addressing and paying to mail 2 sets of enevelopes. Miss Manners is on crack! I say put that in there and save some time and effort. As for the registry info, I do know that it is considered bad form to put that in with your invites because it looks like you are surfing for gifts. GUests are supposed to either get the info from your family or bridal party or from your shower. I know that my FMIL who considers herself perfect did include the registry info in her daughter's invites. My mother on the other hand said she would break my arm if I even thought about it. I know my mother and let's just say that I enjoy 2 functional arms so that should tell you what won't be in my invites. Besides, 99% of the women at my wedding will be invited to my shower too so no biggie. I say do what you want. You know your guests better than we do. Are they all prim and proper and likely to be offended by a minor break of etiquette. Or, are they more pratical like you and just don't give a ****?

[Tiggerprincess]

Ok guys, I read somewhere that you aren't supposed to include anything but the invitation, map, and RSVP card in your invitation. How do you let people know where you're registered or how do you let them know about the hotels in the area? Will it be totally improper for me to stick in a little card that says, "The couple is registered at..."? I know that they get that in the bridal shower invites, but not everyone is going to be invited to the bridal shower...

Me, the one who's totally against Miss Manners is asking if something is proper...lol.
No that would be ok....since your guests are out of town.....or in your case not invited to the shower..

[LizabethDavis]

With regard to the registry information, I believe that if you are sending out SHOWER invites, you can feel free to put those in there, as the main purpose of a shower is to "shower" you with gifts. However, putting them in the wedding invite is not seen as proper because it will suggest that they need to bring a gift in order to attend. Have your MOH or your mother or whomever spread around where you are registered by mouth.

[WebLady]

Ok guys, I read somewhere that you aren't supposed to include anything but the invitation, map, and RSVP card in your invitation. How do you let people know where you're registered or how do you let them know about the hotels in the area? Will it be totally improper for me to stick in a little card that says, "The couple is registered at..."? I know that they get that in the bridal shower invites, but not everyone is going to be invited to the bridal shower...

Me, the one who's totally against Miss Manners is asking if something is proper...lol.

Well you are right, as far as 'Miss Manners' is concerned at least, but some people still do it and if you decide to I don't think most people would care. The 'right' way is suppose to be word of mouth via family and friends.

I think this is the things you should have on your personal wedding website. You can then put in a little card about the website and people can find out all the other details there ;)

As for a map and/or directions, I think that is ok with 'Miss Manners' ;)

~ WebLady :)

[usahgrad]

So maybe I should put something like...for more information go to: (insert web address here) rather than "we're registered here." That kind of makes sense.

How much do personal wedding websites run? Just curious. I've got my wonderful geocities...that needs a TON of work...

[WebLady]

So maybe I should put something like...for more information go to: (insert web address here) rather than "we're registered here." That kind of makes sense.

How much do personal wedding websites run? Just curious. I've got my wonderful geocities...that needs a TON of work...

Yeah, something like you said works or maybe something like "Check out our wedding website for more about us and the wedding!"

There are many places out there to get a wedding website. The 'good' ones I have seen will run you about $50-$200 for a year. I case you didn't know, this is one of the things I do ;) If you are interested you can check out my website listed in my profile or PM me.

Good luck and Best wishes,

~ WebLady :)

[Jenn060306]

I am putting a map, Hotel information, and pre-addressed and stamped envelope for the RSVP cards in with the invitiation. My mom has jumped on addressing the return envelopes and the back of the invitation envelopes for me. Just running them through the printer so the address is clear.
I don't plan on sending any information about gift registry in wedding invites or shower invites. Mark and i feel like we don't want to ask too much of everyone. Attending a wedding can be expensive. So we hate to ask for too much from our friends and family. We have made sure our family know about where we are registred at. I think that will be good, plus we have ad friends ask us as well.
You should really do what you feel is best for you and your FH.
Good Luck