Shower & Bachelorette on same day?

[sept06bride]

I have a question for anyone who wants to respond. My good friend is getting married and is planning on having her bridal shower and bachelorette party on the same day. Her maid of honor is out of town and is trying to plan everything but the shower is at my house. I think this is too much for one day especially since the shower is at my house and then they want us to all go downtown right after the shower for the bachelorette party. I suggested that we just do the shower at the hotel where all the girls at the bachelorette party will be staying but was shot down. I am so frustrated and don't want to hurt my friend's feelings but come on. To top everything all off there are people who are invited to the shower that aren't invited to the bachelorette party!

[Tiggerprincess]

Ok thats a very confusing situation!!Havein the Pary and the shower on the same day isnt such a bad idea..It kinda of saves time..As for some being invited to the /shower and not to the party is very understandable..I think the aprty should just include your closest girlfriends...It is your last time together as a single

[WhiskeyGirl]

My shower and bacherlorette party were on the same day! It worked out quite well actually. My MOH was from out of town as well so it saved her making two trips! We had the shower early in the afternoon, had dinner with my MOH and mom and a few others, then we went to my other BM's house and had part of the Staguette there and then on to a few bars after that. I didn't worry about people that weren't invited, we kept it on the low/low that it was going to be that evening and everything went according to plan. It's really not that unheard of and if that's the way the bride would like to do it and it makes things easier for the MOH (who has to travel) then why not? I would just suggest for a break between the two so that anyone who is not invited (although this may sound rude) can leave and then you all can do your thing.

[Tiggerprincess]

My shower and bacherlorette party were on the same day! It worked out quite well actually. My MOH was from out of town as well so it saved her making two trips! We had the shower early in the afternoon, had dinner with my MOH and mom and a few others, then we went to my other BM's house and had part of the Staguette there and then on to a few bars after that. I didn't worry about people that weren't invited, we kept it on the low/low that it was going to be that evening and everything went according to plan. It's really not that unheard of and if that's the way the bride would like to do it and it makes things easier for the MOH (who has to travel) then why not? I would just suggest for a break between the two so that anyone who is not invited (although this may sound rude) can leave and then you all can do your thing.
Not rude, just honest... It is a good idea to wait until everyone leaves anf then have a party!!!!!

[usahgrad]

Actually, that's the way that it was supposed to be done when the bachlorette party thing started. Guys got the bachelor party and girls got the bridal shower, but girls wanted to have fun too...so it used to be all one party (to keep it even I guess). I don't think I have ever seen a bachelorette party that wasn't the same day as the bridal shower. I would do like Canada says and plan for a break between so that you, as a host, can get your mind back together (I know how it is to host parties....) and the people who won't be joining for the bachlorette party (so much nicer than saying not invited) can go about doing what they're going to do without feeling like they're being left out of something. Why don't you suggest that the shower be earlier so that you can provide a break in between.

[LaceyinPgh]

It sounds like a busy day. I know that you are worried about getting your house in order after the shower. So my advice would be to recruit the bridal party to help you get things in order BEFORE you all go out. It will only take a few minutes with everyone working together. Candianbride is right, I wouldn't be pushing people out so that I could have my bachlorette party too. Make sure that there is a break so that everyone can leave gracefully and you girls can regroup before your big night out.

[sept06bride]

Thanks for all your responses. I was worried that we wouldn't have a break in between the shower and party. I guess I am just feeling overwhelmed getting my own wedding stuff done and then hosting a shower as well that is at my house but I'm not planning.

It can all be done though and it is only one day. Thanks ladies!;)

[Tiggerprincess]

Thats not a prob..We love it when we can make things easier..Good luck in your upcoming wedding!!!!!
D.D.