To: Brides to be From: The Married ladies

[Goin2thechapel]

I thought this might be fun. Since we have alot of married ladies on here and lots of brides to be, Lets share what real married life is like. No sugar coating ANYTHING. Lets hear the real skinny on what it's like going from a Miss to a Mrs.!!!

Brides to be...Just think of this as our little gift to you :)

[Goin2thechapel]

If you live with your FH prior to getting married you must know that once that wedding band goes on...He will forget where the hamper is! You will find dirty underwear kicked behind the toilet.

[lizardbnorton]

eewww I'm sorry. I hope he's cleaning it up at least.... lol

[Goin2thechapel]

Men pee standing up. That's fine (Although I have found out recently that they can do it sitting too, But it's too much work I guess) You will find urine spots all around the toilet. My advice, Have him clean the toilet. Maybe then he'll see how disgusting it is and his "shaking" ritual will subside.

[Goin2thechapel]

Once married you will forget that you have an oven. Cooking will consist of Mac and cheese and Hamburger Helper for at least the first few months.

You might even try to eat at the dinner table...Until you realize that it's much more fun to eat in front of a TV on TV trays...

[Goin2thechapel]

Once married you realize that you can get pregnant and it will be okay. Don't worry, this feeling never goes away....But the sex does :)

[lizardbnorton]

Thanks for the bathroom information. Robert will be the official bathroom cleaner.

[lizardbnorton]

Once married you realize that you can get pregnant and it will be okay. Don't worry, this feeling never goes away....But the sex does :)


lol that is funny

[Goin2thechapel]

Fantasy football does not go anywhere...Married or not.

[WebLady]

:bblol:

I don't really have any issues with DH, nothing that changed once we got married that is. We have been married for 2 years, but we lived together for like 5 yrs before we got married. So nothing majorly new has happened since we got married.

He does have a habit of leaving dirty clothes on the floor. I will ask him why and he will say "I was gonna wear it one more time"

Sometimes I have to ask him a few times to take out the trash and sometimes he still forgets to. He often leaves hair in the tub drain after his shower and I have to remind him to close the shower curtain.

You can't talk to him if he is busy watching TV, reading or on the computer. But he expects me to listen to him if I am busy with such things.

But he has done these things since we moved in together. I am sure I have a few habits that bug him too. If he says something to me about something, I have some things to say about him so it works out ;)

We still have a pretty good sex life. The frequency only goes down when one or both of us gets busy with work or something.

[SerendipityCrafts]

Dirty dishes rarely make their own way to the sink.

DH still believes in the laundry fairy.

The smell of the litterbox does not seem to offend DH's nose.

DH's stuff, so lovingly placed in one area, for him to put away, never gets noticed (or put away).

You may ask for help but you must be very specific or he won't "get it". Even specific requests need to be repeated several times.

DH suddenly goes deaf while watching the Space Channel.

If it weren't for you, the MRS., DH would forget his own name. :) :)

You, the MRS. must just instinctively know where EVERYTHING is.

[Goin2thechapel]

Hahahaha...Those were really funny!!! Soo true too!! I think we all so far have the laundry issue..LOL!

[SerendipityCrafts]

Forgot an important one ....

You said your I do's .... you got the ring but did you know that it's YOUR job to remember all of DH's relative's birthdays, anniversairies etc. and to get cards or presents bought, wrapped and mailed in time?

As a MRS., YOU are now officially - Keeper of the Calendar!

[StaceyMc]

You'll never be able to find your stuff again. If the Mr. puts something way - you'll never figure out where he put it. And, if you ask him - he'll have no idea.

But, as Elizabeth said, you must know where everything is.

The Mr. will plan an event (such as a yard sale) but never give a thought to such things as change, pricing, advertising. (Can you tell, that's our issue this weekend?)

Mrs. is the Keeper of the Calendar and Maker of Plans once the ring slides on your finger.

[NicksBride]

hehe
he this is funny....

*Phone calls turn from I love you honey, to HONEY go to the grocery store I ran out of (Put favorite lunch meat here)

* Bathrooms are just never the same after you get married, when they shave, put a towel in the sink it gets clogged and somehow they forget how to unclog it...
* Smells start to come from no where, "Honey whats that nasty smell" SMells armpit, oh thats just me:bbeek:
*Converstaions turn from Our to MYYYYY

But there are good things as well
*When you open the door "Hello Hunny" is always there
*You forever have your best friend dirty bathroom or not

[ikkin510]

I love all these tips, and they are all so true! While I did not live with my DH before we were married, I can still agree with most of those.
One thing I did want to add though.
I've seen a lot of married couples who let life get in the way of their marriage. Never be too busy to say I love you or get that kiss. When you have time, cuddle on the couch and go out on little dates. Don't let the romance end now that you are married!

[Goin2thechapel]

"I've seen a lot of married couples who let life get in the way of their marriage. Never be too busy to say I love you or get that kiss. When you have time, cuddle on the couch and go out on little dates. Don't let the romance end now that you are married!"


Also, very important...

Don't just make Fridays and Saturday nights date nights...Be spontaneous! Go out to a movie on a Tuesday night :) Mix it up...Don't get bogged down with "patterns"
Jon and I for a while would only have sex on Friday or Saturday nights...Then I thought about it, Where's the spontaniety in that..That's no fun!!! But you just automatically get into patterns...Don't let patterns set in to you intimate life :)

[ladymelissa]

Y'all married the wrong guys! LOL j/k

I have no such complaints, DH does more than his fair share. He is very tidy, puts stuff where it belongs (we have one or two areas that can get a bit cluttered, but it is picked up when necessary, and I can be just as guilty from time to time).

He is a fabulous organizer, he'll organize and I'll clean. He is in charge of all car/garage related issues and does them on time/immediately.

He cooks.

He either has excellent aim or sits on the toilet b/c I have never found urine on the toilet rim. He puts the seat down, too.

We have a laundry hamper with separate compartments for the different loads. He not only uses it, but even puts the darks with the darks and so on. :) He checks his own pockets and will even put the clothes that require pretreatment in the appropriate location.

Even if he is watching his favorite show, he will immediately shut off the TV, if I need to talk. I don't do that often though.

If I don't like something, he fixes it. Like he just has to grill with these huge grill utensils, the handles are like 2 feet long. Anyway, they don't fit in the dishwasher and when I would grumble about having to wash them and how I can manage to grill with regular forks. He started washing them. :)

He always makes sure I have at least a single, fresh rose. And when it dies, he brings another. He leaves me little love notes and I do the same for him.

We ALWAYS say, "I love you" when parting for the day, when parting for a couple minutes, before we go to sleep at the end of EVERY phone conversation and message, email and so on. We never miss a kiss, no matter how late we are running, we always manage at least a quick kiss, every morning and again in the evenings. We greet each other at the door.

We go out on dates and outings as much as possible. I love my DH and our life together and there is no sugar coating going on here. I could go on and on about his character, but I'd be here typing until the end of time. I truly feel like the most important person and priority in his life. I hope I make him feel just as special, he says that I do. :)

[ger]

Y'all married the wrong guys! LOL j/k

I have no such complaints, DH does more than his fair share. He is very tidy, puts stuff where it belongs (we have one or two areas that can get a bit cluttered, but it is picked up when necessary, and I can be just as guilty from time to time).

He is a fabulous organizer, he'll organize and I'll clean. He is in charge of all car/garage related issues and does them on time/immediately.

He cooks.

He either has excellent aim or sits on the toilet b/c I have never found urine on the toilet rim. He puts the seat down, too.

We have a laundry hamper with separate compartments for the different loads. He not only uses it, but even puts the darks with the darks and so on. :) He checks his own pockets and will even put the clothes that require pretreatment in the appropriate location.

Even if he is watching his favorite show, he will immediately shut off the TV, if I need to talk. I don't do that often though.

If I don't like something, he fixes it. Like he just has to grill with these huge grill utensils, the handles are like 2 feet long. Anyway, they don't fit in the dishwasher and when I would grumble about having to wash them and how I can manage to grill with regular forks. He started washing them. :)

He always makes sure I have at least a single, fresh rose. And when it dies, he brings another. He leaves me little love notes and I do the same for him.

We ALWAYS say, "I love you" when parting for the day, when parting for a couple minutes, before we go to sleep at the end of EVERY phone conversation and message, email and so on. We never miss a kiss, no matter how late we are running, we always manage at least a quick kiss, every morning and again in the evenings. We greet each other at the door.

We go out on dates and outings as much as possible. I love my DH and our life together and there is no sugar coating going on here. I could go on and on about his character, but I'd be here typing until the end of time. I truly feel like the most important person and priority in his life. I hope I make him feel just as special, he says that I do. :)

Wow, Melissa, I'm so happy that I'm not the only one. I was worried as I was reading this that I have the only husband that does these things. I spoil him rotten and he spoils me even worse. It is so nice to have someone that cleans up after himself. Thank you for writing all that.

[SerendipityCrafts]

Oh gosh ... I wasn't dissing DH necessarily rather, I was pulling from all past experiences LOL

DH cooks, does the laundry and doesn't mind cleaning the bathroom. Any minor little quirks that he has, are more than amply overshadowed by his great qualities. I really really lucked out :)

[ger]

I didn't think you guys were dissing your honey's...I was just thinking that mine was extremely rare...or I was using my rose colored glasses!! I think we all know that if they were horrible...not one of you smart ladies would be married to them.

When I was married to my ex...it was no big deal to me that I picked up after him...but I sure don't have to after this one. And he NEVER makes me take out the trash!!:D

[SerendipityCrafts]

but I sure don't have to after this one. And he NEVER makes me take out the trash!!:D

The diff between my first and DH is unbelievable! I could compare all night but it's the little things that get me too. LOL I never have to go to church myself, open any door, pump gas, and I also drive the car!

[ger]

The diff between my first and DH is unbelievable! I could compare all night but it's the little things that get me too. LOL I never have to go to church myself, open any door, pump gas, and I also drive the car!

Too funny. Aren't those little things the best?? DH knows how it used to bug me that I would have to continually tell the ex that the garbage was full...that's why it's so cool that I don't even have to notice anymore!!

[SerendipityCrafts]

it's so cool that I don't even have to notice anymore!!

That's just the thing ... I am getting so that I don't notice either :) vbut I don't want it to ever appear that I take these things for granted!

I forgot another nice thing .... on weekdays he always makes the coffee and brings me my first cup of the day. Oh and he always offers to get me something if he's getting something himself ... ie a drink, or a snack. I am getting so soft for not having to do much for myself. We need to start another thread .... the little things he does for me. I'll post it now. LOL

[flyerso6]

We arent even married yet (have lived together for a year and half) and he thinks the bathroom floor is a clothes hamper, or the bedroom floor!! He will cut the grass (i refuse to), and do the dishes occasionally. He will do laundry only when he needs clothes. He does not pee on the toliet and I hope he never does.

The one thing he does do is pick up and put away the dog toys all the time, I always ask him why because they just drag them all back out within 5 min lol.

[WebLady]

The one thing he does do is pick up and put away the dog toys all the time, I always ask him why because they just drag them all back out within 5 min lol.
This happens at our place too ;)

[StaceyMc]

Well, now I'm sitting here feeling guilty that I even made a joke about my husband.

He does dishes and laundry. We go out and do things together. We never leave each other without a kiss, a hug and an "I Love You", never hang up the phone with out an "I love you" and never go to bed without at least a kiss, a hug and an "I love you." He picks up after himself, usually.

But I'm still searching for the dish sponges I bought last Sunday - he emptied the WallyWorld bags when we got home - those sponges are no where to be found and he has no idea where he put them.

So, you ladies don't have the market cornered on good guys :) I have one too. hahahahaha

[Doglover]

Nothing changed since getting married. We have been together for 4 years and lived together for 2. Been married for almost 5 months. So i knew how it would feel living with a guy before we got married. But DH never puts the toliet seat down, it's getting rediculious!! He always leaves his clothes everywhere. Yet he cleans ALOT! I honestly feel like i love him and feel more attracted to him since being married. We seriously fight less since being married. He gets so zoned to the TV. I will say something like 3 times and he will just be starring at the TV. He says his mom does that too.

[shawnsgirl]

Shawn and I lived together prior to getting married so when it comes to chores and house work we always try to do them together and have fun while doing them..We work together on house work which makes it more fun and enjoyable..I already know that both of us definately have our little quirks when it comes to things but after two years of them we're both really very aware and accepting of them. I think of them as sweating the small stuff and his quirks don't bother me at all really anymore. They did at first and it was a big adjustment for both of us!

I'm the one that usually has to remember the calender of birthdays and anniversaries along with taking care of making sure the bills are paid I have mine quirks too oh do I ever!! I'm the one that will get the kids cereal in the morning and forget to put the box of cereal away and my wonderful husband will come and put it away for me without breathing a word. Shawn is the one to think things out more while I'm the one who will just go and do..

Shawn's organization is decent put he more or less puts places things whether they belong there or not..I quietly move them later on if I need to! I know I have my downfalls to when it comes to housework and things like that so I can definately deal with his and not mention it to him because he does it for me. Although I spend the majority of my time cleaning up after the kids and not DH.

Some of my favorite things to do with DH is to do housework together we have a great time cleaning!! We definately find ways to make it fun..

One thing Shawn and I really work at is keeping the fun and romance in our relationship, and with kids it's hard to be spontaneous at times ecspecially when it comes to sex. So instead of say hunny right here and now its crawling into bed and saying to him tonight is your night tell me what you would like..We switch off and on and sometimes its just cuddling and other times we're naughty..It makes up for not being able to go all over the house whenever the urge strikes us..lol We try really hard to be spontaneous but when you run the risk of little footsteps making their way down stairs or even into our bedroom we have to be extra careful!! LOL! Don't want one of the mommy what are you doing instances???!!!! LMAO!! We make sure everynight after the kids go to bed we turn off the TV and just talk and cuddle. That is our special time together and if we have something important to discuss we make sure we do it while cuddling and if the conversation gets a little heated we cuddle still and it makes us both really talk and be affectionate at the same time...We always kiss goodnight and good bye and we tell eachother all the time how much we love eachother. We really do what we can not to take eachother for granted and to take the time to make eachother feel special by little notes, phone calls during the day, and we even mail eachother letters too even though we live together...If I get my hair cut DH makes sure he notices and says something and I do the same. When he's dressed up I make sure to tell him how handsome he looks and he does likewise for me. Its all about making sure we take the time to let eachother know how special we are to one another!!!

[ger]

Well, now I'm sitting here feeling guilty that I even made a joke about my husband.

Don't feel guilty. We know we have sweet guys, or we wouldn't be married to them. Sometimes we have to have a giggle...or we go nuts.

Actually, this is too funny. On the very same afternoon that I wrote what a sweetie he is, I get home and find clothes on the bedroom floor. Now, in the 2 years we lived together before we got married, I NEVER once came home to clothes on the floor. I had to laugh. I told him he was getting WAY too comfortable in our lives if he thinks he can leave clothes on the floor!!:notsure: :notsure:

[shawnsgirl]

Don't feel guilty. We know we have sweet guys, or we wouldn't be married to them. Sometimes we have to have a giggle...or we go nuts.

Actually, this is too funny. On the very same afternoon that I wrote what a sweetie he is, I get home and find clothes on the bedroom floor. Now, in the 2 years we lived together before we got married, I NEVER once came home to clothes on the floor. I had to laugh. I told him he was getting WAY too comfortable in our lives if he thinks he can leave clothes on the floor!!:notsure: :notsure:

That's the thing about marriage though.. Even though our men do these things we love them for it..I love shawns flaws as much as I love strengths...If I didn't have to remind him about things, pick up after him, or if he did everything perfectly it would make marriage all so boring..You gotta drive eachother crazy both in a good way and in not such a good way!! Otherwise marriage would be dull if we were all perfect!!

[Danielle9608]

Fantasy football does not go anywhere...Married or not.

LOL... I am not married yet but I can relate to this one :geek:

[Elly_N_Joe]

SOCKS SOCKS SOCKS SOCK.....:hothead:

[SerendipityCrafts]

SOCKS SOCKS SOCKS SOCK.....:hothead:

hahahaha

My ex used to always leave his skivies lying around and one day I got so ticked off that I wet them all, put them all in a giant heavy duty ziplock bag and put them in the freezer.

When he ran out of clean underwear he asked me where they were so I told him - in the freezer. He said, what are they doing in the freezer? They don't belong there!

I just smiled and said, no they don't but I figured that it was just as good a place as any. They don't belong on the bathroom floor, the living room floor or the bedroom floor either.

Funny, he always managed to put them in the clothes hamper after that.

[NicksBride]

hahahaha

My ex used to always leave his skivies lying around and one day I got so ticked off that I wet them all, put them all in a giant heavy duty ziplock bag and put them in the freezer.

When he ran out of clean underwear he asked me where they were so I told him - in the freezer. He said, what are they doing in the freezer? They don't belong there!

I just smiled and said, no they don't but I figured that it was just as good a place as any. They don't belong on the bathroom floor, the living room floor or the bedroom floor either.

Funny, he always managed to put them in the clothes hamper after that.
ahhh hahaha I have GOT to try this. DH thinks skivies (ha) belong in the bathroom on the FLOOR. I love wrestling them out of the dogs mouths. Since I married DH my dogs have become quite the experts on underwear tastes. hahaha

[Bradsgirl]

Yes...it seems all dogs like underwear....SICK!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!:notsure:

I love the one about being a calendar....we're not married but I am one of these for sure!!!!!!:whoohoo:

[Goin2thechapel]

LOL... I am not married yet but I can relate to this one :geek:


hehehe...SOoo many of our friends are married or engeged...We go shopping while the hubbies watch the games or whatever they do. LOL

[tinkerjew]

He always makes sure I have at least a single, fresh rose. And when it dies, he brings another. He leaves me little love notes and I do the same for him.


*gasp* You lucky woman, you! I wish FH would do this for me, LOL! But he still buys me flowers from time to time. :whoohoo:

I am just cracking up inside reading all this; it's all funny 'cause I know it's gonna be all true!

[hummingbird521]

gonna add to it here but want to say that while jerry might have several irritating habits and ways of doing things he also has many many more good ones that make up for it. lol.

DH thinks the "organizer fairy" is real. whenever he is done with something he just lays it down. that way he says he can find it next time. lol.

DH leaves everything in his pockets when he throws it in the hamper, floor or wherever he is at the time.

DH started out with a small basket on his nightstand for all the little things he keeps around it. now it is a giant laundry basket full of stuff.

DH apparantly lost all sense of smell when we said I Do. not just for the little box but for things like "gee honey you smell good".

DH lost his sense of hearing as well. If nascar is on, he hears nothing but the sounds of cars.

Sometimes but not all times, DH's vocabulary has been reduced to grunts, and one word responses. such as: uhhuh, right, ok, understand, really, and the list goes on.

once married he forgot how to: pick up after himself is the main thing that burns my behind.

[katieandalex]

A few comments on a few of the other posts.

1) Yeah, if you can get your DH to clean the toilet, you're doing good.
2) And I totally agree with the mac & cheese and hamburger helper comment....yet ours is still continuing a year later! LOL!

My comments.....his selective hearing to select not to hear you gets MUCH worse! LOL!

Other than that, nothing has really changed for us, we lived together for 3 years before we got married....so we were used to each others quirks....but I think after you get married, everything your DH does that you hate just gets amplified! LOL!

[neeni13]

I didn't live w/ my hubby before we got married but I did notice what habits i could live with and what I couldn't, I tried to change before we did. You know the little things. I noticed that the cap for the toothpaste was never on it so I started bringing over my own.( i brush after every meal ) Since i could't convince him to recap , I pay a little more for flip caps on everything.:frogg: