Gift Registry Question

[LVBride2Be]

When should I send the gift registry card thingy out. I know with the invitation it's bad etiquette, so how about sending them with the Save the dates?

[StaceyMc]

If you're having a bridal shower or bridal luncheon, I'd include them with those invites.

[LVBride2Be]

I don't know if I'm having one because mostly everyone is out of state.

[bichonlvr]

Do you have a website? You could put the registry on the website and include that in the STD....

[LVBride2Be]

Half the people that are coming don't even have a computer. lol :(

[samantha01]

I don't know if I would put them with the save the dates or not. I'm not very knowledgable when it comes to etiquette, but I think I might send them out by them selves or with the invites.

[LVBride2Be]

I'm not sure either. lol I don't care if people get us gifts, but there have been a few ppl that has asked us where we have registered. The gift registry card has a coupon that says save like 20% on a purchase if used before Jan. 1st, so I thought if I did send them out with the STD's and they do decide to get us something then they could at least have the coupon......

[KMS]

Most people think that it's just terrible etiquette to send out the cards with anything other than the shower invitations since you are not technically the one who is sending them out. It's the shower hostess. If you're not having a shower, I suggest that you include that info on your website and just spread it through word of mouth for the other people who don't do the computer thing. That's what I'm going to do because I don't want to possibly offend anybody even though that type of thing wouldn't offend me.

[WebLady]

Like Keely said, it is pretty much considered wrong to put gift info in anywhere but shower invites. But some people do put in registry cards in the wedding invites, I wouldn't though. I would also not put such a thing in the STD's.

It is really up to you what you think and how you think your family and friends would handle it. But I would just try to spread the word via word of mouth and/or the shower invites; and post it on your wedding website.

People that are going to come to the wedding and/or be interested in getting you a gift will likely be talking to your friends and family and will usually ask them if you guys are registered somewhere.

ETA - By the way; LVBride2Be I love the new avatar pic ... does FH have a mohawk? How cool is that http://4theloveofsighthounds.com/board/images/smiles/banger.gif

[LVBride2Be]

I have decided to put the registry card in with the save the date only because it seems easiest.

And yes, FH has a mohawk...lol as soon as he got out of the military he got it! lol It took some getting used to....but it's not that bad lol

[frenchie]

If presenting the actual card gets your guests 20% off, even though sending them with the STDs is a breach of etiquette, I don't think you'll find many to complain. At least I wouldn't lol

[DaisyBride08]

I put ours with the STD's. We aren't having a shower so I didn't have much of a choice, and I didn't want to include them with the real invitations. I also put them on our web site.

[LVBride2Be]

Yeah I don't think I'm having a shower either...since everyone that is coming and is apart of the wedding is outta state..but you never know. But just in case I put them in with the STD's and on our website. :)

[SouthernQueenBride]

Oh Dear... I honestly am NOT trying to offend or be rude... but if you have not sent them out with your STD's already, I would advise you not to. Only b/c your Save the Date should be seen as an informal wedding invite. Some might loose sight of the real reason for the STD card. Instead of, "Oh look! They set a date and are getting married!!!" It could be seen as, "Oh Look, they are getting married and want us to buy them a gift from _____".

If you are not having any showers - then list your registries on pass it along thru word of mouth. People are gonna buy you gifts regardless or (the best part - GIVE YOU MONEY!!!) But some (possibly not all) will take it as being rude.

I hope I did not offend you! This is just my opinion!:D

[LVBride2Be]

I am sending them with the STD's only because it's the easiest thing to do in regards to this. When we first got engaged I made an engagement announcement telling everyone that we were engaged...since then we've talked to nearly everyone in regards to the date and they say send them the card for the gift registery. lol